Should I just spill the beans? Super Long Click Poll

PinkGirlInCali

So I told DH from the beginning I didn't want to tell anyone (except my sister and best friend who is a l&d nurse) when we got our BFP until after 1st tri. He agreed but that fell out the window. The moment the second line came up he wanted to tell our parents that same day. So we did. Then he wanted to tell his best friend because he wanted to have a guy to talk to about it. So he did. Then my mom pressured me into telling my grandmother, so I did. And of course since we told my grandmother we had to tell both of his.

Then it seemed kind of mean that my mom knew, my grandmother knew and my sister knew but my aunt,my mothers only sibling didn't know. (The five of us are super close) so I told her, shes about 8 weeks preggers herself. She of course told her husband also.

I finally just told one of my coworkers because the morning sickness is getting worse and the two of us have a lot of assignments coming up together in the next few weeks so I wanted to let her know I might get "weird." 

ALL of these people have been asked not to tell anyone, but its pretty ridiculous now. Should I just tell the whole freaking world already? I'm so nervous though, God forbid something happens but if it does I don't want my 200+ freaking co-workers and entire family to be all in my business and "feeling sorry" for me.

 

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stillwaiting12

I voted special snowflake because obviously there are reasons you didn't want to spill the beans and I know, I am in your shoes too.. I want to tell EVERYONE, but I'm refraining. I have told our families and close friends but I am not going to mass announce it on facebook or at work, other than my bosses until I am close to the second trimester.

janneann1127

I have the same issue, btw. I agree with pp.

canthardlywait426

I vote no. God forbid something happens- everyone you told you will have to tell that you m/c. It gets harder and harder with every person you have to untell. Maybe wait until after your 8/10 week appt at least?

MrsTechie

As long as you know that the possibility for untelling remains, I think you should tell people on a need-to-know basis.

I wouldn't be posting it on facebook or sending out a company wide email, but if you feel like you need to tell someone, then tell them.

My vote was SS, by the way.

PinkGirlInCali

Thanks Ladies, I think I was just feeling a bit frustrated. I actually spoke to my mom today and told her I was a little upset by all the pressure she is putting on me teo spread the news. This will be her first grandchild and she is beyone excited but she said she understands because after she had me, she had 2 miscarriages before having my little sister and she understands the awkwardness when "untelling people."

DH on the other hand still doesn't get what where I'm coming from exactly, but he respects it and says he will keep his mouth shut.

lrn327

I'm glad they're supporting you even if it isn't totally what they want.  Good mom and good husband! :-)