boo boo's and attitudes, and ped doesn't want me to..

janjag

pick them up right away.  i know he's right, but it is HARD.  i am training myself not to get that, "oh, no!" face when someone hits their head.  some day's, esp when they're not feeling well (little colds or teething) there are alot of boo boo's and attitudes.

how long do you wait to pick up?  i'm trying this count to 10 slowly in my head thing. 

BelleBaby

I'm trying really hard not to pick them up unless they really are hurt.  Sometimes it's hard, but I don't want them thinking every little bump warrants a trip to mom's lap!  They spend enough time there as it is! 

kimarino13

OMG, yesterday we got our first real tears after the shots.  I handled it well, but then a few hours later they got SO upset.  I think they were in pain because the crying was something I have never heard from them before.  It's like it was coming all the way from their toes.  I rocked and rocked them.  I am in trouble when they're old enough to get boo boos. 

pea-kay

it's so hard, even now not to gasp and run to them and scoop them up. but i try to resist, so as not to create even more dramatic boys than i already have.

SoldiersGreenBean

With DD, we can generally tell whether she's really hurt or just looking for our reaction.

We teach her to "brush it off."  DH is also teaching her to say "Safe!" like a baseball ump.  That makes her laugh.

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I've always picked DS1 up if he gets even a little hurt.  Sometimes I think they need to be babied (plus with the twins, I try to really make a fuss over him so that he doesn't ever feel replaced).  I don't think it's made him a wimp or anything, DH accidentally bopped him in the head with a car seat (DS1 got a tad in the way when DH was trying to load the babies up) and he didn't cry or anything, he was just trying to figure out what happened. 

jalaiaa

kimarino13:

OMG, yesterday we got our first real tears after the shots.  I handled it well, but then a few hours later they got SO upset.  I think they were in pain because the crying was something I have never heard from them before.  It's like it was coming all the way from their toes.  I rocked and rocked them.  I am in trouble when they're old enough to get boo boos. 

My boys did the same thing. They both screamed bloody murder and I could just tell they were in so much pain after their shots. It was awful. When they are older, though, I think I'll be good at the "brush it off thing" unless they look like they are actually hurting. Then I'll be a cuddler for sure.  

HisLobster

When I noticed that in that split second between them falling and them crying they would look to me or DH to see if we were watching, I started just picking them up if I thought they were actually hurt or won't stop crying. Now when they look at me in that split second I say "You're ok," and they just move on.

groovygrl

My husband's family does the 'safe' thing which is sort of funny but since babies/kids don't really get it, I am not a big fan. I say 'oops!' or 'you're ok!' with a big smile & laugh when I can tell it is minor (mine are only 8 months so it is usually if they are sitting & fall over and conk their head on the carpet or something, but if i can tell they hit really hard, I will pick up & kiss and then put back down & distract with a toy, that usually stops the crying. even at this young age, I can tell they will get startled & then look at me to see my reaction before the crying starts, for the most part. 

courtneyaok

For boo boos, I wait until they actually start to cry.  Miraculously, about 90% of the time they just continue doing what they were doing without giving it much pause.

For attitude, I ignore it.  I don't want to feed into it and encourage them to use it as a way to get what they want.  If it gets bad, then I know it's naptime.

KellyD01

If DS wants to be held he gets held... not sure how i'll continue to accomplish  that when the twins are here...but I've got a big lap, I'm sure I'll manage. Personally I don't take parenting advice from the peds... I go there for them to help my DS feel better, not tell me how to parent!