So last night I went to dinner with a friend. One who's been trying to give me TTC advice but she conceived her son on the first try and her daughter was an accident so she really doesn't know what it's like to "try" for a baby. I told her how I was going to lunch today with my preg friend and it was going to be hard b/c she is 30 wks and I will look at her belly and be sad b/c I should be almost 20 wks. She said yeah, I feel that way when I see preg people and I want to have another baby.
WTF?
I am not saying anything negative about people that already have kids, but looking at pregnant belly and wanting more kids and looking at a preg belly and being sad for the baby you lost are two TOTALLY MOTHER EFFING DIFFERENT THINGS, RIGHT?? Am I wrong for being upset by this?
Anyway, I love DH b/c he said, "Yeah, she totally doesn't get it. She will never have to tell her kids they could've have a brother/sister but they died." I was just surprised by that. Sometimes I forget that DH has experienced the loss with me.
Re: So I love my DH (stupid FH friend mentioned)
She sounds like a dumba$$
LOL - seriously though how can someone think that this is the same thing? She really doesn't get it which is just too bad. I don't think that you should have to go though a m/c to understand that the two things that you are feeling are most certainly NOT THE SAME!
Sorry you had to deal with this stupidity.
Totally not the same! Some people just don't get it.
Wow. I cannot believe she said that. Either she is really insensitive or really dumb.
I vote for both.
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
That girl is an idiot. It is two totally different things. She was probably trying to find a way to sympathize with you but she totally failed at that.
THIS! I second that.