Can I vent about baby names for a minute?
Cow-girl
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I am ready to choke my DH about naming our baby girl... He has been giving me trouble since we found out we were having a girl. Its not like he doesnt like the name, or has a better idea. He just thinks that "we have time" and that we should wait until she is born.. WTF?!
He is making me absolutely crazy! Then he said he wanted a list of names, so I gave him a list, including Isabella Faith. His input? NOTHING! He had nothing to say about any of them. He said Isabella is a nice name but when I asked him to commit he just keeps saying "it is too early"...
For me to bond with her, I NEED to name her. After all I have been through naming her is a big thing to me and I feel like it is something I need to do so I can bond with her. He just thinks Im crazy...
I am beginning to think he is just doing it to be a PITA, because he knows it aggravates me (yes sometimes he acts like a 2 yo).. I just dont know what to do.. I really want to start calling her by name. My 13 yo is already calling her "Bella" when she talks to her.
Do you girls think Im crazy or do you think Im right in being aggravated? I just feel like naming her is the next important step for me. If it were up to him we would wait til we were in the Delivery Room to name her.. 
And that is not going to fly with me...
Re: Can I vent about baby names for a minute?
could it be that just like you feel you need the name to "bond" with the baby, he needs to NOT name the baby as a way of keeping himself protected in case something happens?
This is what I thought when I read your post, he is probably just scared....
This would drive me crazy too. I like to plan ahead so I totally know where you are coming from.
But, to be honest, it sounds like maybe he just isn't crazy about the name and doesn't want to say it (just a guess). Do you think he would be game for making his own list if you agree to give it a fair shot? It seems like you have your heart set on Isabella Faith and maybe he is acting like this as a way of pouting about not feeling like he got a say in the name.
I could be totally off base here, but this is exactly what I'd expect my DH to do if I picked out a name he didn't like.
ETA: I also agree with the pps - maybe it's just him being scared to bond. (((hugs))) to your DH.
At first I thought this may have been the case.. But I asked him about it and he just thinks that there is time.. He gave me issues with naming our now 5 yo too.. I think he is just old school in thinking that we dont need to name her yet
He says he likes the name... And he loves the meaning. I dont really think this is the issue...
My DH is the big mouth in this family........
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
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I dont think you need to have her "name" to bond with her you can actually call her a nickname if that will make you bond with her...I actually agree with your DH and I feel that it is up to both of you to choose a name because he is a part of her the same as you.. so if you know that he had issues with your 5yo about this you should have been more prepared this time around...
me and DH has picked our LO middle name but we will not commit to a first name until we see her and we actually has not told anyone our choices of first names..wew picked several and we will go from there when she is here...
I can understand being frustrated, but it isn't the end of the world to pick out a few ideas and then wait until delivery. Have you explained to him why you want to name her right now? Could you compromise by picking out a name to call her this week, see if it fits and then try another name next week? (We had our heart set on Hannah for DD and we named her that, called her that for a week and then realized that it just didn't feel right... so we changed her name about a month before she was born.)
With DS, we liked the same name and couldn't decide on one (we didn't disagree, we just didn't know which one felt right) and we didn't decide on a name until DS was about 20 minutes old. DH just looked at me and said, "He looks like an Andrew Reagan, what do you think?" That was the name I was hoping for, so I started crying and said, "That is perfect!"
We aren't having this problem. We had her name picked out before she was conceived. But I could see my DH doing this if we didn't have a name picked out. As I would prefer to keep the peace and allow him to feel comfortable with the name & when we give it to her, I would probably just start calling her a nickname that I liked, and let him know that.
I know you're frustrated and for you, naming equals bonding. Try to bond with her anyway, and hopefully your DH will come around soon.