I would love to be a SAHM but right now DH doesn't think we can afford it. I think we could, but things would be really tight. I'd probably have to find a part-time job, but we could do it. We might have to find out soon because there's a good chance I'll be getting laid off.
Did anyone get "forced" into being a SAHM? (I hate to say forced because it makes it sound like a bad thing but I can't think of a better word.) How did you make the necessary financial adjustments? Did you have to move to a more affordable place?
Re: Did anyone "fall" into being a SAHM unplanned?
our plan has always been 2 kids and i could stay home-however i would say i was forced early because my position was eliminated at the end of october so i have stayed home since then. bonus is i have been collecting unemployment-which is nice. but yep we made the switch earlier than anticipated.
since i am home more-we don't eat out or order out nearly as much--i like to cook and experiment. we still do daycare, but only 2 days per week and that will only be until the end of May. i don't drive nearly as much-gas savings. so it all adds up little by little. we also lucked out that maternity leave etc fell during tax return time so we got a huge boost with our return which is nice.
haven't had to move. it is all about being more conscious of the budget and where the money goes. like no more daily trips to walmart but rather a weekly what do we really need.
Have you tried living off of just your husband's salary and saving yours in an account you do not use for bills just to see the impact it would have on your lifestyle.
Also start by making a spreadsheet and keep track of every, and I mean every, penny spent. You can use an excel spreadsheet. This will give the both of you a clear visual of where your biggest expenses are and where you could make cuts(house phones, cell phones, cable, internet). Downgrading all these plans will save you money. Also call your car insurance and find out how much of a savings you will get if you change your driving status to "recreational". When a car is not used to go to and from work then it is considered "recreational" so if you became a sahm you would fall into that category.
yea, I was laid off in november, though we kinda knew it was coming so we saved up a lot in saving. Now we live off of DH salary and I do get unemployment.
we did a lot to adjust out bills, like lowering our interest rate on cars and paying off all the little things. we also cut our extra things like HBO and gym member ship. It really added up and we saved alot of money in the end.
I suggest you put away at lest 3/4ths of your checks into savings, this will give you a fall back and let you see if you can afford to stay home.
GL!
I guess you could say I just fell into it. I had made arrangements with my job to work part-time from home, but after my maternity leave was over, I was told that it wouldn't work out and I would have to come to the office. DH and I decided it wasn't worth it since my commute was 50 miles each way, so we opted for me to stay at home. We had talked about it while I was pregnant, but never really thought we could afford it. But with a little budgeting, it worked out great. I was no longer spending all that money in gas commuting to and from work, we lowered our cable bill, cancelled memberships to things we didn't really need or use, and we started budgeting our groceries and eating out, which was probably our biggest savings. When I went over our bill for groceries and eating out, it averaged about $700 per month! With couponing and sales shopping, we now spend $300 per month on groceries, diapers, and household products. We only eat out maybe once per week, so about $60 per month. We also realized how much money we wasted on alot of things. Once you realize that you HAVE to budget, you realize how much money you were really throwing out the window.
I got laid off 2 months before DS was born. I think it was the biggest blessing ever. DS was the worst sleeper for the 1st year and I don't know how I would have functioned.
We live pretty basically with no cable or gym membership. We budget to go out to dinner once a month. We have our cars paid off and our only other loans are the morgage and our student loans.
God bless you! Seriously, even though it worked out best for your family- it is SO kind of you to think of the other women you worked with.
I was kind of forced into it. I'd always wanted to be a SAHM but didn't think we could afford it. When I was 4 mos pg with my first, I lost my job. I was offered another job (at a lower pay) but since I'd be going on maternity leave in less than 6 mos, I didn't think it was fair to the employer so after talking to my DH about it, we decided to give it a try and see how it'd work with me being a SAHM. The rest is history.
As for the financial adjustments, the biggest thing was stop eating out. That alone saved us hundreds a month. We started small. Wrote down things that were a luxury and slowly eliminated one thing at a time to kind of help us ease into a different lifestyle.
Dh is military and a few weeks after giving birth we had to move over 1000 miles away from my job. I havent looked for one yet and most likely dont plan on it at least anytime soon