I don't know if its about my mom, or my sister who is a g-d ***, or about my moms doctors.
So you all know my mom is not fit to take care of herself. But yet she lives alone in senior housing. She has a home health aid who comes 2x a week. She also has a therapist who comes to her home 1x a week. And an army of doctors.
My mom tells me this weekend that she has been having trouble urinating for about 4 weeks now and hasn't told anyone because she had hoped that it meant her kidneys were shutting down and she was afraid that a doctor would just put her on dialysis. So I am frustrated that she would 1) not tell anyone and 2) that if a doctor wanted to do something she was not comfortable with, she would just let them prescribe whatever treatment, medication, surgery, whatever without voicing any concerns, much less get a second opinion. And I tell my sister who takes her to her doctors appts about it and she whines that "oh great, so that's another appt I have to get her in for."
Then she told me that two weeks ago, she told her therapist that she'd spent the entire weekend trying to work up the courage to take all her pills. Did the therapist call a psychiatrist? No. Recommend hopsitalization? No. Inform any of my mothers children? No. What did she do? She called out last Monday, instead of following up with a woman who a week ago admitted to being suicidal. She is due to see my mom today at 3. She better show.
So I tell my sister about that, and to PLEASE get my mother to a psychiatrist and she bemoans the fact that "oh here we go again with another suicide threat that she doesn't mean. I have to worry about her, etc, etc."
I don't know what to do. I don't want to step on toes and call my moms doctors. I don't know if I should bring my mom down here to live with me, but I don't think I can do that given the fact that I am about to have a second baby and also she would drive me friggen bonkers. Plus changing all her doctors, health care, etc would be a complete undertaking. And not to mention I don't even think she'd WANT to come down here.
So what do I do? Vent I guess. Its all I can do. Bless you if you've made it this far.