SO my MIL lives out of state and only comes home once a year (sometimes not even that!) so most of time she is ok. She thought she would fly in for my shower for my Hubby's family (she and my hubby's dad are divorced - have been for like 15-20 years). But she is worried that her x's family will be there and she doesn't like them. Her family is really small (she has one brother and 3 nieces/nephews). At first I was blown away that she would fly in for it, but she keeps complaining to my hubby's cousins that one of them should throw a shower with just them. I think she's being silly, you only have to see them for a couple of hours and they're all very nice. GROW UP & be an adult! Ugh I'm so glad she is far away!
SO here's my question, do I ask my hubby's cousin to throw a small shower (it will be like 10 people tops) to make my MIL happy? Or do I let them handle it, and if cousin offers I agree?
Re: Crazy MIL! WWYD?
Agreed with everyone else. This lady should not be catered to. I'd explain to her that she is invited to the shower, that you are not going to have another shower with the cousins, and heck, I would even call the cousin myself and give them the heads up so that MIL doesn't pressure the cousin into it and then feel trapped. I'd call cousin, warn about MIL's request, let cousin know that MIL can either come to the hubby-family-shower or not, but that you don't need another shower.
Seriously. MIL needs to either deal with the rest of the family or choose to be excluded. She can't create new events just because she doesn't want to play nice with everyone else.
Sorry you have to deal with this, and good luck.
agreed