Sympathy b!tchies?

triumphantreturnofplanningbug

I don't know what else to call what DH is experiencing, but...it's driving me freaking nuts.

He's usually quite levelheaded to my hot temper, very thoughtful and slow to anger to my impulsive caprice.

Today he's huffed and flopped down on the couch after doing yesterday's dishes (seriously, think 15 year old girl huffing and flopping and eye rolling) because "it's just going to be a hell of a week," looked at the preggie pop stick that I had wrapped up in a piece of scrap paper because I didn't feel like it was necessary to discard the stick the moment I finished it and said "just disgusting," and then gotten pissed when I told him that if he would tell me what he needs I'd be willing to try to revamp my ways of being so that I'm less irritating to him. Since when is the pregnant woman the rational one in a relationship?

I know he's stressed. I'm being VERY good about not telling him that I freaking told him two months ago that the schedule he set out for himself over this week and last is ridiculously busy--to me, any slightly rational creature can see that taking normal teaching duties and adding his brother being here for six days, hosting two department events, giving a paper, responding to a film release, and taking the Prius in for recall work, is just going to leave even the most energetic extrovert wiped out at best.

So does the wise woman call this moodiness he's brought on himself and lock herself in the craft room? Pass it off to him being freaked out about the massive uncertainty in our lives? Understand it as a combination of the two? Or tell him to go punch a pillow until he feels like he has control over something and stop taking out his frustration with the world on me?

felt_tip_pen

I'd say combo.

Combos are good.

Ugh, sorry you are dealing with PHS (pissy husband syndrome). :P

melsie

i'd say he's just over loaded. i would try to make things a little low maintenance around the house (what you CAN control) for a few days and see if that doesn't help. he's just taking out his frustrations on you since he doesn't have another outlet.

i'd give him some personal time (if he has space in his schedule) for a walk or whatever hobby usually clears his mind and calms him down. and try to be sympathetic to his needs/feelings right now. 

on the other hand, this is what i do for my usually loving and mild mannered husband because he would do the same for me (and has many times over) 

if you don't think this is the kind of treatment he would reciprocate or you just rolled your eyes at my recommendations then tell him to put on his big girl panties, take a walk and punch a pillow and  stop taking out his frustrations on you.

::hugs:: 

GladToBeMrs.SRS

I most certainly think that his present disposition is a result of the entire combination of events and frustrations in his life right now. 

In my not-frustrated-with-my-husband-at-the-moment opinion, I think you should give him a pillow for punching, a box of TastyKakes for nomming, a hug for renewing, and some space (hide in your craft room) for refreshing.  

 

((hugs))