LO's father has custody of his 9 year old daughter. Her mother is never allowed to see her again. Her mother was smothering her to get her to go to sleep. Part of the story is here http://news14.com/charlotte-news-104-content/top_stories/?ArID=6606 They later ruled her 8 1/2 month old son's death in 1996 was a homicide, but she couldn't be charged because they has no evidence proving she did it.
I've searched everywhere online and can not find one source that says my ex was questioned by police. I can't help but wonder why? They were married, lived together, and he didn't work at night. From what he described his ex wife tried to smother their child multiple times. How could he have not known? That question keeps me up every single night. How could he have not walked in on her doing it. Maybe he had done it a time or two.
I'm so afraid that he was in on it and that he may do it to LO. I don't understand why the police never questioned him. Ex told me that he didn't find out that they caught her until a bunch of news reporters showed up at his door. That would give him enough time to come up with a story as to why he didn't know she was doing it, while he drove back to the hospital. Watching him with his daughter is SCARY! He can't stand to hear her cry. It's so weird. He will not tell her "no." Ever. If she starts crying he drops everything and buys her a new toy, video game, clothes, takes her out to eat, whatever it takes to get her to stop crying that very second he does. She's 9 years old! She's almost in middle school!!! I don't understand why he can't stand hearing her cry. Does it drive him crazy? Does it make him want to smother her to shut her up?
I'm so afraid that I can not keep him from being alone with LO. I plan on bringing it up in court, but the thought of having to leave LO with a guy that's done nothing but lie to me and was married to a baby killer scares me to no end. He still hasn't called or even seen LO. He doesn't even know when LO was born. He changed his number months ago! I told him I wanted to get to know him better before LO was born and he got distant. VERY distant. Before I knew it the only time we talked was for him to tell me about the random chick he met offline that came over to his apartment to watch tv (yea right!) the night before. I'm just so annoyed at how complicated this situation with LOs father has gotten.
Thanks for letting me vent and if anyone has any advice it would be appreciated.