DS just seems to get worse and worse...

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He's getting harder to settle and get to sleep.  Luckily the spitting up is fine if I avoid coffee.  But really, shouldn't all the sleep/awake time be getting easier?  He DEMANDS to be in the sling w/ the exception of maybe an hour (total) where he's happy to lay on the floor.  I can't even "wear him down" in the sling anymore it seems.

It's just REALLY hard to be wearing/holding/nursing him all day.  The only significant stretches of time I got where I wasn't holding/nursing/wearing him today was a shower (20 minutes) and DD's bedtime (when I was nursing/cuddling her).  I guess DD was this way too but it's so much harder with another LO running around...

Tonya_G

My DD was extremely high needs, especially in comparison with how easy going DS was. Seriously, the first 3 months of her life, I most of the time felt like my back was going to go out b/c I had to wear her so much. If she wasn't nursing or sleeping on one of us, she was screaming. We discovered she has a dairy/soy allergy, and once I cut that out of my diet it helped, but she was still pretty needy. She's within the past month finally gotten to a point where she's content to lay and play for extended periods of time or just sit on someone's lap or in her bumbo, what have you.

I can't even imagine how hard it is with how young your other DC is- I'm infinitely grateful that DS was as old and independent as he was when we had DD. If we'd had her a year earlier, I would have probably run away and hid under a giant rock.

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Tonya_G:

My DD was extremely high needs, especially in comparison with how easy going DS was. Seriously, the first 3 months of her life, I most of the time felt like my back was going to go out b/c I had to wear her so much. If she wasn't nursing or sleeping on one of us, she was screaming. We discovered she has a dairy/soy allergy, and once I cut that out of my diet it helped, but she was still pretty needy. She's within the past month finally gotten to a point where she's content to lay and play for extended periods of time or just sit on someone's lap or in her bumbo, what have you.

I can't even imagine how hard it is with how young your other DC is- I'm infinitely grateful that DS was as old and independent as he was when we had DD. If we'd had her a year earlier, I would have probably run away and hid under a giant rock.

DD was way worse.  As in, you would have to walk/bounce/rock her to sleep for hours.  DS is usually out w/in 30 minutes.  BUT you have to keep wearing him too. 

So, easier, but still hard.  I will take what I can get I suppose!

MarknCalsMommy

Is it reflux you're dealing with?  I know many mothers are reluctant to do it, but I really couldn't have survived my babies' early months without Zantac.  With #2 it took both Zantac and giving up dairy for him to be tolerable.  We us a DO instead of an MD for our family practioner, and he is usually pretty reluctant to prescribe meds, especially to young children (as an example, we waited over a week to put my son on antibiotics for pneumonia because we weren't 100% sure that was what was going on-DS did have it, but a milder case.)  But he had no problem prescribing Zantac, because it has little to no side effects.  They were both off meds around 9 months, though my oldest still throws up easily at almost 4.  I think it's because he had reflux, but don't know that for sure.

proudarmywife08

DS was like that for a couple weeks. I felt so bad for DD b/c I was spending all my time with DS. I think its their age. It will pass, and you'll make it :-)

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MarknCalsMommy:

Is it reflux you're dealing with?  I know many mothers are reluctant to do it, but I really couldn't have survived my babies' early months without Zantac.  With #2 it took both Zantac and giving up dairy for him to be tolerable.  We us a DO instead of an MD for our family practioner, and he is usually pretty reluctant to prescribe meds, especially to young children (as an example, we waited over a week to put my son on antibiotics for pneumonia because we weren't 100% sure that was what was going on-DS did have it, but a milder case.)  But he had no problem prescribing Zantac, because it has little to no side effects.  They were both off meds around 9 months, though my oldest still throws up easily at almost 4.  I think it's because he had reflux, but don't know that for sure.

No, we don't think it's reflux..at least not to a degree that needs to be medicated.  He spits up but he's a happy spitter and he sleeps well (we bed share).  He just doesn't want to nap on his own anymore   I hope it's just a phase!

purplepuggles

do you have a swing? DS was the same way, but would tolerate the swing as long as he was snuggled in nice and warm in it and it was going fairly fast. it was a lifesaver for us the first few months he was home.

MarknCalsMommy

purplepuggles:

do you have a swing? DS was the same way, but would tolerate the swing as long as he was snuggled in nice and warm in it and it was going fairly fast. it was a lifesaver for us the first few months he was home.

This too!  You might want to try to find a Fisher Price Cradle swing too, they are a bit different than the normal ones, and I've known many a baby who like that swing, but no other ones.  If can't find one to borrow or get 2nd hand, you could buy it and try it for a few days, and return it if it doesn't help.  I know it means spending money, but that swing was our best investment as parents, I swear.

I'm glad it doesn't seem to be bad reflux.  It's no fun, and technically speaking, my boys were "mild" cases.  I've known LOs who had to be on heavier meds, and were still irritable.

purplepuggles

MarknCalsMommy:

purplepuggles:

do you have a swing? DS was the same way, but would tolerate the swing as long as he was snuggled in nice and warm in it and it was going fairly fast. it was a lifesaver for us the first few months he was home.

This too!  You might want to try to find a Fisher Price Cradle swing too, they are a bit different than the normal ones, and I've known many a baby who like that swing, but no other ones.  If can't find one to borrow or get 2nd hand, you could buy it and try it for a few days, and return it if it doesn't help.  I know it means spending money, but that swing was our best investment as parents, I swear.

the cradle swing is the kind we have! there are always a few on craigslist here

Lotte134

It could be the 6 week growth spurt too.  I know DS nursed constantly and always wanted to be held during that time.  Hopefully it passes quickly.  I know we all forget how tough those early days are!

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MarknCalsMommy:

purplepuggles:

do you have a swing? DS was the same way, but would tolerate the swing as long as he was snuggled in nice and warm in it and it was going fairly fast. it was a lifesaver for us the first few months he was home.

This too!  You might want to try to find a Fisher Price Cradle swing too, they are a bit different than the normal ones, and I've known many a baby who like that swing, but no other ones.  If can't find one to borrow or get 2nd hand, you could buy it and try it for a few days, and return it if it doesn't help.  I know it means spending money, but that swing was our best investment as parents, I swear.

I'm glad it doesn't seem to be bad reflux.  It's no fun, and technically speaking, my boys were "mild" cases.  I've known LOs who had to be on heavier meds, and were still irritable.

We do have one, and I think it will help once we get it back.  We let our friends borrow it when we were in MD this past year and since they are military and were moving back here too we had them move it with their stuff (we only had our two cars to fit stuff so space was a concern) and they only just now got into town and will get their stuff in a couple of weeks.  I only have to survive that long!

Hippinski

Honestly honey...it sounds like it could be reflux or colic.  Does he always want to be upright?  Does he nurse a ton?  Does he spit a lot?

Neither of my kids needed meds for it other than Maalox..but both had it.  Monkey FAR worse.  Oh man the stories I could tell of that boy and his screams.  I literally baked chocolate chip cookies for every neighbor who shared a wall with us, upstairs and down too, in the apt complex we lived in with a note explaining that we weren't beating our baby, he really just had colic.

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Hippinski:

Honestly honey...it sounds like it could be reflux or colic.  Does he always want to be upright?  Does he nurse a ton?  Does he spit a lot?

Neither of my kids needed meds for it other than Maalox..but both had it.  Monkey FAR worse.  Oh man the stories I could tell of that boy and his screams.  I literally baked chocolate chip cookies for every neighbor who shared a wall with us, upstairs and down too, in the apt complex we lived in with a note explaining that we weren't beating our baby, he really just had colic.

He would love the cradle position more but he doesn't fit so well that way anymore so that's why he's upright....he doesn't nurse a ton actually, about 5 minutes every 2 hours during the day and he will go 4 or 5 hours at night.  As long as I stay away from coffee he only spits up a little bit.  And he's happy doing it.  With coffee he spits up a ton, it smells bad, and he screams.  So I don't think that's the problem.