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FB status made me sad

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One of my friends posted something to the extent of "Why does my baby cry from 12:30 to 2 am because I won't pick her up, but will happily play in her crib in the morning?"

Let me say I am all for CIO as a training method and used it myself... but 1 1/2 hrs?  And she didn't even say that she was sleep training.  IDK, I don't think I could have ever gone that long listening to DD cry.  IMO, if they cry that long, they need something.  I try really hard not to judge others' parenting, but sometimes I can't help it!

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Re: FB status made me sad

  • sammiekcsammiekc
    That's so sad. I judge anyone who lets their baby cry that long. If someone made that comment while talking to me (not on Facebook), I would definitely say something. That's just me though.
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  • rubyshoes7rubyshoes7
    arg. i am soft and chewy, i can't even let mine cry longer than 10 minutes. to each her own. it just makes me sad. babies are so small.... they get scared, they don't understand why someone isn't coming to get them.
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  • DEBBIE33CASEYDEBBIE33CASEY

    I won't take a stand on this at all other than to say that lets try to give her the benefit of the doubt since we don't know the whole story. Maybe she goes in, picks up the baby and puts her back down and then the baby still cries, something like that.  I always hope for the best :) And ITA with your statement about it being hard not to judge others' parenting.

    As for myself, I can't stand hearing DD cry and go to her right away. DH has a little thicker skin and can hear her cry for a little bit, but I am way more sensitive to it.

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  • katekirschnerkatekirschner member

    that poor baby. i don't know how some people can just let their baby cry that long. obvi that baby needed something if it didn't fall back asleep after a while. we couldn't do CIO here. needless to say DD just started sleeping through the night two weeks ago! haha! but she did it on her own accord and that worked for us. we tried a few nights but DH and I both are pretty useless in trying new things when woken from sleeping. and it turned out easier to just rock back to sleep - even though it took till 10 months old!  

     

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  • sammiekcsammiekc
    I've tried to do the Ferber method. But I don't have the patience (probably not the right word. Maybe 'will'?) to stand there and listen to Christian cry for 5 minutes. It's just so much easier to rock him back to sleep.
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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    Based on that sentence you do not know that she is allowing her child to CIO for 1.5 hours. 

    She could have very well meant that her LO was up crying, gassy, colicky every time she put her down - yet in the AM she was just fine when put down and would play. You also don't know that she isn't doing a 5-10-20 minute CIO training (but you also didn't state the age of the baby - so who knows).

    That mom probably didn't know she would have her FB status message (in which she thought only friends could see) would be posted on a message board so that other moms could judge her. She might have been more precise in her terms even in her potentially exhausted state.  

    Yeah, I'm going out on a limb here but I think that's better than insta-judging. 

     

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