tubal ligation during c-section??

lnle

Did any MoMs have their tubes tied during c/s b/c they knew they were done having kids? Logically, I know we're done with these three. Heck, we only ever "planned" on having 2. But emotionally it's hard to make a decision that's so permanent. But, I want to avoid hormonal birth control (too much messing w/my hormones the past 3 years!), we hate condoms, the IUD freaks me out for some reason, and although I want my husband to get to experience some pain and suffering after all I've been through , it seems silly for him to get a vasectomy when they're already going to have access to my tubes during the c/s.

oh - I just thought of something though - w/my history of endometriosis, I wonder if it would be better to go back on BCP at some point. I just don't want to right away b/c of bfing.

I'd love to hear about any experiences that you're willing to share!

ETA: I went ahead and signed the consent form for the tubal ligation today, b/c the MFM said I could still change my mind on Thurs if I wanted to.

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i thought about it but DH didn't want me to do it - and then i realized that i didn't either - it was just too permanent for me- the "what ifs" got to me.. if something happened to one of my babies and i wanted to have another, all that horrible stuff you think of - and also just the "what if" we decided in 2 yrs that we were NOT done, ya know?

since i have PCOS staying on BCP is good for me - keeps my weight down, etc - so i realized that i'd need that anyway so another reason not to tie them.

a good friend of mine had hers tied after her 2nd child and has been very happy with her chioce- it's all so variable depending on your situation.

i can say that even on bcp with PCOS i have never been more scared to get pg - and make DH pull out, lol.

identicaltwins2be

I ended up having a c-section so I had my doc go ahead with a tubal.  I, like you, was going to have DH get a vasectomy but since I was already open it made sense for me to be the one to "get fixed"  

ETA:  It wasn't difficult for me to make the decision to have it done because I knew we were finished having kids but there was/is that small part of me that is sad knowing I can't get pregnant.  I think that is a pretty normal feeling.

 

trc~ttc#1

i had a tubal with noooo second quessing. i don't have to prove to everyone that i'm all of a sudden fertile!!! lol not to mention my husband had a VAS reversal for me .... sooo it was the least i could do! i had noooo pain! ;-))) you may have to sign something at your ob's office before hand, we did. you may want to call tomorrow. can't wait to hear the good news!!!!

xoxo 

lnle

trc~ttc#1:

i had a tubal with noooo second quessing. i don't have to prove to everyone that i'm all of a sudden fertile!!! lol not to mention my husband had a VAS reversal for me .... sooo it was the least i could do! i had noooo pain! ;-))) you may have to sign something at your ob's office before hand, we did. you may want to call tomorrow. can't wait to hear the good news!!!!

xoxo 

I went ahead and signed the consent for it today, b/c they said I can change my mind on the big day if I want to. eek!

Lauren8433

I plan on getting one for sure. 3 is enough for me and yes, it is permanent, but so if choosing to do IVF like we did. There was no going back once we decided to implant the embryos. We're soooo excited to be where you will be on Thursday and can't wait to hear how things go!

I'm maybe 1-3 weeks behind you! Good luck and trust your decision- it will be the best one.

pea-kay

I thought very hard about doing it, but I didn't, in the end, and I'm very glad I didn't. I wanted to leave my options open. Even though we never planned for four kids (or three, for that matter), I would like to have the "singleton" experience one day.

kimarino13

I didn't think I wanted any more kids, then the minute they were out, I started thinking about #3.  WTH?!

And ditto the PCOS BCP thing.

BizEB

I will definitely be getting a tubal ligation, either during my c-section or afterwards.  We are definitely done having kids and I want to get a tubal ligation because I'm not a candidate for IUD (history of ectopic pg) and I don't want to do BCPs or condoms.  I actually want to get a tubal ligation because studies have shown that it can reduce your risk of ovarian cancer. 

Leigh71

We just discussed this tonight! (and I just turned 15 weeks).  and I am with you on the IUD.  it freaks me out too...and have a friend who says she "cramps" all the time with hers... ick.

I think I may do BCPs but, the tubal would make me not worry about anything if I miss a pill....

Livvie's Mom

I went for the tubal during my C-section.  We now have 3 and I know that's enough. Plus my DH is over 40 and was already trying to adjust to the 2-fer. 

It didn't help matters that our next door neighbors have triplets then a singleton a little over a year younger.  I'm sure it was the same old story- couldn't get pregnant to save their life, then all of a sudden it just happened.  Well, although a lot of behavior has to do with parenting, there is continual chaos coming from that direction.

On the other hand, it is final- although shoot, most of us with multiples had to do some level of fertility treatment and worse case scenario you could still do IVF. 

 As far as you being able to change your mind, it could be a total game time decision.  I think they asked me about 5 times between the time I arrived in labor and when they performed the c-section.  It was kinda freaking me out!

 good luck with whatever your decision is.  I know it's a big one!

angelnscrubs7

I went back and forth about it for the entire pregnancy. I kept telling my DH the "least" he could do is get himself snipped, since I was carrying his twins. But I knew that was silly because I was already going to be open on the table for the section.

My OB asked me, literally, right up until the were going to do the tubal, if that's what I wanted for sure. I was kinda blah blah nonchalant about it, like "yeah sure, go ahead", and she seriously leaned over the drape that seperated my head from the rest of me, and was like "are you sure?"....I blurted out YES, and then the procedure began.

These days, I go back and forth about it. I have 3 wonderful, healthy children, and I know that yeah, I really wanted 1 more girl, I couldn't be happier with what we have. Having more kids would mean needing a bigger house, working more hours to pay for another mouth to feed. And my DD is starting high school in the fall, it was hard enough "starting over" this time around with the twins, I don't think I could do it again. We are truely blessed. Though sometimes I do miss the initial "newborn" stage..so tiny, so helpless, so innocent, then I think of the waking and feeding every 1-2 hours, the lack of sleep, the frustration with trying to BF and pump, and going back to work after 6 weeks, that I KNOW we are definately done.

SoldiersGreenBean

Livvie's Mom:

On the other hand, it is final- although shoot, most of us with multiples had to do some level of fertility treatment and worse case scenario you could still do IVF. 

 

I don't think that's accurate.  As a MoM of spontaneous twins, I think there's a pretty even split on this board.

I've told H that I'm more than willing to tie my tubes during my c-section, but he's insistent on getting a vasectomy.  It's been our plan from the get-go, and he's more than happy to take care of the permanent aspect of things.  His consult is Monday.

kristyn&ken

We are planning for one and the doc has agreed to do it since this will make 3 children for us (I am only 28 so there was some discussion about my age). We had DD and were trying for only "one more" so this definitely sealed the deal for us!

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DH got a vasectomy when our twins were only 2m old.  Hindsight I would've gotten the tubal (but that's another story).  We were *sure* we were done.  It was kind of hard going (DH even said that we could cancel the appt), because it is quite permanent.  One thing that did make it easier, his doc said that if years down the line, we were sure we wanted another, they can either do a reversal or manually extract sperm (so IVF or IUI).  We didn't want to get it with the thinking, "well we can have more later if we choose", but it did make it nice that it's not a 100% be all end all decision.