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What's your strangest TTC wishful thinking?
Here's mine (since it seems everything below my bellybutton and above my knees is TTC related): Today and yesterday AF has been horrible. Cramps like I had back in high school (pre-bcp), back aches, in need of super Tampax, etc. So my wishful/hopeful thinking is bcp is completely out of my system and I will be as fertile as the octomom this cycle. However, the little devil on my shoulder is whispering "you also had terrible cysts pre-bcp."
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Re: What's your strangest TTC wishful thinking?
Friends for 15 years. Married 8. TTC since January 2009
2010 Diagnosis: Anovulation and Severe MFI
2011 Treatment:
IVF w/ICSI #1 Antagonist: 2 blasts - c/p - BFN 04.22
FET #1: 1 blast/1 early blast - BFP 06.22 - m/c 06.30 @6w0d
07-11 RPL: MTHFR C677T Heterozygous & Slightly elevated ACLA IgM
FET #2: 1 morula - BFN: 9.02
January '12: IVF #2
Started BCP and Metformin (New!) 12-14 for stimming in January
Dum spiro, spero.
?SAIF/PAIF/PgAL/PAL always welcome?
See, I don't want a Christmas baby (I know I should be happy with any baby at all), but I have friends with Christmas time birthdays who are really cheated... so my other wishful thinking is murphy's law will come into play and I'll get pregnant the one cycle I'd rather not.
It would make for a good story, and a nice "gift" for your parents.
You don;t have to cheat your child just cause they are Christmas babies. I think it gives more opportunities for celebration and creativity to make sure they know their birthday is special. If we get lucky this coming cycle, we'll have a Christmas baby.
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After 3 unsuccessful Clomid cycles, FSH+Ovidril+IUI+Progesterone=BFP!
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May '16 2.0: Letrozole+FSH+Menopur+Ovidril+IUI+Progesterone=BFP! first beta-45.44, second beta-148
That I do not want to get pregnant for 3 more months, since it will work better with my school schedule. Since you can't just snap your fingers and get PG when you want, we have been trying for the last 5 cycles.
And at the same time, my fingers and toes are crossed for this current cycle. I keep thinking "I could be PG right now!" Who gives a damn about work!
My mind is so mixed up
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014
I don't know if it's strange, but it's certainly unlikely wishful thinking. Just stopped BCP, and if and only if my cycles continue on exactly as they were on BC, I would probably ovulate on or right around my birthday, which is exactly when DH and I agreed we would start TTC.
If that actually happened, and if I got pg that day, I would be ready to break the news to the family on my mom's birthday, and I get really excited about having them all together and being able to give my mom (who is dying to be a grandma) a bday card that says "Happy Birthday Grandma". It would just be such a fun way to tell them all but I know it's highly unlikely the timing will work that well, prior to BC my cycles were ridiculously irregular so I'm sure they will be again. Just one of the many baby things I daydream about.
I am the exact same way right now!
You don't want a Christmas baby so you can be sure that they get their fair share of presents??
Carina 12.28.2010 | Aurelia 9.23.12 | Chart - Round 3
My birthday is the 27th and on of my best friends is the 24th. We always had plenty of presents and never felt cheated. As long as the parents make an effort to make the birthday special, it won't matter what the date is. I was on a school trip that left on my birthday one year, and my parents had the pilot and flight attendants sing happy birthday to me on the plane. I wouldn't trade my Christmas birthday for anything.
PS. I do absolutely HATE those Christmas/Birthday cards though!
Good to know I am not the only one
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014
BFP 3/28/16 (EDD 12/9/16) * Chemical pregnancy
ME: 40 yrs.old
DH: 41 yrs.old
DD: 5 yrs.
I get that way this time of the school year too. I keep thinking how nice that extra long summer break would be. I'll take a BFP any day, but if I can get extra time with my LO, I'll take it!
People choose when to TTC for work, school and family reasons, what's wrong with worrying about the kid's future birthdays? Of course, as stated, she would be happy with any baby at all, but it is a consideration. The people I know with bdays near Christmas have always had issues with it and totally feel cheated/ignored. They're almost bitter about their birthdays.
It's not just the gifts, it's the whole feeling special and being celebrated aspect, and having no one around or available for parties because they're out of town, busy with family and other holiday things. And even if parents are nice about presents and make sure the kid feels their bday is unique, others won't be because people are strapped for cash at that time of year. It's not a big thing I would worry about, but I don't see anything wrong with taking it into consideration.
This is just one reason why... I'm back kinda late (worked out, took a shower, and came back to a flood of replies). We have terrible winter weather, people are already out and about traveling to see their own families, etc. DD has big birthday parties, everyone can make it out, it's 6 months apart from Christmas, so she has a good space between. I have friends who do "half birthday parties" for their kids, but I just would like for our child to have a completely separate birthday from a major holiday. It's just how I'd like things to be.
Exactly! Thank you.
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That would be nice. I hate dodging that question. Most of our family knows we're TTC, so now I hear tons of terrible advice. (For example, quit thinking about it and it will happen... to which I respond "how do you suggest I quit thinking about it?" which makes the giver of unsolicited advice uncomfortable and they walk away.)
My husband is super spiritual and believes in fate and keeps telling me over and over "when you get pregnant that is meant to be OUR baby". You have to learn to be patient like we have to be with everything in life. So I keep saying well I must just not be meant to have a winter baby for some reason. It keeps me from getting depressed a little
Also I have 5 VERY close friends & family members that are pregnant right now. Naturally this gets me down a bit. So I keep saying "my baby is meant to happen a little later so that it will have its own special time". Whatever works in our minds... right??
We are planning on ttc starting in June. ?Here is how twisted and thought out this is...
I am not delusional enough to think that we will get lucky in June. ?But I have consistently 25-26 day cycles, so I have 6 chances for success before my October wishful thinking so I reason with myself that I am actually being realistic.
We should get a chance at O mid October. ?We are going to Hawaii the last week in October, so I will come on here and ask everyone if they would scuba dive in the 2ww. ?I will get responses from both sides, and I will take the "don't change your life for the 2ww, you are ttc not pregnant" ?side so I can still scuba dive as planned. ? Then on our seventh day there we will be going from?Kauai?to Honolulu, I will be?miraculously 12 DPO and I will buy a test on the way to the hotel. ?It will be positive, and DH and will call this LO Lulu while in utero, in memory of our trip to Honolulu. ?It just so happens that Lulu could be a nickname for both my favorite boy and girl name. ?Even though I do not plan on actually ever calling my child Lulu in real life, it will be a neat connection and DH will agree to use my favorite name. ?
Plus, that would make this phantom baby due in July, and no one in my family has a July birthday. ?How special.
?Now I am?embarrassed?to even admit I have thought this much about it!
Cycle 11 - Clomid 100mg + Follistim + hCg trigger + IUI= BFP!
Beta/P4 #1(13dpo): 94.5/47, Beta/P4 #2 (17dpo): 625/19.5, Beta/P4 #3 (19dpo): 1285/18.2
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No embarrasment... I love it
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014
Not the strangest, but the most recent...I am hoping to get a BFP this cycle, so that my SIL and I will only be about 2 months apart. That way the two little cousins will be able to grow up together!
Also, I'm heading out to California in 2 weeks for my cousins wedding. This is the same cousin who lovingly told me she figured I'd be KU 2 months after my wedding. I'm really not looking forward to the endless questions from family members about when we're going to start our own family.
Thank you! I really do feel less crazy now that you said this...?
Well TODAY my wishful thinking is that yesterday's spotting was implantation bleeding and today's temp crash is an implantation dip.
(((hugs)))
My wishful thinking is that I would be super-fertile this month after my c/p last month. Unfortunately, today's cramps and brown tinged CM make that truly wishful thinking.
Mine is also more of wishful thinking...
I would love to get a BFP on April 1st. (HAHA, also bc I would love that day bc no one would know to believe me or not LOL!) We will be in town with my family for Easter, so we can tell them all at once!
Also my DH is a GM of a retail store and my due date would be a couple of weeks before Christmas so he could have a couple of days off, and I would not miss school if everything goes as planned! And would be able to return for Spring semester for a couple classes.
BUT... there are a ton of variables!! GOOD Luck to all of you ladies though!
We can agree to disagree here, that's fine. While I don't think there's anything wrong with maybe taking it itnto consideration, IMO it's superficial to actually plan TTC around that time of the year so that your phantom child will get their fair share of gifts and be able to feel "special".
My birthday is only 9 days away from Christmas and my parents always made an effort to make me feel "special" and celebrate in a big way. I don't think it would be that difficult to do the same for your phantom children. Again, JMO.
We had a discussion about this exact topic a few days ago if you're interested in everyone else's opinions: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/33441090.aspx
Carina 12.28.2010 | Aurelia 9.23.12 | Chart - Round 3
well, this month my wishful thinking is i will O on my typical day, 15, which will be my birthday! (i will be singing the ridiculous song, "birthday sex" all day long!) it would be good timing, too, for a trip we're taking to see a whole bunch of good friends; i would be able to tell them i was pregnant at 10 weeks. if it happens next cycle, i don't know if i would want to tell at 6 weeks, and it would be incredibly hard to come up with a believable lie about not drinking!
the biggest wish is that this is the month DH is ready to TTC again!
IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
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