my mom stresses me out (vent)

moonrose2715

I know, how unusual right?  My mom stresses me out.

I'm only 21 weeks, dealing with Gestational Diabetes which is not going well, struggling at work because I just don't want to be here, and doing everything in my power to just take care of my own life.  We're still trying to get the baby's room in order, about to take on a moderate remodel project (tied to baby) and I'm going back and forth with my mortgage company because they can't do math (first they upped my payment, now they've lowered it too far and I don't want to get screwed later).

Today, on top of everything else, she emails me- "I talked to COBRA today and they told me I don't qualify for assistance because my company said I left voluntarily"... She is out on short term disability for Fibromyalgia and pursuing permanent disability.  (This is the third time at least she's been out and it just keeps getting worse.)

Okay, we knew about her company not holding her position in JANUARY.  She just NOW decides to call???  I feel like I'm dealing with a child.  A child who can never pay her bills or take care of business.

I can't parent her right now when I am barely caring for myself and preparing for another little being to joing my world!  I wish she could understand how her "FYI" affects me...

Okay vent over.  Anyone else have something they just need to get off their chest?

Wendy525

Sorry to hear about your stresses with your mom...

I'm just venting because my boss just dumped a big documentation task on me to "drive" and sort out. The last time it was updated was three years ago, and nobody has updated because it is 97 pages and totally vague and no one wants to look at it! I guess I was hoping to coast for the next 3 months until I go on maternity leave. I hate this document!

On another note, my mom has been totally over critical of everything I do in my life, and I've never done anything but succeed to get her approval. She wasn't even happy when I told her I'm pregnant this time, or last time for that matter. Just so  you know, I totally understand you.

moonrose2715

Bummer about the project and your mom.  Thank goodness for the bump right!?!

eek0221

Completely understand and feel your pain.  My mom doesn't seem to really have much of an interest in my pregnancy at all - rarely if ever asks about baby.  But my younger brother who  may or may not be offered an unpaid teachers assistant ship for a professor for a grad school he hasn't even applied to yet is the talk of the town.  She hasn't even told her side of the rest of the family that her only daughter is SIX MONTHS pregnant!  Whereas my MIL calls me every other day to check on me, offers for her and FIL to paint my nursery or cook us dinner if I am too tired, has filled my closet with baby cloths and routinely asks if I and baby are doing well....so I know where you are coming from.