Baby in the swing most of the day?

Another Jennifer

I've written here before about my issues with our current daycare.  I was concerned about consistency in the staffing but that seems to have improved dramatically in the last week or so. 

I watch my LO online on the webcam in the infant room.  She's been in the swing for at least 2 hours now.  I can't tell on the webcam but I'm pretty sure that she's napping.  She loves her swing at home and had her best naps in it when I was on maternity leave.  

I've looked at a Goddard School and they tell me that they only put babies in swings/bouncers for a max of 20 minutes.  I tried to limit the time she was in the bouncer or swing when I was home with her.  

Is this a problem?  I know that AP frowns on these "baby holders" but if my LO is happy and well taken care of at daycare, should I be concerned about this?  

 

Tonya_G

I wouldn't worry about napping in the swing. Now, if it were 2 hours and she were awake and no one was tending to her, I'd be concerned. If she's napped well for you in the swing at home, I think it's fair for daycare to let her nap in a swing. They can't very well wear her the entire nap or anything like you'd do at home, since they have other LO's to tend to. I think the baby holder frowning is for when it's used while babe is awake and should be interacted with.

EcoBaby

If she's napping, I wouldn't be concerned. If she's awake, I would be.

cindy453

I worked at a preschool where we could only have babies in a swing for 20 minutes at a time (and they could NOT nap in the swing). It was miserable. 

 I know it is hard to leave your baby- really, I do. But it seems like you are just looking for reasons to not like the daycare. You said you let her nap in the swing... what do you expect them to do? Wake her up? 

I truly think you would be happier with them if you don't check the webcam except for maybe 1x a day.  

MrsErinnElizabeth

When she was teeny, Delilah spent ridiculous amounts of time napping in the swing.  It was the only place she would nap (would cry if I wore her, refused to use the bassinet, bouncy seat ticked her off) so I just went with it.  On some days, she literally slept in that thing for like six hours.  I used to feel so guilty, but what could I do?  It was what she wanted and I wasn't going to force her to be held/worn/whatever else against her will.  I never kept her in there awake for more than a few minutes though.

If she's happy, sleeping, and content, you can't expect them to get up and move her just because she's been asleep for two hours...would you move her if she were at home?  There's no way in hell I would mess with DD when she is asleep...it takes me forever to GET her to sleep! 

Lotte134

fredalina:

EcoBaby:

If she's napping, I wouldn't be concerned. If she's awake, I would be.

This.

Double ditto.  

Traycee1242

cindy453:

I worked at a preschool where we could only have babies in a swing for 20 minutes at a time (and they could NOT nap in the swing). It was miserable. 

 I know it is hard to leave your baby- really, I do. But it seems like you are just looking for reasons to not like the daycare. You said you let her nap in the swing... what do you expect them to do? Wake her up? 

I truly think you would be happier with them if you don't check the webcam except for maybe 1x a day.  

I'm saying this in a non-snarky way (so please take it as such!).. I think your response is a little bit harsh. I don't think OP was "looking for a reason to not like the daycare" Just simply asking for opinions.

I am very fortunate that I get to SAH... but if I could not.. there is absolutely no way that I could only check a daycare webcam 1x a day...

MrsErinnElizabeth

Traycee1242:

cindy453:

I worked at a preschool where we could only have babies in a swing for 20 minutes at a time (and they could NOT nap in the swing). It was miserable. 

 I know it is hard to leave your baby- really, I do. But it seems like you are just looking for reasons to not like the daycare. You said you let her nap in the swing... what do you expect them to do? Wake her up? 

I truly think you would be happier with them if you don't check the webcam except for maybe 1x a day.  

I'm saying this in a non-snarky way (so please take it as such!).. I think your response is a little bit harsh. I don't think OP was "looking for a reason to not like the daycare" Just simply asking for opinions.

I am very fortunate that I get to SAH... but if I could not.. there is absolutely no way that I could only check a daycare webcam 1x a day...

She's said that because this isn't the first post the OP has made about the daycare and what happens on the webcam.

cindy453

Traycee1242:

cindy453:

I worked at a preschool where we could only have babies in a swing for 20 minutes at a time (and they could NOT nap in the swing). It was miserable. 

 I know it is hard to leave your baby- really, I do. But it seems like you are just looking for reasons to not like the daycare. You said you let her nap in the swing... what do you expect them to do? Wake her up? 

I truly think you would be happier with them if you don't check the webcam except for maybe 1x a day.  

I'm saying this in a non-snarky way (so please take it as such!).. I think your response is a little bit harsh. I don't think OP was "looking for a reason to not like the daycare" Just simply asking for opinions.

I am very fortunate that I get to SAH... but if I could not.. there is absolutely no way that I could only check a daycare webcam 1x a day...

 this is not the first time the OP has posted about the daycare. If looking at the webcam makes her worry- stop looking at the webcam. Nobody is every going to do everything exactly like she would. 

And *tons* of parents leave their child in centers that don't even have a webcam. So it's very possible to leave your child and not have video access to them.

Basically, I think if she wants to change daycares- go for it. But- I don't think the issue is really the center... I think she is just unsure about leaving her baby and will have the same problems with any center. And it's not good for the baby to be bounced around...  

Another Jennifer

cindy453:

Basically, I think if she wants to change daycares- go for it. But- I don't think the issue is really the center... I think she is just unsure about leaving her baby and will have the same problems with any center. And it's not good for the baby to be bounced around...  

I think you're right.  I think my plan now is to leave her where she is until it's time to start pre-school and then put her in a full day Montessori school.   This is contingent upon the staffing being consistent.  They went through a rough patch a few weeks ago when they were changing teachers.  But things seem to have gotten more consistent in the last week. 

 

cindy453

Another Jennifer:

cindy453:

Basically, I think if she wants to change daycares- go for it. But- I don't think the issue is really the center... I think she is just unsure about leaving her baby and will have the same problems with any center. And it's not good for the baby to be bounced around...  

I think you're right.  I think my plan now is to leave her where she is until it's time to start pre-school and then put her in a full day Montessori school.   This is contingent upon the staffing being consistent.  They went through a rough patch a few weeks ago when they were changing teachers.  But things seem to have gotten more consistent in the last week. 

 

I'm glad they seem more consistent! I completely understand your worrying- I'm a worrier too. I have to really work on not stressing about it too much... because there is only so much I can control, kwim? My H will sometimes take Emmy in the mornings so I can sleep in and I turn the white noise maker on FOR ME so that I can't hear them. Because if I heard it, I would want to go help or fix it... when in reality, she's fine. It's different, but fine.  It's taken almost 7 months for me to relax, lol 

SymphonyGirl

I don't think I'd be OK with that.  The organization I work for runs 2 daycares and we don't permit swings on site because they encourage staff to sort of ignore the kids. 

JulieandBen

Tonya_G:

I wouldn't worry about napping in the swing. Now, if it were 2 hours and she were awake and no one was tending to her, I'd be concerned. If she's napped well for you in the swing at home, I think it's fair for daycare to let her nap in a swing. They can't very well wear her the entire nap or anything like you'd do at home, since they have other LO's to tend to. I think the baby holder frowning is for when it's used while babe is awake and should be interacted with.

ditto

Married2MrWright

My baby spends the majority of her naps in her swing (she's there as I type)...and barely anytime in it awake...maybe 10-15 minutes a day (she likes it for that short time frame, listening to the music and watching the mobile).  We do nap her in her crib once a day and the rest of her sleep time is with us (in her co-sleeper or more often or not, bed-sharing).  I have no issues with being in the swing that long as long as she's sleeping and that as soon as she stirs she is attended to immediately.

ashleyhuney

I encouraged napping in the swing with my care providers.  He loved napping in his swing and since we don't CIO I didn't want them doing it either.  It was never a problem, he napped in it for a crazy long time, I think even at 20 months he's still under the weight limit.  At home he napped in his crib, and around one he seemed to want to stretch out more at naps and he adjusted very easily to sleeping in a crib w/o any "sleep training" or CIO.  I did make it clear that I was not ok with him being awake in it though, is it possible to make that request?  And I agree saying she should only check the webcam once a day is harsh, they put the webcam up so I see no problem in asking them questions based on what you see on the webcam.  Now, if it was a hidden nannycam that's another matter entirely, but if they are inviting you to watch your baby I would think that they would understand.