"parties" (npgr) - long

PGASTL

Hi girls -

Looking for some advice here. I have a friend that has been inviting me to her "parties" for years. You know the kind - first she was selling Partylite Candles, then she'd host parties for other friends selling jewelry or makeup, etc. Now, she just sent me an email invitation for a "chocolate spa" party.

To be quite honest, I HATE these things. I never ever ever ask her to buy anything from me and she has been getting my $$ for YEARS and NEVER just invites me over to just hang out - only invitations for parties.

So - I have rsvp'd "no" to the evite and my question is, do I send her a polite email just letter her know that I'm not really into these parties, but to have fun anyway? Or do I just continue to not show up and let it go?

TIA!!!

BetchySprout

a) I want to know WTF a "chocolate spa" party is.

b) I would just RSVP no, and not offer a reason to her. No need.

c) I hate when friends do this. Once in awhile is no biggie, but when it is the ONLY thing they ever call you about, that is obnoxious.

d) I would also beware any showers she invites you to. Some baby showers/wedding showers have been known to spring Pampered Chef or Tupperware on you "for the new mom" or "for the bride". Blergh. Though I do want a Tupperware shape sorter in the worst way.

Jessiac_3

I follow a blog called "The Simple Dollar."  He posted an article about the same problem not too long ago.  I have to say I agree with his plan.

https://www.thesimpledollar.com/2010/03/03/a-pre-emptive-strike-against-selling-to-friends/

I wouldn't feel bad about if if I were you...if your friend gets mad that you're not going to the party...they're not much of a friend.

ermaderma

I would just RSVP "no" and leave it at that. After a few "parties", she should get the message.

PGASTL

LOL, PattyP, here is the description:

ATTENTION CHOCOHOLICS!!!! 

You're invited to a Yummy, Fun & Relaxing CHOCOLATE LOVER'S SPA!!!
We'll learn how to PAMPER our bodies, enjoy SPECIAL Girlfriend Time and TASTE Chocolate Delights!!


Experience SPA quality products WITHOUT the SPA prices!!
~ Eyes, Lips & Foot Products
~ Hand Exfoliation
~ Deep Cleansing Facial
~ Detox Treatment & Head Massage


* WEAR: comfortable clothes & minimal make-up.  It will be a quiet, relaxing time ... no cell phones or children call for you - you will REALLY enjoy this experience!

BetchySprout

rma910:

LOL, PattyP, here is the description:

ATTENTION CHOCOHOLICS!!!! 

You're invited to a Yummy, Fun & Relaxing CHOCOLATE LOVER'S SPA!!!
We'll learn how to PAMPER our bodies, enjoy SPECIAL Girlfriend Time and TASTE Chocolate Delights!!


Experience SPA quality products WITHOUT the SPA prices!!
~ Eyes, Lips & Foot Products
~ Hand Exfoliation
~ Deep Cleansing Facial
~ Detox Treatment & Head Massage


* WEAR: comfortable clothes & minimal make-up.  It will be a quiet, relaxing time ... no cell phones or children call for you - you will REALLY enjoy this experience!

a.graves

I would just write a polite e-mail. I am not into parties like that either and a friend from work, his wife invites me all the time. I finally just told them one day that I would love to hang out with them without the expectation of buying something. They got the point and stopped inviting me.

PinkLove-S

Either response sounds good. She doesn't really sound like she is your friend anyway. I personally would probably just keep rsvping no and then if she ever asked, i would tell her you just aren't into those kind of parties....

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Pattypoundcake:

a) I want to know WTF a "chocolate spa" party is.

b) I would just RSVP no, and not offer a reason to her. No need.

c) I hate when friends do this. Once in awhile is no biggie, but when it is the ONLY thing they ever call you about, that is obnoxious.

d) I would also beware any showers she invites you to. Some baby showers/wedding showers have been known to spring Pampered Chef or Tupperware on you "for the new mom" or "for the bride". Blergh. Though I do want a Tupperware shape sorter in the worst way.

Totally This!

ConnCottager

Pattypoundcake:

rma910:

LOL, PattyP, here is the description:

ATTENTION CHOCOHOLICS!!!! 

You're invited to a Yummy, Fun & Relaxing CHOCOLATE LOVER'S SPA!!!
We'll learn how to PAMPER our bodies, enjoy SPECIAL Girlfriend Time and TASTE Chocolate Delights!!


Experience SPA quality products WITHOUT the SPA prices!!
~ Eyes, Lips & Foot Products
~ Hand Exfoliation
~ Deep Cleansing Facial
~ Detox Treatment & Head Massage


* WEAR: comfortable clothes & minimal make-up.  It will be a quiet, relaxing time ... no cell phones or children call for you - you will REALLY enjoy this experience!

Wow, with those words emphasized too? I HATE when people write a LONG EMAIL like that and put CERTAIN words in ALL CAPS with lots of !!!!!! OMG!!!

queenie_monica

ConnCottager:

Pattypoundcake:

rma910:

LOL, PattyP, here is the description:

ATTENTION CHOCOHOLICS!!!! 

You're invited to a Yummy, Fun & Relaxing CHOCOLATE LOVER'S SPA!!!
We'll learn how to PAMPER our bodies, enjoy SPECIAL Girlfriend Time and TASTE Chocolate Delights!!


Experience SPA quality products WITHOUT the SPA prices!!
~ Eyes, Lips & Foot Products
~ Hand Exfoliation
~ Deep Cleansing Facial
~ Detox Treatment & Head Massage


* WEAR: comfortable clothes & minimal make-up.  It will be a quiet, relaxing time ... no cell phones or children call for you - you will REALLY enjoy this experience!

Wow, with those words emphasized too? I HATE when people write a LONG EMAIL like that and put CERTAIN words in ALL CAPS with lots of !!!!!! OMG!!!

 

That totally raised my anxiety level.  Almost like a car commercial, where they are yelling at you to BUY NOW!!

BetchySprout

ConnCottager:

Pattypoundcake:

rma910:

LOL, PattyP, here is the description:

ATTENTION CHOCOHOLICS!!!! 

You're invited to a Yummy, Fun & Relaxing CHOCOLATE LOVER'S SPA!!!
We'll learn how to PAMPER our bodies, enjoy SPECIAL Girlfriend Time and TASTE Chocolate Delights!!


Experience SPA quality products WITHOUT the SPA prices!!
~ Eyes, Lips & Foot Products
~ Hand Exfoliation
~ Deep Cleansing Facial
~ Detox Treatment & Head Massage


* WEAR: comfortable clothes & minimal make-up.  It will be a quiet, relaxing time ... no cell phones or children call for you - you will REALLY enjoy this experience!

Wow, with those words emphasized too? I HATE when people write a LONG EMAIL like that and put CERTAIN words in ALL CAPS with lots of !!!!!! OMG!!!

My favorite Part is the Random capitalization!

j_luvs_r

ermaderma:

I would just RSVP "no" and leave it at that. After a few "parties", she should get the message.

This.

jiffy-pop

I am not the "party" type either. I have a friend that does these jewelry parties and she invites me every time but I never go. She usually sends a text invite and I never respond. I know I'm not going to buy anything so why go? If I want fake jewelry, I'll go spend $5 on a plastic necklace and ring set. I'm not paying $20 for something fake.

jteneback

Continue to decline and let it go.  If she won't take the hint, that's her problem.  Don't feel bad about not going, "parties" are BS IMO.