Kind of an ethics question...

shanrob

Wanted to bounce this scenario off of you ladies and see what you think.  I live in an apartment with unbelievably thin walls.  My neighbor across the hall has a 2 year old, incredibly rambunctious, throws things, bangs walls, etc.  Every time I finally get Francie to sleep, she wakes within minutes crying because he is literally running up and down the hall right by her bedroom and banging on the walls.  It sounds like a freight train is passing through.  My neighbor and I are extremely friendly, but have very different parenting styles.  I personally wouldn't let my son treat our home like he is at Great Adventure, but she believes in not supressing his creativity, so he is allowed to write on walls, throw stuff, etc.  She doesn't even have a couch because the living room is designated as "his" room and he doesn't want one.  I don't know if I am within my rights to ask her to calm him down a bit when Francie is napping, but it is getting to a point where my poor child is exhausted.  I try to put her down when I know he'll be out, but it doesn't always work out and the minute he is back, it's like a tornado is coming through the building.  Any advice?  Thanks!

Deepoet

I would just bring it up in conversation and not in a confrontational way and ask her nicely if she can keep him away from those walls during your LO's nap times.

I have a neighbor who has company over every weekend and they slam the stairwell door (which is on the crib all and we cant move the crib because of the way the room is set up) so I asked her nicely if her company could not slam the door after 8pm and so far so good!

SkypekWithoutAC

She sounds like a psycho. I'd probably call the landlord on her, but I'm a b*tch. lol

witt0198

I'm of the opinion that ....sure she's allowed to parent how she wants, but when it's affecting your kid negatively, then that's a problem. Like people drinking, it's generally excepted that people can drink and even get drunk, but as soon as you get on the road and could hurt me or others, that's not ok. I'd try talking to her about it nicely, maybe she doesn't even realize it's happening. Honestly the thought of looking for somewhere else to live comes to mind when you mention this story.

GL

Becky

Heather1979

SkypekWithoutAC:

She sounds like a psycho. I'd probably call the landlord on her, but I'm a b*tch. lol

this. ifshe were really friendly with you, she would respect the fact that while her son is creative, there are other people in the world who need to sleep to be their best creative selves.

At1stsight

I would bring it up nicely and just mention it and see what she says.

Something that should help you though! Have you tried a sound machine? Some white noise playing in the room would make the running/stomping be less intrusive and noticeable as opposed to pure quiet. DS always sleeps with the sound machine at night - we have a neighbor with dogs who are usually quiet, but not always.