Follow-up to name sharing poll (vent)

smbckr2

DH and I have been sharing the names we have picked out for our LO. We don't care what people say if they don't like them, but we are so excited that we want to share them with our family and close friends. We only have one friend right now that is pregnant and we told them our names. We are not the least bit worried they would take our name, and if they would - oh well, our baby would still have that name.

When we told them, she started freaking out and said we were crazy for telling people our names. We really don't have a problem at all about it. She looked at me like I was crazy! And she was completely against our boy name, because they have a friend (who we've met twice) that has a boy with the same name. He will be 4 when we have our baby! She seemed to think it was completely wrong to be using that name. We didn't even know what the little boy's name was.

Are we completely crazy for sharing our names? We are just so excited and sharing everything about our LO with our families and close friends.

aerobaby

It's your own personal decision on wether you want to share your names or not. I wouldn't let any of it get to you.

 

Everyone keeps telling us we need to change our name, but its not happening! and I tell them that, and they just shut up and say nothing more.. 

mak011980

I dont think so- I have been telling people our names too! I think its your and your husbands decision, and if you want to tell people that's none of our friends concern!!

STFWIFE

I dont think your crazy for sharing your names.  LOL at least you have them picked out.  We still dont have a name picked out for DD.  I keep telling DH the reason he cant feel her kick is b/c she doenst like him b/c he wont pick out a name for her.

LCB34

I personally think it is silly to share names with people when you don't even know what you are having.  Our parents and super close friends are the only ones that know what we would name a boy and a girl.

However, sharing once you have announced what LO is, is perfectly fine to me - you just have to have extra thick skin b/c people will have opinions.

 

sarasek

We've been sharing our name with everyone. It's a personal choice, and if she wants to freak out, let her freak out. She gets no say in your decision. I don't get why people say 'so and so used that name, so you shouldn't'. Good grief.

Legally Nads

No you're not crazy. Most of our pregnant friends had and have picked out their baby name by the 20 week ultrasound. To me, it was weird that at only half way through the pregnancy they already had personalized stuff with the baby's name on it. 

We are not sharing names, but I am of the philosophy that you have to meet the baby before committing to a name. What if the baby doesn't "look" like the name we've chosen?

As long as you can deal with the criticism and opinions, share away! 

dureem

I wouldn't worry too much about it.  DH and I have shared our name. However, my SIL for her first daughter had the name top secret. However, this time for her 2nd child, she let everyone know the boy name as soon as she knew what she was having.

decoglam42

I think it's entirely a personal decision. We have decided not to share the name (for as long as we can hold off) just because when the "name-game" started, there were so many opinions from family we just thought it would be easier. My sister ended up guessing the name (20 questions type of thing ) and she loves it but did point out that friends of my parents have a boy with the same name (I didn't even think of it until that moment and he is my sister's age). That has not affected our decision as it's almost impossible to come up with a name that NO ONE else has or hasn't heard of in some way. We didn't want to go with a really unique name anyways. My name is extrememly unique (I've only heard of one other person and it's spelled completely different) and my husband has a totally common name. I think we hit a happy medium with the name we chose for our son. I would stick your ground and know you are making the best decision for you, while that may not be the case for your friend.

suepotsy

We've been telling people too, and our family HATES he name!!  The way I look at it, this gives the fam time to get used to it! 

However, it also gives MIL time to come up with more names (some of which I like but I can't admit because she said our name - Scarlet - was for "floozies")

smbckr2

LCB34:

I personally think it is silly to share names with people when you don't even know what you are having.  Our parents and super close friends are the only ones that know what we would name a boy and a girl.

However, sharing once you have announced what LO is, is perfectly fine to me - you just have to have extra thick skin b/c people will have opinions.

 

We are planning to find out what we are having, but we haven't decided  yet if we are gong to tell people what the baby is or if we will wait until it is born. We are excited to share our names, but we might decide to keep the sex of the baby a secret and surprise everyone.

cheex090

People can be so annoying when it comes to names. We've decided on a name and have shared it with family and some friends. I don't see much of a reason to keep the name top secret.

LCB34

smbckr2:

LCB34:

I personally think it is silly to share names with people when you don't even know what you are having.  Our parents and super close friends are the only ones that know what we would name a boy and a girl.

However, sharing once you have announced what LO is, is perfectly fine to me - you just have to have extra thick skin b/c people will have opinions.

 

We are planning to find out what we are having, but we haven't decided  yet if we are gong to tell people what the baby is or if we will wait until it is born. We are excited to share our names, but we might decide to keep the sex of the baby a secret and surprise everyone.

If that's the case, then my opinion is that is it extra silly for you to be sharing names.  But, again, that is just me.

erinoa319

We aren't sharing names, just because I really don't feel like hearing everyones opinion of it, i have one friend that is pregnant right now and I told her but only because I knew for sure that she'd be supportive regardless of whether she liked it or not. But other than that I can't handle having to hear what everyone thinks when it really doesn't matter if they like it or not!

jennygirlmt

I think the whole point of not sharing is so your feelings don't get hurt when people comment on it (I shared a name and SIL tore it apart, I was sad for days and we decided no more sharing). If you don't mind then she shouldn't care. And the whole thing with your "mutual" friend's son is absurd and she is crazy for even thinking that is an issue.

katie277s

We shared names right away with DS, and once we decide on this one's name, we will share as well.  It helps us feel more connected to the baby and gives DS a name to get used to.  I see nothing wrong with sharing names. 

Indygo517

LCB34:

I personally think it is silly to share names with people when you don't even know what you are having.  Our parents and super close friends are the only ones that know what we would name a boy and a girl.

However, sharing once you have announced what LO is, is perfectly fine to me - you just have to have extra thick skin b/c people will have opinions.

 

I don't get this.  Not to disregard your opinion.  Cause that is fine.  But I have the opposite opinion.  People have been asking me forever what we will name it.  I tell them madeline Rae for a girl and Lukas Matthey for a boy.  they always just share the hoy in it all.  Which I am sure i am lucky about... sinc3e people can be so opinionative.  But why would it be silly to share before you know the gender... if you ahve both names picked and you are sharing anyway - why not share>?

Tassie06

smbckr2:

Are we completely crazy for sharing our names? We are just so excited and sharing everything about our LO with our families and close friends.

No!  but your friend sounds kinda crazy

riserst

People 'police' my pregnancy enough as it is.  Due to that... I have decided to save myself some grief on the name. We won't be sharing with friends or family until the baby is born.  I need some peace.