Another shower question please ...

bdakerman

So, I would like to know how involved you guys are with the plans for your shower.

My Mom and Cousin are throwing my shower and I wanted to know how involved are you guys with the people throwing it for you - do you pick a lot of things out or do a lot of things for it - or are you just letting them pick everything and do everthing?

Thanks guys for all of your answers

LCB34

Not involved at all.  I am letting all of my hosts do their thing.

kofmkg

LCB34:

Not involved at all.  I am letting all of my hosts do their thing.

Totally this.  They have only asked for my preferences for the guest list.

EmilyAnn10

I picked the date/month, the location, gave a list of people, and I told my SIL what I wanted for a cake (she asked). Other then that I'm just sitting back and waiting! )

tmp-406157062502221

I don't plan on having a shower for this pregnancy but for my first, I was very involved. My mom is the person who threw the shower for me and she isn't very good at that sort of thing so she wanted me to help. I would have rather had someone plan it all and I didn't have to do anything!

Wilwarin

I am helping them choose a location, they requested a little help because I do event planning as part of my job.  I don't mind at all.

JulySpark05

My sister is throwing me one and I know whatever she does will be awesome so I told her I have no preference at all so she is free to do whatever she pleases = ) She did ask if there was any "theme" or anything I wanted and I just want her to do her thing and be surprised = ) My Mom and I'm thinking MIL will be each throwing one and I am letting them do their own thing too.

aerobaby

All they asked me was to figure out a date, if i want a cake or cupcakes, and to give them a list of people to invite. They did ask me if i had a preference on invitations, but I told them whatever is fine..

JalynSue

My aunt and my sister are throwing a shower for me.  I totally trust my aunt and my sister is only 12 so shes not making a ton of executive decisions. I'm letting them decide everything.

shrinkedink

I am answering any questions my hosts have but they make all the choices.  I hope not to be more involved than showing up really.

sarasek

Semi-involved, only because my mom wants my opinion on things. Only I don't really have a ton of preferences so I'm not that much help I did help her address the invites though over the weekend. She's also planning my sister's bridal shower for this month, and my sister's wedding in May, so I am trying to 'help' as much as I can since I know she is pretty stressed.

samakasrc

I know the date/time and location. I gave them the guest list and told them what my wishes were. They were pretty simple - I wanted it co-ed (more like a big get together than a feminine shower) and I requested no games (which hasn't panned out, but I guess I'm ok with it now but wasn't before). I also mentioned to them that I'd like a diaper cake - which they totally did but I won't see it till that day. Other than that I'm not asking and they aren't telling. they said they are trying to limit it to a "need to know basis" LOL.

I'm a planner, so its been hard not being involved - but I know its better that way and more fun.

Dash26

Im also semi-involved. Mom is taking care of everything but makes sure I agree. We spent one whole day narrowing down the location, till i finally found the one place i fell in love with. She also covered the guest list with me and everything else she has under control. She wants to surprise me, and she knows me well enough to cover what i do or dont like.

happy-honey

I really didn't do anything for mine with DD, but proof a list of invitees.

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bdakerman

samakasrc:

I know the date/time and location. I gave them the guest list and told them what my wishes were. They were pretty simple - I wanted it co-ed (more like a big get together than a feminine shower) and I requested no games (which hasn't panned out, but I guess I'm ok with it now but wasn't before). I also mentioned to them that I'd like a diaper cake - which they totally did but I won't see it till that day. Other than that I'm not asking and they aren't telling. they said they are trying to limit it to a "need to know basis" LOL.

I'm a planner, so its been hard not being involved - but I know its better that way and more fun.

 

Yeah I understand all of this - My Mom and same Cousing  threw one of my Bridial showers (My Mom did my other one with my Maid of Honor) and they both were great. I know everything will be wonderful, but like you said I am a planner too - and I love showers - any type. So, I get really excited and start looking at things and talking to my Mom about things and Oh I like this - or this is a good idea - or ... whatever it may be. What she has told me already I love, and I have not seen the invitations yet - but she told me they are beautiful (I know my wedding shower ones were beautiful and she had the same lady hand make them). My Mom did ask for my guest list and if I wanted to have it out or at home - and did tell me the date. But, last nite my Husband and I were talking about it and he said just let them plan it all - let them surprise you -  and I really agree. I just get excited about things and am a planner. I already know what my Mom will plan will be great.

bdakerman

Thanks guys for all of the input - I appreciate - but please anyone keep posting I love reading what others are doing!!!

I am on board with most everyone else - let them do the planning right?? It is our day

Kimmy1836

I will probably be somewhat involved. I know very specifically what I do and do not want. I want NO games. NMS at all. I also want it to be co-ed so all of our friends/family can share the day with us. We are going to make it more of a swimming/cook-out/cocktails (for everyone else) event than a typical baby shower.

MrsMommyQ

I'm helping my mom (she's hosting) with most of it.  We chose the date together. She chose the location.

I'm helping with the invitations and the games. She wanted to make sure I wanted to play games and that she didn't plan something I didn't want.

I'll probably also help with the favors bc my mom doesn't think they're necessary, but I definitely want them. We're going to make chocolate lollipops, which I'll help make.

ravs420

My sister and my mom are planning our shower..... we were only involved in picking a date and providing addresses of friends that my family did not have.

Looking forward to one less thing for me to do!

jennygirlmt

Not involved at all. I even asked them to not send me an invitation because I don't want to know the theme. I know they are both co-ed and when they are and obviously I provided input on the guest list but that is about it. I think it is way more fun that way.

bloverly

I'm involved in that they'll probably ask me what kinds of foods and cake (if they don't already know I'm a chocoholic by now!) and if I want games. Other than that, it is totally up to them! I'll provide the guest list and addresses and show up looking fabulous and surprised at what they've come up with!

dureem

Not involved except for getting a list of addresses for DH's side.

KandA2006

I'm not involved at all.  Just helped out with the guest list...

 

PubStar09

No one's even brought one up for me yet, but when they do, all I want to suggest is a guest list, and that I REALLY want it to be a couples-friendly BBQ type thing.  Other than that, I'll stay out of it.

SkobysBride

All I provided was a guest list and any addresses that she needed.

amanda31H

I have two showers.

One shower is my friends and my side of the family.  For that shower they requested that I supply them with a guest list to work off of (once we determined a good number), and that's pretty much been it.  The shower will take place at my house, which I'm thrilled about.  I'll be on modified rest at that point, so it was much easier to just have it at my home instead of risking not having me attend!  Oh, and I know that my husband and brother in law are the bar tenders! 

The other shower is really my husband's side of the family and his family friends.  Other than checking on the date with me, I am not involved at all.  I have no idea who is coming, my sister in law just told me the number of people so I was prepared for my registry.

 

bdakerman

amanda31H:

I have two showers.

One shower is my friends and my side of the family.  For that shower they requested that I supply them with a guest list to work off of (once we determined a good number), and that's pretty much been it.  The shower will take place at my house, which I'm thrilled about.  I'll be on modified rest at that point, so it was much easier to just have it at my home instead of risking not having me attend!  Oh, and I know that my husband and brother in law are the bar tenders! 

The other shower is really my husband's side of the family and his family friends.  Other than checking on the date with me, I am not involved at all.  I have no idea who is coming, my sister in law just told me the number of people so I was prepared for my registry.

 

 

So since your first shower is at your house will you be involved with setting up or helping with food - or any of it?