S/O MIL... In re delivery..

**Octoberbride09**

Are you having your MIL in your delivery room? Does she expect to be in your delivery room?

sarasek

No. Only DH and my mom. We're allowed two support people, and those are the people I want. MIL was there for SIL, so DH says she'll understand that I would want my own mother there. She hasn't asked about it yet, but if she does, I have my answer ready for her.

LCB34

Hell NO.

I would be fine if she wasn't even in the state.  I have no clue what her expectations are and don't ever plan on talking to her about it.

FWIW, I don't even want my own mom in the delivery room/

kcrouse06

HAHA...that's funny. It will only be me and DH and the doctor/nurse in the delivery room. We don't need any unwanted distractions.

KelzinBoston

Our hospital frowns upon anyone but husbands being present...and there's no waiting room, and no "drop in" visitors during labor.  LOVE IT!

She can come visit when I've had time to relax, clean up and enjoy my baby

jennygirlmt

Heck no. At least not when I'm pushing and she doens't expect to be. My mom however thinks she will be and I still don't know how I feel about that (MIL wouldn't care if I had just my mom, she is fantastic). But I'm thinking just me and my DH.

tahaira82

I really dont mind... With my DD I eventually put everyone out except my mom and BFF so its kinda like come at your own risk!

Once the epi got my high as a kite, everyone was welcome.  Til this day I swear spongebob was there and 2 fish going on a date...

berta769

Apparently I jumped on here on the right day. I'm able to get all my venting out.       She was more then estatic when I asked her to go with to find out what we were having but I told myself and my roommate that if she expected to be in the delivery room, she's got another thing coming. I want it just DH, LO and I. DH and I don't get enough time alone as it is so I can't imagine having someone else in the delivery room. But she did make the comment that she didn't want to be in the delivery room but I have a feeling she'll change her mind and want to be there but I'm definately sticking to my guns on this one. SHE WILL NOT BE IN THE DELIVERY ROOM.

StevieJo

I don't know if she expects it.  But she wont be. And fortunately there's a rule of only having two people in there and it will be DH and my mom.

kerilynsmith

Hubby and I will be solo.  Im moody enough without that kind of pressure!

winter-shock

Nope she will not be in there. And I have no idea what her expectations are but either way she will not be in there.

Bandia12

No ty mam.. we are not that close. Plus I feel it is an intimate moment for DH and I. She does not expect to be in the delivery room, nor does she wish to. She doesn't want to impede on our time.

We are considering my mom, but that is just a different circumstance.. and it would be decided by both DH and I. He does not wish to have his mom in the room either.

Aloe0l

No and no.

I don't expect to see her for awhile actually since my SIL has her baby due on August 12, and I'm due Sept 1.

Chickpea2010

Cassie730:

1. There's no way that woman is getting anywhere NEAR my naked cha-cha.

2. I think me, DH, my mom, and the doctors and nurses will be enough people.

Everyone else can wait outside in the waiting room until he's here then come in to celebrate and hold him and drink some champagne.

This. A million times, this.

TexasLadyBug

Hells to the NO, lol

My MIL was not in the delivery room when DS was born, my mom was but MIL was not. She was in the waiting room acting like her crazy self. In fact right after I had my son the Dr was finishing up down there on my while I tried to BF DS, MIL walked into the room and started b*tching because my aunt came in the room before her.

Dh yelled at her to get out of the room. It was a private moment for us and our son.

To ice the cake my mom took two photos of me BF my son, you cant really see much nip, but they are private pictures that I am fine with just that the entire world does not need to see nor would want to I am sure. Well MIL downloaded all my photos off my camera then a week later send me a link to her public online photo book, YUp guess what two pictures where there. DH called her right then and told her to remove them. MIL is just fing crazy and she will be far far away from this 2nd baby. 

amanda31H

No way!

I will never understand the people that have an entourage with them during the process!! My friend asked me to go be with her, so I did, but I have to say, I will not be asking my friends to come!

I'm pretty sure it will be DH and me.  DH actually said he might want my Mom there with us.  I'm carrying twins, and high risk, so I think he'd appreciate the extra support.  My mother is also very level headed and not the dramatic OR interfering type.  So it's possible she may be there.  My sister and BIL will be in the waiting room toward the end when it's picture time!

renc9828

When I told DH that I think I want my mom in the room with me (I am a huge baby when it comes to pain so I am hoping she will calm me down), his response was that his mom should be allowed then too. I told him that we had a deal if he let my mom look at his "downstairs" for at least an hour. He quickly realized that I should be able to decide

mysticporter

Bwahaha.  Now that would be a sight.

"Well, that's not how *I* did it, but if that's working for you..."

"That's interesting.  Are you sure you don't need an epidural?  Of course, I didn't need one with either of my children, but you should get one.  I was just lucky, you look like you're in pain."

"My vagina doesn't look like that.  Why does your vagina look like that?"

No, we would not want her there (she lives out of state so it's not really an option, anyway).

shelbell1028

NO WAY!  Will be just Me & Hubby for the delivery!

wearenutts

My MIL wants to be there. I want my mom there if she wants to be but I have a hard time letting my MIL in there. I just don't know how to tell her I don't want her there.

mexicolombiana

oh god no.  My MIL, is a very NICE and sweet woman, but she's flaky, ditzy, and overall a dumbass, and I would want to punch her.

I actually DO want my mom in there cuz she's kick ass when it comes to handling high stress situations and pain and emergencies and stuff.  And just my DH who will be focused on ME and my "top" part of my body so he doesn't freak out with all the gross stuff.

 

Lovin Wife

With DS, I only wanted DH and I.  It ended up both my mom and my MIL were there and I wouldn't change it for the world.  They were both great to have there, supportive, helpful and they said it was the most wonderful experience to see their grandchild born.  I actually love that it turned out that way, a gift to them that I could never have planned.  And once you are in there you really do not feel self concious, but it is up to you ladies.  Plus it depends on the relationships you each have with respective family members.  Just do what you are comfortable with.

Bandia12

mysticporter:

Bwahaha.  Now that would be a sight.

"Well, that's not how *I* did it, but if that's working for you..."

"That's interesting.  Are you sure you don't need an epidural?  Of course, I didn't need one with either of my children, but you should get one.  I was just lucky, you look like you're in pain."

"My vagina doesn't look like that.  Why does your vagina look like that?"

No, we would not want her there (she lives out of state so it's not really an option, anyway).

That all made me giggle! lol. I know some ppl that are like that.

amy0105

No...I really only want my DH in there with me - may call for my mom the day of though...

ZooBaby2010

Our plan has been DH and I only.  But as we get closer, I've been thinking I may want my MIL in the room (and not my mom).  My MIL is a nurse and speaks the language of the hospital staff.  I'm nervous about c-sections and I want someone there who can advocate for me when I'm tired and scared.  I'm not sure my DH or mom will be as articulate as my MIL.  She's much more experienced. 

We'll see though.  I really don't want anyone else there than DH.

Maria Agnesa

Ummm... nope and nope!  And I'm only having DH in the room with me! 

BeckyTheEngineer

What I want is DH and maybe my sister, but I have no idea what I'll get.  DH might not be able to make it, and my sisters are only coming to visit right around my due date.  I know MIL wouldn't want to be there.  She got roped into going in for BIL's baby, and it sounds like it was an all-around awful experience.  My mom would want to be there, but I'm not on board with that idea. She may not be in town though, so I don't plan to bring it up.

jessaug6

Noooo Wayyy! My crazy effing MIL will DEFINITELY not be in that delivery room. Nor does she even want to be thank goodness! She still can't get over the fact that her baby boy is married let alone having a child. She doesn't even know we're having another baby = /  I really hope my mom can come and be there she was there when DD was born, but it's hard for her to take time off and fly to Fl from Ill.

Kendra Lane

My MIL is lactation consultant and just assumed she's be there but I said we only wanted me and hubby in the room - that way neither Mother is hurt. But wait... who will film/take pictures??

Nicoleb1386

 

beebcaf

We haven't actually discussed it with her but I hope she doesn't expect it. It's only going to be DH and me.

Dobie_Mama

Oh hell no.  I'm sure she doesn't want to be there, either.

tmp-406157062502221

NO! And yes, she expects to be in there. She wanted to be in there with DD but I ended up with a c-section and DH was the only one allowed in the room (Thankfully!). I am trying for a VBAC this time and I know she's gonna bring it up soon. She's got NINE, yes NINE!! daughters of her own, three of her other children already have five children total, and she's been in the delivery room with every.single.one. NOT ME!!!

trinakb

I only plan on having DH there, but he is ready and willing to call my mom if I start screaming for her (when i'm sick I still want my mommy).

MIL i know would want to be there but DH and I both don't want that. She tends to make all situations about her, that day wouldn't be any different. I've always gotten bad menstral cramps and she would call me a baby and tell me to suck it up and go into how labor is so easy and drugs are for wusses. Ok....you are going to need to be far away from me when i have my baby!!

laurieb602

**lurking from 3rd tri** Hell no my MIL won't be in the room, she's a sweet sweet lady but not the brightest and she repeats herself CONSTANTLY! ESP if you don't acknowledge what she's saying and I don't want to have to focus on her blathering...will be just DH and myself...my mom was there for DD but I don't think she minds sitting this one out

tyke29

winter-shock:

Nope she will not be in there. And I have no idea what her expectations are but either way she will not be in there.

This.  And I am not sure why she would want to be in there.  She will one of the first to see him I am sure.  But why would you want to see your DIL that you don't know that well in pain during delivery.  I also would not be comfortable with her there. 

Side note - she is the type of person to talk about it and me afterward.  Like I did not do it right or talk to her enough or let her help, etc. 

mrsjenni

Hell no... she'd drive me mad. 

I do think she expected to be in there with #1 and I had DH tell her why we didn't want her in there.  She understood. 

ali_sha006

Heck no, my MIL drives me crazy. I don't need somebody there telling me how to do everything and irritating me.

GreysGirl

I love my MIL, if it was really important to her she could be there. Thankfully it's not important to her because I would rather her not be there

jgirl236

Just for an alternative perspective.....I was not planning to have my MIL in the room with us - just DH and my mom (if needed).  At the 11th hour - we changed our mind and had her in the room.  And I wouldn't have changed that decision for anything.  She respectfully stayed up by my head and helped me so much with putting my chin to my chest to push.  (Note:  My MIL is a nurse and works in a hospital - she is very comfortable there).  It was not my plan or my first choice but she ended up being really helpful and was so appreciative of being there when her very 1st grandchild was born.

I had my DH - Mom and MIL - and it was great.  They were very entertaining to have around and keep my spirits up.  Amazing but true! 

mexicolombiana

laurieb602:

**lurking from 3rd tri** Hell no my MIL won't be in the room, she's a sweet sweet lady but not the brightest and she repeats herself CONSTANTLY! ESP if you don't acknowledge what she's saying and I don't want to have to focus on her blathering...will be just DH and myself...my mom was there for DD but I don't think she minds sitting this one out

Are you sure we don't have the same MIL? seriously.  Mine does the same thing with the repeating herself.