Is there such thing as a depressing baby name...(opinions please)

kasslynne

I am needing some opinions if you don't mind!: )

We have decided on the name Holden and H and I both LOVE it! 

Here is the kicker, before we knew we were having a boy my H has always asked that the middle name no matter what be Derek which I have no problem with. Derek was H's best friend growing up and they were inseparable...4 years ago Derek took his own life and H has always had a hard time with it and has always wanted to 'honor" him and his family.

I finally told my sister (she is the only one we are keeping it from other family members) And she said I love it! But, it is a pretty depressing name...Holden Caulfield kills himself in Cather in the Rye. 

I didn't even think of this she pointed it out and then said but I still love the name! 

Am I reading to much into it now? Or do you think a lot of people will put two and two together?

Or am I just being hormonal today? It could be all of the above.

TIA

 

ZooBaby2010

Reading too much into it.  If it is something you treasure it should be celebrated and it sounds like Derek was a good friend.

Sarahk8

If you love the name then stick with it I dont think its depressing.

amanda31H

I think having the middle name after a close friend is a special thing... but every time I hear the name Holden, all I can think is Catcher in the Rye - if it doesn't bother you, then go for it!

Pumpkin&Roo

If it's not depressing to you, then it doesn't really matter.  However, I do think it's kind of morbid so I probably wouldn't explain it to others if you don't want them to think it's depressing.

BecExpecting

kasslynne:

I am needing some opinions if you don't mind!: )

We have decided on the name Holden and H and I both LOVE it! 

Here is the kicker, before we knew we were having a boy my H has always asked that the middle name no matter what be Derek which I have no problem with. Derek was H's best friend growing up and they were inseparable...4 years ago Derek took his own life and H has always had a hard time with it and has always wanted to 'honor" him and his family.

I finally told my sister (she is the only one we are keeping it from other family members) And she said I love it! But, it is a pretty depressing name...Holden Caulfield kills himself in Cather in the Rye. 

I didn't even think of this she pointed it out and then said but I still love the name! 

Am I reading to much into it now? Or do you think a lot of people will put two and two together?

Or am I just being hormonal today? It could be all of the above.

TIA 

My husband and I are asking each other the same question. If we have a girl, we're naming her Dana, because husband had an uncle named Dana who died of cancer last summer. He was a wonderful man, and the family misses him a lot.. so we wonder if it's too soon for people to be reminded of this painful event and person they miss so much.

However, I generally think the birth of a child is such a positive thing, maybe that will help.

aldyn

ZooBaby2010:

Reading too much into it. 

Holden Derek is a fine name.  I'm sure Derek would prefer it if people remembered all the good things and not how he died.  Approach it from that perspective ~ you're honoring your DH's best friend with the middle name, period.

Bandia12

As far as Holden goes, that's not depressing.. it's a fictional character for petes sake. lmao. And if you love the name, go with it . I think it's sweet that you are honoring DH's friend, we were considering doing the same (pretty much same circumstances) but it didn't really go with Tristan.

I don't think any of it is depressing.

katielisa777

I'm weird about names.  I don't like names that could be mistaken for part of a sentance.

Hi, I'm Holden Derek.

Hi, I'm holdin' Derek.

I hope this doesn't upset you, that's just how my brain works.  I have a last name that is a noun so I'm really careful about how names sound together.

kasslynne

katielisa777:

I'm weird about names.  I don't like names that could be mistaken for part of a sentance.

Hi, I'm Holden Derek.

Hi, I'm holdin' Derek.

I hope this doesn't upset you, that's just how my brain works.  I have a last name that is a noun so I'm really careful about how names sound together.

No not at all I have been questioning it too but I am trying to approach bringing it up with H cautiously. 

Karibride

I didn't think it was depressing when I said the name Holden, but after you associated it with Catcher in the Rye, I did too. Not to mention Derek is after a friend who took his life as well. That's two names connected to suicide and death. So after I think about it, I consider it a bit depressing. If you choose those names, maybe you should omit the depressing stuff about the name Holden and tell people the middle name is after a dear friend who passed away.

kellielea79

I don't find it depressing in the least.  Holden is NMS, but I don't hate it.  I do really like the name Derek though.

S&V*A&F122009

Sarahk8:

If you love the name then stick with it I dont think its depressing.

 

I agree...we are naming this little guy Gage...I get the whole Pet Cemetary thing ALL the dang time...I don't care I love it. Oh and his middle name will be Matthew after my big brother who I love so dearly. I would still name my son that even if something bad happened to him.

greener_beaner

I would've never thought of that.  I think that it's a nice name.  There are always going to be people who disagree with the name that you choose.  I would go with whatever you and your husband like. 

kasslynne

S&V*A&F122009:

Sarahk8:

If you love the name then stick with it I dont think its depressing.

 

I agree...we are naming this little guy Gage...I get the whole Pet Cemetary thing ALL the dang time...I don't care I love it. Oh and his middle name will be Matthew after my big brother who I love so dearly. I would still name my son that even if something bad happened to him.

Love the name Gage and Love Pet Cemetery but you are right, never would have put that together! 

meghan_marie

You are reading WAAAAYYY too much into it. Think about how many people that have your name that have killed themselves. I can promise you there are a bunch of people that share your name that have taken their own lives. I love the name you chose. Stick with it girl!

harper14

Holden was my Grandma's maiden name so to me that is what I first thought of, I would have never associated it with Catcher and the Rye. If we were having a boy it would have been on our top list. Also how ofton do we actually say our first name and middle name together so I wouldn't worry to much about that. After loosing many friends one way or another I think it is nice when people remember them by using there names. If you guys like it go for it! One thing that's helped me make sure I am choosing the right name is saying her name out loud either by talking to her, talking to my DH about her or by just talking about her things.