Other Law Students out there?
FutureThoughts
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I'm excited to have seen 2 other law students on this board. How'd you get over the "Am I crazy for doing this"? What's your story? What's your "plan"?
My husband and I are both 1L's. He's about to be 29 and I'll be 28 this summer. The hardest part about deciding to go back to school for me was the issue of starting a family. As in, I really want to start. But decided at the time that 3 years isn't so bad and we'll just start immediately at graduation or maybe even before -- after all I'll be 30 when I'm done and that doesn't leave much babymaking time. The subject of babies came up in discussion with 2 different (30-something) female professors I have, and both suggested that law school was actually an ideal time to start!
How are others handling "scheduling" - if you're even trying to schedule the miracle -? Taking a semester off? Attempting to plan for a summer baby and miss the almost-required summer work? Love to hear others' thoughts!
Re: Other Law Students out there?
I was not married when I was a law student, so this was not something I considered at that time. However, there were a few women in my classes that had children before or during law school.
One of my friends had twins shortly before law school started. She had family support with watching her babies. Both her parents and in-laws lived locally. Her children stayed with one of their grandparents while she was in class and when she was studying if her husband was unable to watch them.
Whether you choose to have children during law school or after, it will always take some juggling. While I could afford children more now that I am working, my hours are so much longer than they were in law school...
I wish you the best in whatever you choose.
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I am a 2L and my husband is an elementary school teacher. We were set on waiting until after I graduated (that was before I even started law school). The first year we were fine with it, but we decided to start trying now. 2L year is not a good time to be pregnant IMO. It is the hardest year work wise. Have you been told the saying (if your like me you've heard it a million times): 1st year they scare you, second year they work you, 3rd year they bore you? It is definitely true. What law school do you go to? I know several people who have kids already that are in law school, but the only ones I've known who are pregnant, are pregnant in their third year. We were going to start trying next August because the baby would be born after I graduate, and in between my Marine Corps training. We decided last month that we wanted to try right away- my training can be pushed back and 3rd year is the the easiest year to do it in so I'm told. Do you have insurance? Most schools have insurance plans, but really look into it unless you can afford it out of pocket. Also, a lot of schools have day care for their students that is associated with the school of education within your university, but it can be a more expensive route (counter intuitive I know!).
Please feel free to email me (my PMs aren't really working): [email protected]
But all in all, its what you think you and your hubby can handle! When I got my IUD taken out, my doctor was more excited than my best friend that we were not putting our life on hold just because I am in school- she told me to go for it! It may be a simple thing, but it stuck with me!
Thanks for all the support and the sharing ladies! GL to all of you too
My husband is a 3L, and he thinks it would be crazy to get pregnant during law school. He really wanted me to type this, so this is his opinion. One of his classmates just had a baby in Dec., and he said she never sees her baby.
I got pregnant right after DH started law school. Luckily DD was born during the summer and he had a flexible internship that allowed him to spend a lot of time bonding/helping. It was really rough when he started back, though. So I will say that it's definitely doable, but it will be hard. Good luck to you!