i cant help but wonder ...

MrsEmm

when ppl say having a kid didnt change them.?

Wether a little or a lot - becoming a mother changes you, imo. Any moms care to weigh in on this??

allyandpat2010

I'm still me. I think that "mom" gene just kicked in. Like the term "eyes in the back of your head" ya.. that happens... you become more aware of everything around you and your child. But my personality, characteristics that make me, me havent changed.

I'm gonna add it doesn't change you so much as it adds to who you are!

aldyn

It definitely changed me.  I find I'm much more sensitive to tragedies... and if I ever hear of anything bad happening to another baby it just wrecks me.

MrsH44

I'm not a mom yet, but I fully expect things to change!

bloverly

allyandpat2010:

I'm still me. I think that "mom" gene just kicked in. Like the term "eyes in the back of your head" ya.. that happens... you become more aware of everything around you and your child. But my personality, characteristics that make me, me havent changed.

I'm gonna add it doesn't change you so much as it adds to who you are!

I won't know until July, but I think that's what happens. Every experience in life 'changes' you. Graduating high school, college, getting married, etc. All are big life experiences and they all change you in some way. I think that so many of our elders (I mean that in a nice way!) just make it out to be that you'll lose your identity, who you are, and life will become something totally different, and usually bad. Why they're so negative I'll never know! But that's what gets pounded into our heads, so maybe when a mom says she doesn't think it changed her, she means that she is still herself, but with some added bonus features like Ally said. Just an educated guess. We'll see come July haha!

AnnapolisLari

I think that people who say that a baby didn't change them are either delusional, really bad parents, or have a live in nanny who takes care of everything.

jko123

Changed me..in more ways than one. One of the biggest changes was he taught me not to take things for granted...especially life! He was born with a CHD and had to fight hard for life. He had his first open heart surgery at 4 days old...weighing only 6lbs 5oz. He spent 7 1/2 weeks in the NICU fighting problems with feeding and having other random surgeries before he finally got to go home. 6 months old he went in for his second open heart surgery and spent another 9 days in the hospital recovering. He has his 3rd open heart within a month of his sisters arrival. We now face each day not knowing what it's going to bring for us. While he's doing amazingly well, things with kids like him can change in the drop of a hat.

Another big change was actually having something depend on me that didn't have 4 legs! Before I could leave whenever I wanted and leave her home to fend for herself. Now I take the time to gather up all of his stuff and make sure I have snacks and plenty of toys (short attention span so just a couple toys don't work with him LOL) but honestly I wouldn't have it any other way!! I remember saying I would NEVER have kids, but now I think being a mom is the greastest feeling in the world!

These are just a couple ways becoming a mother has changed me...I could go on and tell our story for hours  

smilee

I am not a mom, yet.  But, I tend to think that experiences, especially major ones, change you. 

anmorgan32

smilee:

I am not a mom, yet.  But, I tend to think that experiences, especially major ones, change you. 

 

I agree. And I think even pregnancy has changed me a little, especially the way I think. I have started to think like a mom already.