Wavering on Team Green plan!

CarrieBrad

I was so dead set on being Team Green - I've ALWAYS wanted that moment - ya know where they hold the baby up and say "It's a ..."  I hate the thought of not having that.  Plus, I tend to be a "go against mainstream" on everything - so I was priding myself in saying "we won't be finding out".

But ugh... I'm sort of wanting to find out!  I want to decorate her room - yes, I'm hoping for a girl!   And know for sure she is a she!

I'm sort of mad at myself for wavering.  Can anyone relate to that?  I know some are dead set on finding out and want to tell their reasons why... but I wanna hear from those who fell more into the fence sitting category and why you chose one way over the other!?!?

THANKS!

JulySpark05

Before I got pregnant I was ok with not finding out but then I just couldnt wait to find out what I was having so I had to know!! Also, like you, I wanted to be able to decorate her room and have everything ready for a specific gender so that's what made me make my decision = ) Good Luck with whatever you choose to do!

MrsMommyQ

I always wanted to wait. When DH and I found out I was PG, I asked him if he wanted to know and he said he definitely did. I let him have the final say, bc I get to experience a lot more since I'm the pregnant one. I wanted him to have some say in this too. So...we found out and it's awesome.

Also, DH was really hoping for a boy, and I think knowing has been great for him. We're having a girl and he can't stop talking about his daughter. I think it's been great for him to have a little bit of time to get used to have a little girl. He is one of 3 boys and has never been around little girls at all.

Serafeena

I'm of the "its a surprise at 20 weeks just like at birth" opinion.  I think a lot of Team Greeners choose that path to go against the "mainstream".  If you want to know, find out.  It's an amazing moment no matter when you choose to find out.

FishNchips1

I wasnt team green but just knowing my LO is a girl like DH thought makes everything so much easier ! I can plan her room and buy cute little girly things!

now people who are on Team Green are going to tell you to hold strong! GL with your decision.

ericndarcy2009

I always wanted to find out. But my DH wanted to wait. He finally caved because he was so set on having a boy that he wanted to find out so he could get used to the idea if it was a girl. Of course he'd love it either way, but when your heart is set on one thing, it can be an adjustment if it turns out to be something else.

astroMom

mine is mostly for planning & bonding...for example...if you have your heart set on it being gender X, and it is gender Y...I wouldn't want to take ANY chance of let down in that moment, even if it is overcome by all the other happiness...I want to have a chance to bond w/ the baby and know to call it he or she, etc.

Aliliv

I'm a bit of a fence sitter.   I've done it both ways, and all I can tell you is that for me, both ways were extremely fun and neither experience is better than the other.   

I liked finding out, because (for me and me only) I felt like I was bonding more with my baby throughout the pregnancy.   But, with my first it was kind of fun not knowing because everything about the pregnancy and the idea of a baby was new to me.

GL with your decision!  You really can't go wrong, either way!

jess60

Like you, & for many of the same reasons, I've always wanted to wait.

Once my big u/s got closer & closer I started thinking it wouldn't be too terrible to find out...perhaps by accident?  It would make things a lot easier.

I made it through the big u/s without finding out & am VERY glad I'm still on Team Green.

Kemily04

We're team Green.  I was dead set on it the first pregnancy and was happy we stayed team green.  This time, I wanted to know and my DH wanted to know.  But once the day was upon us, I decided I didn't want to know and so we didn't.  This is probably my last baby and it's a healthy pregnancy, unlike the last. I feel like I'm finally getting my "dream" pregnancy. 

With my DS, I SOOOOOOO wanted a girl and KNEW I'd be disappointed if if it was a boy at 20 weeks.  But when he was born, there wasn't one single part of me that cared he was a boy.  I loved him from the minute I saw him.

 I say don't find out.  I believe whole-heartedly that it's a surprise no matter when you find out but the moment in the delivery room is soooo worth all the hard work you just did. 

BeckyTheEngineer

I wanted to be team green too, but since DH won't be back for 4 months and might not be here in time, we decided to find out so he'd know.  We planned to just keep it to the 2 of us, but when we mentioned that we may not be sharing the info, our families got really upset.  Each person figured that they would deserve to be the one person "in" on the secret.  The nagging would have been awful.

So, we ended up finding out and telling.  Our rationale was that it was so not worth causing family drama, even if it means ending up with tons of gender specific things (which we didn't want) and "advice" about what the name will be.

jjcrew2006

I know you wanted to hear from some on the fencers but I must tell you that I'm so glad I found out because that was honestly one of the best days of my life (without exaggeration!).  DH and I were on cloud 9 all day long sharing the news with everyone and now I love to call him a "him".  I feel so connected with him.  I feel like instead of 1 amazing moment, I get to have 2 (amongst all the other wonderful moments in becoming a mother).  GL to you in your decision, whatever you do will be perfect for you!

Sarahk8

I was 100% team green, I absolutely did NOT want to find out what I was having. Most people in my family wait to find out so I wanted to do the same and like you I wanted the moment when the baby comes out and they say "its a ...". LIke you I really wanted a girl also...well at my 18 week ultrasound the tech wasnt too discreat and I noticed it was a boy, no doubt in my mind what I saw(I later confirmed to make sure hehe) and I tell you what its not so bad lol! I kinda of like knowing what I"m having, its fun to shop and pick out names and bedding and what not. And I will be honest I had a brief moment of disapointment when I did find out it was a boy and I'm glad it happned then not when my baby boy came out. so all in all I"m happy to know I'm having this wonderful baby boy : ). Go with your gut its fun either way you find out : )

MrsEricH

Don't give in!  I wavered a little bit right before our big u/s, but I'm really glad we stuck to our guns and did not find out.  GO TEAM GREEN! 

winter-shock

I am exactly the same. My DH is staying firm. But  I am totally getting weak and want to find out. But then I worry that if I do I will be disappointed that I did.