Llil J came to us one year ago - and a court update

MyColonyNJ

Lil J came into our home one year ago.  The past year have been one of the most stressful yet rewarding year.

Of course over the last year, there have been many ups and downs.  We delt with behavior problems, severe food issues, really bad things with the bio mom, court problems, the list goes on and on.

But, we also dealt with getting hugs and kisses, teaching a "broken" boy how to love, giving love to someone that some never thought was possible, seeing a little boy become a great big brother, and seeing excitement through the eyes of a child.

Our family is forever changed by this little boy - and not just MY family, but my parents, my sisters, my husband's family, extended cousins, etc, etc.

Our lives are forever changed by this little boy.  Even if he were to go back to his mom (NOT likely), we feel as though the last year would forever change the rest of our lives.

OK - OK

enough sappy stuff

We had court the other day.  Court was a Permancy Hearing.  All the very bad stuff that has happened in the last year was brought up.  The judge had gotten a (very) long write up of the case as well.  Not only was the last year brought up, but also her long CPS history with other children, as well her entire criminal history.

At the end of the day, the judge DECLARED that it is unsafe and immoral to return the child to his mother (at this time).  And the lawyers for CPS have until April 19th to submit the formal request to terminate her rights.

Although the request will be submitted, we still have a very long road ahead of us.  Bio mom will probably contest the termination of rights, and then appeal the decision when they are terminated. etc etc.

There have been some issues with court - mainly due to the fact that bio mom lives in another state - and she is fighting certain jurisdiction issues.  But, no matter what state, her issues would never allow her to get him back.

so, there is the update - sorry it was so long

GLynn2009

One year makes a big changes. I hope this go well for you in court. Maybe by this time next year it will all be a memory,

ksmeg78

Congratulations on reaching such a milestone! It sounds like a tough road ahead, but I am glad that no matter how long it takes or what happens, J won't be going back to his bio mom. It sounds like you all have had a great year with lots and lots of progress!

pepomntpat

I'm so glad Lil J found you and you all found him.  I'll continue to pray that things go well for you all.

Dr.Loretta

Thanks for the update. I can't believe it's been a year! I hope things continue to go toward permanency and you will be a forever family soon.

candm

I cannot believe it's been a year already. Time really does fly. Congratulations on the baby steps in court!

Cissi64

I'm praying that things continue to go well for Lil J and your family. (I'm also hoping to get to see his face in your siggy in about 6 months or so!)

MyColonyNJ

Cissi64:

I'm praying that things continue to go well for Lil J and your family. (I'm also hoping to get to see his face in your siggy in about 6 months or so!)

I can't wait to show him off...but sadly it will probably be MUCH more than 6 months

kirstenw05

What a GREAT update! Yes, it will be a long road, but worth every step! We are finally finalizing next Friday, and it will be just short of 2 years since we took our first step...

Great update - I am so blessed to hear of your good news today!

MyColonyNJ

kirstenw05:

What a GREAT update! Yes, it will be a long road, but worth every step! We are finally finalizing next Friday, and it will be just short of 2 years since we took our first step...

Great update - I am so blessed to hear of your good news today!

this is amazing news!

CaptainSerious

What a wild ride you've been on throughout the past year!  I'm so happy that your family has been so wonderfully touched by Little J's presence in your life.  You all sound really lucky to have found one another!