Disturbed by this KellyMom post

Zenya

This person weaned her DS when he was 5 months old and he is now 4 and has a lot of allergies so she wants to relactate.  She has all sorts of issues that make that difficult.

The part that I find disturbing is that she is getting him to actually nurse.  Like they are looking at youtube videos etc.  

I don't have an issue with a 4 year old 'still' nursing.  Or even restarting bf'ing a 4 year old who weaned a few weeks early (not for me, either scenario but whatever).  But a child who basically  never nursed?

I weaned my DS when he was almost 2 and he is now almost 4.  I find the idea of asking him to nurse now completely disturbing.  

I wonder if it's a troll.

ans1999

That is totally creepy in my book. Will breastmilk really help him at this point?

xbrooklyngrl

That is disturbing.

karen6784

Is it possible to relactate after such a long period of time?  I have seen other posts about things on KellyMom that are odd.  Perhaps a troll from here migrated over to KM?!

Andrewsgal

ans1999:

That is totally creepy in my book. Will breastmilk really help him at this point?

I agree, how much will it really help him at this point.

That woman sounds a little unstable to me, I can imagine trying to teach DD to nurse now, it just eeks me out thinkiing about it.

vtgirl

xbrooklyngrl:

That is disturbing.

This times a whole lot!!!

Jodi&Joe

A child who never nursed?!?!  Um, 5 months IS nursing. 

At any rate, I pray it's a troll b/c I hate to think there is some wackjob women out there trying to BF her 4 year old -- who hasn't BF'd in 3.5 years!  And duh, he already HAS the allergies.  How is this NOW going to help him!?!?!?

 

Zenya

Jodi&Joe:

A child who never nursed?!?!  Um, 5 months IS nursing. 

No I know that but in terms of 'remembering' or whatever.  It's not like this child is going to have conscious memory of it.  She's having to teach it to him via youtube?  IDK.  All the responses are so supportive.  I feel like it has to be a troll.

Jodi&Joe

Wait, ....did you just say "all of the responses are supportive!?"

Hey, I know I'm crazy but that's a whole new brand of crazy right there!

Zenya

yup.

https://forum.kellymom.net/showthread.php?t=134429

Jodi&Joe

I could probably get past the weirdness (ok, probably not but just for argument's sake).....IF there was some actual benefit to it.  But there isn't.  Does she think BM is going to eliminate the already existing allergies?  It's not.

And if she really does think that, go to a BM bank or something.

jpowell3

I'll be completely honest and say I find it disturbing nursing a child past two. I know it isn't my place to judge & I would never say something to someone unless it was a close friend. I can't help it if those thoughts cross my mind. With that said if the child is having medical problems and they NEED breastmilk.....why the he!! wouldn't you just pump & put it into a cup for them?

**Edit - Ok, I just read her post and I see that she isn't actually nursing him, she is pumping......so I digress **

Zenya

jpowell3:

I'll be completely honest and say I find it disturbing nursing a child past two. I know it isn't my place to judge & I would never say something to someone unless it was a close friend. I can't help it if those thoughts cross my mind. With that said if the child is having medical problems and they NEED breastmilk.....why the he!! wouldn't you just pump & put it into a cup for them?

**Edit - Ok, I just read her post and I see that she isn't actually nursing him, she is pumping......so I digress **

no  - she is trying to nurse, too.  Her last update:

And interesting thing has happened with all of this. When I first started this, I explained to DS, in the best way that I could, what was going on. Of course, it's not that easy to explain, so I showed him videos on youtube. This seemed to satisfy his curiosity. So, a couple of nights ago, when he saw me pumping he said, "Can I nurse?" I was absolutely blown away! Of course, I let him. He didn't stay on for long, but he did it off and on. The same thing last night, and then tonight. He asks to nurse when he sees me pump, and I thought it would be all the better since he could most likely get things going like no pump could. And I love feeling that bond again...the bond that no one else has with him. I know, regardless of how much milk I end up making, or for how long I keep pumping, that I can't breastfeed him forever. But for right now, it's good.  

jpowell3

Sigh: I didn't read all the way down on her original post & now I'm glad I didn't. Ds hasn't even seen me naked in over a year, I can't imagin whipping out my boob & having him suck on it.

dnagal

jpowell3:

Sigh: I didn't read all the way down on her original post & now I'm glad I didn't. Ds hasn't even seen me naked in over a year, I can't imagin whipping out my boob & having him suck on it.

 

This just made my drink come out my nose. 

us2andKatetoo

Can you even start re-making milk after that long?  Or did some ding dong Dr. actually give her the drugs to start the relactation process?

That is insanely gross, and I am very pro-nursing. 

Angela814

I don't get it. How is bfing him even going to help with allergies at this point?

I weaned DD at 3yrs 2mos. She's ocassionally asked for mommy milk now when we've talked about how the baby will drink it. I just tell her there's none left now. Once she asked if she could have some after the baby came. I asked her if she remembered how to drink it. She said no, and that was that. I'm not really planning to nurse her again a year after she was weaned.