*XBrooke*

emilykristene2006

DH used to do DD's bedtime routine every night. Once DS came we started swapping off. He'd take one and I would take the other.

I could not believe how long her bedtime routine was. By the end of the day I was so done with kids that I could not handle the routine. Me and DH just came to agreement, it had to be shortened. Now she gets one book, tells us about her day and that's it. She was literally spending 30 minutes looking out the window saying goodnight to the world. It was cute, but it was just a stall. 

She adjusted really quick to the shorter routine. We just told her that mommy and daddy needed their time together so both her and her brother had to go to bed. That was it.

I know you've said before that B is easy to reason with, so maybe you just have to try it!

xbrooklyngrl

Well thats the thing, she's always been sucky with bed, everything else, yes she's a DREAM. So right around her 3rd Birthday, we'd do a book or two, say good night and I left, that was it. Then slowly she started asking me to stay a few minutes, ok I said ok. And of course, it just got worse and worse and its out of control again.

I agree with you, I need to shorten it now again, I just don't know how to do that without it turning into me yelling. I hate it.

emilykristene2006

Maybe you could do something after dinner that's special for her and let her know that at bedtime it will just be a book and that's it?

Sometimes we let DD stay up a little later and have a bowl of cereal with me and DH and just sit and chat. It's like she needs that from both of us. Then when we go to bed we say, no book tonight since it's late or just a short story. She has always been fine with that. She'd rather have our undivided attention than a long bedtime routine.

Or we go for ice cream or the bookstore. 

xbrooklyngrl

That's the thing, she does get that, after dinner and clean up, she and I just play and dance or watch TV, we usually have 2ish hours from dinner until I give her a bath. And its just us two since DH is working.

She's greedy! lol

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Sorry butting.  Lorelei is the same way.  We have the same amount of time and I do think they want us to be with them as much as they can get.  And I love being with her, too, but I need a moment to myself atthe end of teh day too.  It is usually just us 2 as well.  We are down to 2 books.  Then it gets abd after that.  Lights out and I tell her a story.  Then she asks if I will stay with her for awhile.  So I started timining it she got 3 minutes.  (I don't actually time, just what feels liek 3 mins.) and I tell okay 2 mins. left, 1 min. no mins.and tehn she is fine and lets me leave.  Lately she wants 2 books, 2 stories, 5 songs an dtehn 3 mins.  Oha nd 3 mins. was agreed on and hs elove sit because she is 3.  Everything is in sets of 3.  I have to start limiting this now.  What's gonna happen when she's 4??  She is going to want me tostay for 4 mins, 4 books, etc.  LOL 

 I'm going to go gradual.  We ar egoing to go to 1 book, 1 story and 3 songs.    Then 1 book ro 1 story not both.  And so on.  We used to do 3 books, but we decreased that so I think if you go slow it'll work with little yelling or frustration from either of you.