I'm kind of amazed by all the positives I'm finding to being 1 & done.

summerbrideDC

LOL 

I spent SO long TTC and was so consumed by it, now that it's over, I am kind of overwhelmed by how many *good* things i am finding about not having another baby.  

don't get me wrong; I've cried more in the past week than I have in years and it feels very much like a little piece of me has just died.  

but practically speaking, there are so many positives.  I'm trying to focus on those.

 

Mrs.JDD

I am so glad that you are able to look at things in a positive light right now.  Good for you   You are rife with positive-ness.  Yes, I just made up the word positiveness because it is better than positivity.  Also, I sent you a pm the other day after making a posting blunder while attempting to page you...

summerbrideDC

I didn't realize you'd PM'd me; I just saw it! LOL  thanks for thinking of me. 

Love your sig pics! One of my girlfriends has a 10m old and right now I'm just loving cuddling with her and then being able to give her back! LOL  

I am rife with the positiveness right now--it goes back and forth.  But today was a good day.  :-) 

AviatorJJ

yeah, what are they? im feeling guilty over not having another.

Heidisean

((((HUGS)))))

emilykristene2006

You really are amazing you know.

We had a play date today. The mom was amazed at how great I am with my kids. She thinks I have all this patience for my two. She said she only has one and she's frazzled. She told me I was smart by having two so they have someone to play with.

I guess I have people fooled. I may look like I have patience, but on the inside I am thinking I would love to thrash on the floor in a tantrum just like DD and DS. Or throw a toy back at them. Sometimes I think, "Why the hell did we have a second?" All they do is fight! I'm starting to think she was the smart one.

summerbrideDC

Aviator, for me, the practical positives are a lot about the pregnancy--no cerclage, no stress about loss or the advanced maternal age testing, no bedrest and hospitalization, no preterm labor.  Oh, and no risk of uterine rupture or recovery from a c-section.

After delivery--no NICU, no sleep deprivation, no colic, no bf'ing issues, no worrying about how Ethan adjust and how it changes our relationship.  

Also? With Ethan being almost 4 and on his way to school, I am reclaiming a LOT of my independence. LOL  Thinking about going back to work, having more time to read and to write.  Sleeping longer, exercising more.  Going to dinner parties w/ friends where Ethan and his friends play independently for hours--so many things I forgot I enjoyed, I can enjoy again.  

And yes, that idea of having to find patience for a whole other child and the fighting or rivalry or whatever may come down the line.  I'm glad I only need patience for one child now. LOL

And financially, there is the reality that now we will be able to provide a lot more for Ethan than we would if we had more children.  College, vacations, etc.  Things we weren't sure we'd be able to swing we are now more confident we will be able to.

Clearly I've spent some time trying to brainstorm the positives of my epic barrenness. LOL 

jettagurl

I agree with the "you really are amazing" part.  I hope you continue to keep the positive spirit and really enjoy your son.  I have Mom & Ben days every so often, and I can't express how much I love it.  They're at that age of really becoming little people and so much of my day gets wrapped up in diapers and bottles, that sometimes I really miss just my momma's boy and I jumping in the car to spend some time at the park, just us.  I love all my kiddos, but I really see many great things about having just one.  Great things await you and your only.   He's well loved, that's obvious, and you're a great mom for following your heart and taking care of yourself.

Angela814

I think it's so great that you can keep such a positive attitude. I like the list of positives. It's a great list.

Glendi2.0

I think that's a great attitude. The reality is, every situation can be dramatically skewed by how you choose to perceive it. I'll be honest, I love my girls more than life itself. But I always get this little twinge of jealousy when I see a mom with just one kid, and she's able to focus on him/her completely and really just take him/her all in, KWIM? It makes me cherish my alone time with each girl so much more, and a little sad that I don't get more of it.  You get an endless supply of that with Ethan. And having a 4-year-old myself, I know for a fact just how fun and kick-ass this age can be. Lucky you.