Tell me about your rewards charts for your 3/4 yr olds.

winomom22

I am at my wits end with dd and I need to try something different other than constantly threatening her to get her to listen to me. I was thinking of a rewards chart for when she listens well and does the things I ask right away-getting dressed, picking up her toys, going to bed without a battle etc.

Do you give a sticker for each day of good listening or each task? How many stickers do they have to get before earning a reward? Thanks!

camrude

We have this one from Melissa and Doug. If DD gets the majority of her chart filled up for the week and has good reports from school she gets to pick a special fun thing of her choice. Could be movie night, having a mommy/daddy slumber party, making cupcakes, going to the zoo, etc. Every once in a while it's a toy - but since her bday was just over a month ago, we are on a new toy ban.

I really like this chart because you can swap new responsibilities in/out.

 

 

Halo79RN

IDK ...A friend of mine was just raving about doing this with her dc.  she uses a sheet of paper on fridge.  they list or place a pic of the prize her dc gets when he fills the sheet.  I would think you could just do squares ... maybe 12 for a small prize. I think she was doing big prizes like Toy Story toys and whatnot.  but he gets a sticker after each good behavior. so if she asks him to pick up his toys and he does it.  or she asks him to get changed for bed and he does without fuss.  that sort of thing. 

I was thinking about doing it b/c dd is fighting me on picking up toys.  that's her big defiance.  the darn toys and books everywhere.. she'd rather me throw them away.  

darlene'smommy

We have 2 charts one is for chores (picking up her toys, bringing her plate to the sink and putting her dirty clothes in the basket).  She gets a sticker for each one right before bed aslong as she has done them all if not then she gets a sticker for what she has done.

 

For her listening chart I give her stickers when I feel she is being good and listening to me.  So she may have done good in the food store so I will give her one or did what I ask and I will give her one. 

I use this one and another like it once she fills up the circles she gets a suprise.  I go to the $ tree or target $ spot and get things from there and they sit in a basket then she can pick what she wants.

https://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com/behavior%20charts%20single%20pdf/frog%20beh%20chart%20pdf.pdf

 

Here is where I got her charts

https://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com

AggieCouple

I base mine on particular studies on reward-based behavior.  

 If you promise a reward, the next time you ask them to do something, they may not do it unless a reward is promised.  If you surprise them with a reward, they are more likely to continue doing it, even without the promise of a reward.

 So, every once in a while, after ML finishes her chores (folding napkins, setting the table), I reward her with a chart sticker.  TB also gets random stickers for his chart for putting the dirty napkins in the hamper, or putting the clothes in the hamper.

Since it's random, I can space it out based on a few week's time to fill up a chart of 16.  After they BOTH finish their charts (studies of group's rewards based on individual performance also indicates having that sort of boot camp mentality where everyone is rewarded if EVERYONE does well encourages the desired behavior), we get to eat at Chick-Fil-A, which they LOVE.

shouldbworkin

IMHO, I think reward charts only work if you already have a good system of discipline.  My DS was a handful at 3 y/o and using Love and Logic helped stop the battle of the wills and the negotiating for good behavior.  Once we had that down, we introduced a reward chart that keeps my kids motivated to use good behavior.  I pick a few behaviors that I would like to see improvement on every week and jot them down on a piece of paper, draw a graph and give them stickers for doing a good job in each category and then a sticker for the day for getting 2/3 or 3/5 stars for the day.  Once they have a star for every day of the week, I let them visit the treasure box, which is filled with little treats like tatoos, ring pops, bubbles, stickers, etc.  I talk to my kids about what we're putting down and we talk about their behavior when I give them stickers too.  It has made good behavior fun for everyone. 

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winomom22

These are all great ideas! Thanks everyone!