WDYT of doctor correcting DD

newmomma1

Both daughters are sick right now.  At the doctors the other day my older (3 yrs) daughter was trying to make my baby laugh while she was getting examined.  So my 3 yr old says "poopie" a few times.  Normally I don't like her saying this and would tell her to stop but I am quite exhausted dealing with 2 sick girls and really didn't want to bother with saying anything.  The doctor said to her no potty talk unless we are in the potty.  And he went on for a little bit.  He turns to me and says that this is the age that this happens and if we don't stop it they'll continue.  

I was a little off put.  Didn't really bother me at the time but thought it was odd.

Thoughts?

 

CleoKitty

I would be put-off too. I go to the doctor for her medical expertise, not unsolicited disciple/parenting opinions. I wouldn't go switching doctors or anything like that just because of the little incident, but I would still be annoyed.

breezee_bean

it's not really a big deal at all IMO.

xbrooklyngrl

I don't really see anything wrong. Now if he turned to your DD and made a comment, that would be a different issue for me.

stacynikki

CleoKitty:

I would be put-off too. I go to the doctor for her medical expertise, not unsolicited disciple/parenting opinions. I wouldn't go switching doctors or anything like that just because of the little incident, but I would still be annoyed.

This.  I would be annoyed. 

So Long Astoria

I may be off or weird here, but exactly what is wrong with saying "poopie" anyway? She's THREE.

 

xbrooklyngrl

So Long Astoria:

I may be off or weird here, but exactly what is wrong with saying "poopie" anyway? She's THREE.

 

I agree with this too. She wasn't saying sh*t.

B's teacher once brought up that she was saying poopie and I just said "AND?"

shouldbworkin

Yes, I would be put off too b/c I think it was bad advice.  IMO, the more attention you give behavior, the more likely it is to occur. 

CleoKitty

So Long Astoria:

I may be off or weird here, but exactly what is wrong with saying "poopie" anyway? She's THREE.

 

Exactly. That's why I would be annoyed. 

newmomma1

xbrooklyngrl:

I don't really see anything wrong. Now if he turned to your DD and made a comment, that would be a different issue for me.

 

yes, he was telling her not to say it.

 

LOL at she didn't say sh*t 

ValAndRyan

I wouldn't be bothered by it and appreciative of it actually.

newmomma1

ValAndRyan:

I wouldn't be bothered by it and appreciative of it actually.

 

yes, part of me thought this to 

samanthony

So Long Astoria:

I may be off or weird here, but exactly what is wrong with saying "poopie" anyway? She's THREE.

 

This.

Halo79RN

I don't see the big deal either way... but you said it's something you typically ask her not to say... so why would it be bothersome for another adult to correct her on it?  I don't see the big deal in the pedi correcting her or offering parenting advice.  half the time when people ask for help on here they say, "I'll be asking her pedi about it on "  ...  my pedis have all given advice and recs on books they appreciate in regards to parenting.  even if it's a word you let dc say in a joking manner (which really, who cares about the word "poopie") , if it was interrupting you and the pedi or the pedi's examination of dc, then sure, he could say not now or correct her.  My approach would have been "oh, excuse me honey, let me listen to little sister, okay."  But that's me.

Dougsgirl4ever

newmomma1:

Both daughters are sick right now.  At the doctors the other day my older (3 yrs) daughter was trying to make my baby laugh while she was getting examined.  So my 3 yr old says "poopie" a few times.  Normally I don't like her saying this and would tell her to stop but I am quite exhausted dealing with 2 sick girls and really didn't want to bother with saying anything.  The doctor said to her no potty talk unless we are in the potty.  And he went on for a little bit.  He turns to me and says that this is the age that this happens and if we don't stop it they'll continue.  

I was a little off put.  Didn't really bother me at the time but thought it was odd.

Thoughts?

 

If this is true I would think you would be glad that the dr. said something.

Zenya

I'd be annoyed.  A doctor is there to cure illness. Not to lecture my kids.

kittycarr

It really bothers me that we are at a point in society where someone else can not lightly correct someone else's child for something like this.  Especially the pediatrician.  Is it seriously that big of a deal? 

Andrewsgal

kittycarr:

It really bothers me that we are at a point in society where someone else can not lightly correct someone else's child for something like this.  Especially the pediatrician.  Is it seriously that big of a deal? 

I could not agree more. I also don't understand the she is 3 argument. My 3 year old yells when she is mad, is this developmentally appropriate? Heck yes. Does she still get corrected? Yes. I can't stand when people let kids get away with things because they are three. Poopie is not a great word and I agree that bathroom talk is for the bathroom, if we don't correct it now when do we? What is the magic age?

kittycarr

Sometimes given the situation, I let the correcting go myself .  I don't 100% correct my children at all times.  But, if I do'nt do it at that moment and someone else steps in, I'm most certainly not going to have a problem with it. 

And obviously we're not talking big deal things that the mother should clearly be correcting on her own before someone else should feel the need to step in on.......and it's sad too that i'd feel the need to point that out because if I hadn't, I know someone else would likely present me with an extreme case scenario resulting in the question "would you really NOT have a problem if someone did that kitty, really?  Really?"