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Middle Name Dilemma

Sam Buttons Sam Buttons member
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We have been set on the first name Magnolia for forever and decided pretty early on that we would use my mother's name as her middle name: Magnolia Jane. I love it and may have made a mistake by telling my mom, who is ecstatic - like over the moon about it (she is already so excited because despite being her 10th Grandchild, it will be her first biological one - plus her baby girl is having a baby girl... so the name is just 'icing on the cake').

HOWEVER, we just got back from visiting my Grandma in Hawaii, who I love very much and is not doing very well - and while there I also found out that LO is due two days before her 90th birthday (I hadn't put the two together before then). DH and I instantly had an idea to give the baby her middle name: June, I really think it would mean a lot to her, especially because as much as I hate thinking about it, they will most likely never meet (we live in Boston so Hawaii is a 12 hour flight away and quite expensive, so its unlikely we will get back anytime i the next year or so).

So I know I have a good few months till a decision has to be made, but should I talk to my mother about it ahead of time or just wait? I have always told her that the baby's name is not set in stone, we will decide once we see her (but at this point even I don't believe that we will actually change it - my heart melts when DH calls her Mags). I don't want her feelings to be suddenly hurt when LO is born, when its supposed to be a happy time, but I don't know how to bring it up--- any thoughts or suggestions- should I just stick to Magnolia Jane so not to hurt anyone's feelings?

 

Sorry for the long explanation - thanks in advance! 

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  • MWoodsideMWoodside member

    Is your Grandma June your mother's mother?  If so, wouldn't she be touched by you choosing June for the MN? 

    P.S.  My dad calls me Magnolia (my name is Megan) so I think that's a really cute name :)

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  • Soon_2B_MrsMSoon_2B_MrsM
    Ok I understand the background story and all but in all honesty I think that Magnolia Jane sounds better than Magnolia June.
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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member
    June and Jane are really close. Maybe find a name that starts with "J" and ends with "ne". Like Jeanne?
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  • flygirlbethanyflygirlbethany

    Stick with Jane.

     They are both similar, simple, pretty middle names. It wouldn't be worth hurting your mom's feelings.

    It will be more meaningful to your little girl to be named after her grandma then to her great-gma.

     

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  • Laura_LeeLaura_Lee

    imageSoon_2B_MrsM:
    Ok I understand the background story and all but in all honesty I think that Magnolia Jane sounds better than Magnolia June.

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  • Sam Buttons Sam Buttons member
    imageMWoodside:

    Is your Grandma June your mother's mother?  If so, wouldn't she be touched by you choosing June for the MN? 

    P.S.  My dad calls me Magnolia (my name is Megan) so I think that's a really cute name :)

    Its my father's mother, but both my mother's parents are deceased and my father passed away seven years ago so my mother and paternal grandmother have a really close relationship - logically she should be touched,  but I just don't think that will be the case. 

    and Aw to your dad calling you Magnolia! 

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