excuse me...you dropped this.

giaM28

03-01-2010 at 8:22 PM

hmkoller Joined on 11-16-2009 Chicago, IL 75 Posts 1,605 Points --> I just really have to vent... --> Alright.. so I can't really vent to anybody about this except my best friend.. and she's heard me vent about this so many times already i'd feel like a broken record.. and i'm gonna warn you now that i've cussed. a few times. i'm just SO annoyed it isn't even funny.   Okay so, my boyfriend (johnny) and I live with his brother (scott) and his girlfriend (candise). It's Scotts house that he just bought last year... Johnny pays scott 'rent' every month to help him out and such. and since i've got food stamps, I'm the one to buy MOST of the food each month. granted I only get $200 a month because it's only supposed to be for just me, we all share and contribute. Well, Scott's a union carpenter out of chicago, and recently got laid off. (getting unemployment mind you) candise just went back to work (as a bartender) after being off from getting her wisdom teeth pulled. I don't work anymore (long long story) so there's nothing coming from my end. However,  it just irritates the crap out of me that Scott, NEVER DOES ANYTHING. he never contributes (buying what we need when we need it if johnny can't get it). like for instance, right now we need bread and milk. i've asked scott and candise multiple times if they can get some. they came home tonight with a case of beer and some other "things" they bought from the store. but no milk and no bread. i'm tired of johnny always being the one to foot the bill for everything we need. including but not limited to; toilet paper, paper towels, laundry soap, etc... it's just getting SOOOOOOO annoying to me. He also NEVER EVER does the dishes. and i mean NEVER. there could be nothing to eat with and he would just clean something off for himself to be able to eat with and that'd be the end of it. it pisses me off that the 3 of us work so hard to keep the house clean, dishes done, laundry done, etc. when he is laid off, sitting around on his ass all day not doing a damn thing. you would think that since it's his house, he'd wanna keep it clean and neat? no.. completely the opposite.  and don't even get me started on the fact that he NEVER shovels the snow either. johnny winds up doing it because if i go out there, i'd wind up falling. it's so irritating. and i think my rant is over cuz if i keep going, i'll never stop...

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03-01-2010 at 8:28 PM

anvloveskm... Joined on 11-02-2008 Portland, Oregon 791 Posts 15,649 Points --> --> Maybe I have missed the point of your vent, but how do you even qualify for food stamps if you are living with your partner and 2 other people, and why in the F are you spending them on others and not yourself if you are truly in need?!?!  I represent a lot of indigent and low income clients and I hate to see someone cheating the system...I truly hope that you are not one of them.

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03-01-2010 at 8:31 PM

his1stmy4t... Joined on 11-22-2009 80 Posts 1,836 Points --> --> Just my opinion but have you and Johnny looked into other living arrangements?  I understand if the situation is such that you can't afford or what not a separate place from Scott but it sounds like it is time to move out and move on.

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03-01-2010 at 8:32 PM

toyah81 Joined on 06-30-2007 Grand Prairie 623 Posts 12,248 Points --> --> I can tell you from personal experience - it is not going to change. Especially since it's his house. You and your Fiance (boyfriend? - couldn't remember what you said) need to get a plan together and move out. Sorry, but it's the only solution. My first time moving out of my parents' house was getting a place with my sister. We shared the bills, but I couldn't deal with the way she kept house. When the lease was up, I left. Still love her to death but we can never live together.

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03-01-2010 at 8:32 PM

hmkoller Joined on 11-16-2009 Chicago, IL 75 Posts 1,605 Points --> --> we're moving in with his parents once scott gets work again because johnny doesn't want to abandon his brother when he needs help.

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03-01-2010 at 8:35 PM

aah62709 Joined on 08-11-2009 543 Posts 13,265 Points --> --> I have to agree with the PP, you should not be sharing your FS with others in the house, its not allowed and you are risking losing them all together.  Could you guys purchase a small fridge and keep your food in it?  Also just keep some of the other things like soap and what not in your own space and take it out when you need it.  And not to ask too much but is the cost of your rent half of what the mortgage is?  Because if its not maybe thats why your BIL expects you to pick up odds and ends and help more with the cleaning.

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03-01-2010 at 8:36 PM

his1stmy4t... Joined on 11-22-2009 80 Posts 1,836 Points --> --> Is there a reason that you can "help" someone else and pay rent to them to live there but can't pay rent and live on your own?  And I do agree with PP that asked about the food stamps, did you lie on the app about living with three others?

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03-01-2010 at 8:39 PM

jennygirlm... Joined on 04-06-2006 Philadelphia 567 Posts 10,601 Points --> --> If you can't afford a place to live on your own how are you going to afford a baby? If you aren't working, I assume you are disabled. Wouldn't you be collecting disability at least? You need to move out and get a place of your own, not going to live with your boyfriend's parents when you have a baby...

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03-01-2010 at 8:39 PM

kandjrolls... Joined on 06-12-2009 Dirty South 157 Posts 3,654 Points --> --> A couple really needs their own space, especially with a baby coming. I've seen couples try to live with others before and it just dosen't work.

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03-01-2010 at 8:42 PM

Liz710 Joined on 12-24-2009 173 Posts 3,512 Points --> --> I was in the same situation for a year until this last fall, except he was renting from us (and minus the government assistance--we all have full time jobs).  Roommate never paid for things we shared and never helped with shoveling snow.  So after I told him that he needed to contribute more and he didn't, I hid all of our common items which forced him to buy his own.  As much as the extra money helped toward the mortgage, it's a lot nicer to not have to share space and items.  I understand the stress. I don't know your situation, but could you try to find a job to speed up the process of leaving?

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03-01-2010 at 8:45 PM

hmkoller Joined on 11-16-2009 Chicago, IL 75 Posts 1,605 Points --> --> aah62709: I have to agree with the PP, you should not be sharing your FS with others in the house, its not allowed and you are risking losing them all together.  Could you guys purchase a small fridge and keep your food in it?  Also just keep some of the other things like soap and what not in your own space and take it out when you need it.  And not to ask too much but is the cost of your rent half of what the mortgage is?  Because if its not maybe thats why your BIL expects you to pick up odds and ends and help more with the cleaning.     no, the rent isn't even close to half of what the mortgage is. Scott really doesn't even want money from johnny but he forces it on him anyway. their mom still takes care of all their bills and such so johnny gives his mom the money to put in scotts account. thats why it makes me so angry. and I DO pick up, I DO clean, I DO do the dishes, I DO do laundry, I DO pick up odds and ends. but i'm getting sick of ALWAYS being the one to freaking do it.

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03-01-2010 at 8:48 PM

hmkoller Joined on 11-16-2009 Chicago, IL 75 Posts 1,605 Points --> --> jennygirlmt: If you can't afford a place to live on your own how are you going to afford a baby? If you aren't working, I assume you are disabled. Wouldn't you be collecting disability at least? You need to move out and get a place of your own, not going to live with your boyfriend's parents when you have a baby...     how do you know we can't afford a place on our own? and assuming I'm disabled? are you kidding me? you know what assuming does? makes an ass outta you and me. seriously, don't sit here and judge me when you have no idea about the situation we are in. I really don't want to explain myself but for the sake of argument: we're going to live with his parents so we can save up money in order to get our own house in a year or so. and so that we'll have the extra help with the baby and the expenses. don't judge others like that. it just shows your ignorance.

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03-01-2010 at 8:50 PM

magsugar13 Joined on 03-14-2007 5,570 Posts 107,719 Points --> --> 1. It is Johnny's house, so he my dear can do whatever the hell he wants. 2. If you 2 don't like it you need to leave. 3. So, you are going from brothers house to mommy's house. 4. Neither one of you can afford a place to live on your own, because if you could youd be gone right? 5. Johnny pays him rent to "help" him out? LMAO he pays him rent because the 2 of you LIVE there! 6. What does Johnny do for a living? 7. When are you going back to work? Doing? 8. Who is going to pay for daycare?

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03-01-2010 at 8:52 PM

hmkoller Joined on 11-16-2009 Chicago, IL 75 Posts 1,605 Points --> --> his1stmy4th: Is there a reason that you can "help" someone else and pay rent to them to live there but can't pay rent and live on your own?  And I do agree with PP that asked about the food stamps, did you lie on the app about living with three others?     we don't have all the extra money that comes with living on our own. we tried it once, and now we're in debt up to our eyeballs and i'm filing bankruptcy. i don't know what 'rent' means to you guys, but it's not like he's paying his brother a grand a month or anything even CLOSE to that. seriously..   i came on here to vent and hopefully get some comforting advice but now i'm just getting more upset because of the ignorance of some people.

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ImBatmom2507

Hehehehe

LovePink2850

Good catch!

ToBeMcInerney

Wow... Thanks for catching this, I needed some entertainment.

mexicolombiana

ooh I knew this was going to be a DD as soon as I saw the original post.

good catch there

preppynewlywed

Gia FTW.

shaykrista

 Wow, I think I need to come over here more often! What a piece of work

ColieJ

wow... just wow!

anvloveskme

We are back in business on my post below about the DD - she has come in and commented a couple of times...

LilMaggs

She's completely BSC.  Someone needs a massive reality check.

VampyAuthor

How do I miss all the good drama when I'm looking for good reading material!

karaknr

Lurking from TTGP: We just had a whack job this weekend who wanted advice on how to make conception easier since she had been trying for 16 mos with no luck, but didnt have health care or the money to go to the DR so she wanted us to tell her the "magic baby making pill" (ps, your talking about  group of women actively trying to get KU). When we asked her why she was TTC at all since she didnt have health care she said "OH Im just gonna get on medicaid (except she spelled it medicade)." "My SIL did that and got Pg and they paid for her health bills". Boy did that NOT go over well. Then she had the audacity to to keep coming back to ask random questions after calling us all Bi*chs and saying she "wanted a baby and no one was going to stop her!" WAHHHHH! 

I wonder if the OP was our government abusing chicks SIL???

SOOOO sick if people who abuse the govt help and take my money to have a baby when I had to wait and save up before I could start trying.

I CANT BELIEVE THIS CHICK is buying food with her food stamps for other people. $200 dollars a month isnt enough for JUST HER??? Me and DH barely use 200 a month in groceries and thats for the both of us!

Super pissed! (thanks for letting me rant on your board, just thought we may have some connections here).