Birth classes WWYD?

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I wanted to take a Bradley birth class (only one offered in our area).

I emailed early January. The instructor replied a few days later and I wrote on January 11th asking to be put on the list.  Never heard back from her.

Found her phone number and called a few weeks later (early-February).  Left a message saying that I wanted to join her March class and left my phone number.  She never called back.

Finally, I was sick of being pushy so made dh call her last night.  The class is full (it wasn't in January when I emailed) and we're first on the wait list.  She said we can't come to the first class but she will ask the other parents if they will allow us to come to future classes.

Am I wrong to be totally pissed about this?  Even if we get to take the class, I'll feel like the black sheep since we needed "permission" to take it.  If we don't, I'm so upset because I had my heart set on at least trying a drug free birth. 

I want to email/call her and explain that we should have been put on the list (if she returned either emails or phone calls) and that we should be allowed to take the class (regardless of what the other couples say).   Or is there a better way to handle this? 

I'm so upset about this.  I'm pissed at myself (I should have been pushier).  I'm pissed at dh (he was supposed to call her weeks ago).  And I'm pissed at this lady.  I want to cry! 

JhawkCE

Since you need something from her, a letter berating her isn't going to get you anywhere.  I think this is just one of those times you're going to have to suck it up and take what you can get.

S&V*A&F122009

I had a natural birth w/o classes/books and I plan on another one this time too Pick up some info books on the method or try to find a doula in your area to help out.

That does suck she couldn't even return your calls/emails! I would be upset too.

kg_08

It's her fault, not yours. I would call her back and say that you have sent numerous e-mails and phone calls since January and she just never got back to you.. you should have been on the list. Make her feel bad about it, and hopefully she'll see it was her fault, and that nobody would even know if one extra person was squeezed in.

kayt4444

If she sucks this bad at replying to emails and phone calls, what is she like in the class?  Will she answer questions?  Give suggestions for your particular situation?  I would just write her off as not worth it.  She has already caused you too much stress.  It sounds like you should just do the research for yourself and/or find a doula.  Good luck.

AbJams

I don't think I would want to take a class with someone who can't return a simple phone call, but if she's the only game in town I agree with PP that you kinda just have to suck it up. I don't understand why she has to ask the other couple though? I mean, there's either room for you or there isn't, right?

aps003

wow she made a mistake I mean they dont have enough floor space for one more couple? you need to explain that she essed up and you should be put in the class even if it means bumping another coupple do you have your email records??

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AbJams:

I don't think I would want to take a class with someone who can't return a simple phone call, but if she's the only game in town I agree with PP that you kinda just have to suck it up. I don't understand why she has to ask the other couple though? I mean, there's either room for you or there isn't, right?

You would think.  It's taught in a small room, so I guess she would be asking if people would mind being squished to fit in this extra couple (us).  Chances are people will say yes and then glare at us while we roast in this tiny room for three hours each week.