I'm so mad at DH.... ready to flip out
He and his coworkers decided it would be fun to do poker nights every so often. Fine, good, whatever. They would rotate whose house it was at. The first poker night was at my house. I was glad to do it to get it out of the way and not have to do it for a while. I had all these men over days before I gave birth, dealt with their mess, cleaned up the beer stains, everything. I was so glad it was over.
DH announces, "The next poker night is here. It's on Monday." Ummm... what? Okay, first of all, you do NOT get to invite a bunch of rowdy men over without even discussing it with me. It's our house, not your house. Secondly, we have a 4 m/o who has thrush and is going through teething hell. We've had the worst week. We didn't get to bed until 3am last night bc he wouldn't stop screaming.
I said WTF?!
(EDIT it posted before I was finished)
Anyway, I called him on it and said that was not cool and this is not a good time. He said I could go to his boss's wife's house. No, Jack needs to be home w/ his swing and his bed to try and relax. He doesn't need to be out super late. I said what he did was short sighted and selfish, and he said he didn't care. He refused to acknowledge that this somehow puts me out at all or that it could affect Jack.
There's one guy who is SO LOUD and I said if he screams once I'm kicking him out. I'm not dealing with it. It's a damn Monday night and I have a freaking infant for pete's sake!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm livid at his selfishness right now but I'm trying to remember how awesome he is 99% of the time...
I guess I live in his house. Go figure... I thought it was OUR home.
Re: I'm so mad at DH.... ready to flip out
I asked him to cancel bc of what's going on w/ Jack and he said no. So they're coming. He's such a selfish jerk right now. I know he's refusing out of pride.
Yep. I know he said it just to piss me off. I'm sure he'll realize what he did wrong eventually and go and do something extravagant but that doesn't make up for his total disregard of what is best for Jack and me.
Yes! And you need to make it very clear to him that he needs to get his priorities straight. Sure if he wants to do poker night with the boys that's fine but the utmost important thing is his family and if poker night will affect the family in a negative way he needs to fix it. Like I told DH recently as we're finally trying to sleep train DD, "It's not HER we need to discipline and train to get on this schedule. It's US. Once we discipline ourselves and train ourselves to stop disrupting DD's sleep schedule and making sure she goes down at the same time every night then she should follow suit."
Thanks, ladies. I overreact a lot so it's good to know that in this case, my reaction is normal and warranted.
The ball is in his court.
And please don't think he's a total asss. He really is a great husband/dad 99% of the time, I just have no idea what he's thinking with this situation.
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I like this idea- or even leave LO with them for DH to handle and you go to a movie. Once he sees how hard it is to handle LO's nighttime routine he'll understand why you're upset.
This is for you. Drink up m'dear.