Now that I'm 5 months along we are seriously considering that hubby will stay at home, continue to work on his master's degree, and I'll be the one going off to the trenches after my maternity leave. I have better insurance and have been with my company 2 years longer than him, so it makes sense since that I be the one continuing to work especially since we are working on buying a home. And day care costs...etc.
I can't imagine NOT going back to work, but I'm wondering how it will be emotionally after baby is here. Any advice from others on how this dynamic works for them?
Re: Anyone with a stay at home hubby?
DH has been taking care of DS#1 for 18 months now. At first he was nervous, but so was I I think both parents are nervous in the beginning. I went back to work after 3.5 months, by then -- we had a lot of things worked out. DH does a wonderful job with DS#1, and he'll be taking care of DS#2 when he arrives too. It just makes sense, we wanted one of us to be at home with the kids, and I make more money than DH. As pp said, I get DS#1 all to myself when I get home, we all have dinner together, DS#1 and I have bath and reading time, so it works out well.
Cynthia could have written my reply.
DH and LO adjusted really well when I went back to work. He works nights, and I work days, so one of us is always home. The best part, IMO, is that DH is building a really close relationship with LO. I mean, I'm mommy, so LO and I already have that bond, but with DH staying home, the two of them are able to form the type of bond that I don't know they would have if he was working. LO adores him so much and its good that she gets to spend time with both of us indivdually and then together on the weekends.
The hardest part, emotionally for me, is coming to grip with the fact that I can't pump enough milk during the day to keep up with what LO is eating. I finally had to admit to myself last week that we needed to supplement one of her bottles during the day with formula. At first, it was really difficult and I felt like a bad mom because I had to go back to work and couldn't provide for her, but as someone else pointed out; by going to work I am providing her with everything - food, shelter, clothes, toys, etc.
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My DH stays home 80% of the time, the rest of the days, DS is w/ MIL.
At first it was tough b/c DH didnt really know what he was doing, but gradually, it got easier and easier for him.
The downside is that when I get home from work, DH wants his break--so I don't really get a break for "me" time. While I like that all the time I am home is time I can spend with DS--it's still tough to not get a break at all.
Also, I'd really like DH to make more money since we have childcare through MIL for free--but his industry is slow.
GL!