Need advice re: work tomorrow? LONG

fricksgirl

Ok, here's the rundown:

Tomorrow I have a staff development meeting in Stockton.  My DH works in Davis.  Because it's a staff development, the preschool is closed and my parents are out of town.  My plan was to send A to a friend's in-home daycare in Elk Grove- he's never been there before but I know he'll be fine, she's a friend from Jazzercise and I completely trust her, she's had an in-home daycare for 15+ years and will have 4 other little boys between the ages of 1 and 4.

Well- Alex is still running a low-grade fever.  He was 100.2 this morning.  Which means he shouldn't go anywhere around other kids tomorrow.   Especially he shouldn't be spending the day in Elk Grove while I'm in Stockton and my DH is in Davis- it would take us too long to get him if needed, and he'd be in a strange place, you know? 

Of course if you read my post Friday you know my DH took a sick day Friday after some stuff had gone down at work.  BTW- he was *miraculously* "all better" first thing Saturday morning, after he had spent Thursday night and Friday night all holed up in our room, not helping me, and moaning like death warmed over.  I really don't think Alex got this from him- he wasn't around him enough. 

So- the kicker is this- my meeting is all stuff I've heard before, assessment/differentiation, teachers, you know how these things go- BUT, it's being run by my boss' boss, and she is the one who makes all the decisions about employee discounts at school.  I REALLY wanted to use tomorrow as an opportunity to schmooze her and impress her with my participation in the meeting so she can see how much I'm worth to my school and will give me the discount I need for baby, who will be in the nursery at A's preschool.    We will be meeting in small groups with her and I think it's important I show my face there.

So... do I skip it and take care of Alex myself, or do I have DH take ANOTHER day off (he does have sick time) to take care of him while I go to the meeting?   

What would you do (besides slap your husband up side the head)?  

teambaumer

I would have DH take the day off.  He should understand how important this networking opportunity is for you.  Good luck H!  Hope Alex is better soon.

fricksgirl

I kind of agree, M, and the b!tchy part of me thinks it's good payback for the ess he pulled with me late last week to have to stay with Alex for his THIRD day home-bound (um, good luck with that!). I'm just concerned that it will look so bad for HIM to take another day off. 

Ugh.  

SweetieP

If C is like E, he'll probably complain to high heaven about having to take the day off.  My opinion?  Too bad for him.  In the long run, you could be saving your family a significant amount of money.

soon2Bkranz

Well Tony would never take a day off LOL...

But could yuo manipulate him? Like with Tony sometimes I approach him really upset about a problem and lead him to the answer I wamt...(him staying home) and let it be his idea and him be the great guy for doing it.

Yea ubber lame that we have to make a big deal out of doing what they should be doing anyways...but I know with my DC...uhhh I mean DH...it helps

Mystery2B

Unless he has something more critical happening at work that day than you working to get a discount for baby, he should watch DS.

carmelbride05

Well my opinion would also be that DH should stay home to watch Alex...however, is there any daycare you could take him to in Davis?  As an alternative?  Does he have any symptoms other than the low grade fever?  What is his temp now?  If you are at all worried about him being sick then DH it is

SeasonalCook

I vote for DH taking the day off or calling a last minute sitter service to stay at home with A. It sounds like this meeting is super important. And if A's immunity is low right now due to some sort of infection, you don't want him around other kids. Good luck!

tiki_t

Definitely have DH take the day off. He can say that now he AND his kid are sick. You, on the other hand, will not have a professional opportunity for exposure like this any time soon so you'd better take it if you can.

fricksgirl

Thanks, ladies.  He's going to take the day off.  I do think it's important for me to go. 

Alex still has a fever, so if he still has it in the morning I think I'm going to have DH take him in to the pedi tomorrow as well.  That should be fun for him!