I posted this in a different section and a lot of answerers advised me to post here... I've gotten great supportive responses that I am eternally grateful for, but not as many real life stories as I am hoping for... so I will take their advice and try here... sorry if this is a repeat read for anyone.
*sigh* Ok so I know a lot of you gals on here (yes I said "gals"... I'm from Texas ) are married and a few years my senior, but I'm looking for any other moms out there who are going to go through or have been through adoptions. Even if it was you that was adopted. First though, let me tell you the story...
I got pregnant with my fiance on accident, but was very excited to become a mom and give everything that I am and have to being a new mom. Then I found out my fiance was actually still married to another woman, something he had never mentioned. So... naturally... I took off. I'm young (20) and was not being careless (I was on preventative measures) but it happened. My family has come around me and embraced me, and for a long time I was set on keeping my child and raising him/her (I have my 1st ultrasound March 3rd to find out how and what he/she is ) myself as a single mom. But, finances and... just... overall strength has waned, and I made the decision to adopt out. Then a blessing happened.
Out of no where my mother called her cousin in California to tell him that I am pregnant and looking tentatively for an adoptive family, and would they, a family that had already been through one surrogacy, be willing to adopt a relative and raise him/her as their own? It was an instant yes. And so my journey with the cousins I barely ever knew began. And what a journey it has been.
The adoption is going well, but naturally I am scared that the child will come to an age where they might resent me for my decision (as the child will know that I am the biological mother, though I will play the role of an aunt...) .
I really just want to know if anyone has been through this or will go through this too, and how they are coping. My mom recently agreed to get me a dog, as I lost mine last August and spend a lot of my off-work time alone ( I work nights, they all work days). Of course, the adoption process with the dog is complicated too because it's a rescue and I have very little time to prepare for his arrival because he needs to be rescued asap before he ends up in a shelter. He's a calm, small (knee - height ) dog with the look of a border collie, and I feel a deep connection with him, like he knows I'm scared and need someone to confide in that won't talk back or voice opinions.
It's not like I'm going this alone. I have my family all around me, and a counselor on call 24 hours a day... but I really need been there done that stories or for people to tell me their experiences, however different they may be, with OPEN adoptions.
Thanks in advance for any and all stories... negative or positive. I really need to know the real world happenings of open adoptions and how they can turn out, whether good or bad.