Losing my faith in humanity

orleyl

My job constantly reminds me how bad people are. I work with criminals, murders, drug addicts, child abusers. The stories I hear are sad and crazy. It makes me question how many good people are really out there. Dont know what the point of my post is, just my current thought.

JillBMama

what do you do?

orleyl

JillBMama:

what do you do?

i am a therapist

christin3580

The general public lacks humanity.. Im a flight attendant. Ive seen it all from a different end of the spectrum. Americans are filled with entitlement its so sad.

JillBMama

orleyl:

JillBMama:

what do you do?

i am a therapist

Ahhh. And it is probably hard to vent about your work due to confidentiality, I'm guessing. But I bet it's really interesting? 

franciscaz

(((HUGS))) Just look into your babies' smiling face... that is what gives me hope.

SeaMama

So you counsel abusers, murderers and criminals?  That must be hard. 

Do most of them have enough self-awareness to be authentically looking for help or is it just a blame-fest?

My mom has some sort of undiagnosed crazy mental illness, I'm sure.  She abused my brother and I and has never even admitted that it took place.  I always wonder what she talked about in thereapy - cause there's no way she was honest.  Just curious. 

orleyl

SeaMama:

So you counsel abusers, murderers and criminals?  That must be hard. 

Do most of them have enough self-awareness to be authentically looking for help or is it just a blame-fest?

My mom has some sort of undiagnosed crazy mental illness, I'm sure.  She abused my brother and I and has never even admitted that it took place.  I always wonder what she talked about in thereapy - cause there's no way she was honest.  Just curious. 

Most of them are full of sh*t bc it is mandated therapy. They lie like crazy and have very little remorse for their crimes. People dont change unless they want to but we try anyway.

Just a guess bc obviously I dont know your mom. Your mom may be struggling with mental illness or past abuse herself. Sometimes people dont want to face their demons so they create their own reality. If she admitted the abuse, she would have to face the guilt and other feelings associated with her actions. So denial works for her.

sgrl

That sucks. I'm sorry you deal with the dregs. There are good people out there but I'm sure it's tough to see, given that you see the worst every day.

SeaMama

orleyl:

SeaMama:

So you counsel abusers, murderers and criminals?  That must be hard. 

Do most of them have enough self-awareness to be authentically looking for help or is it just a blame-fest?

My mom has some sort of undiagnosed crazy mental illness, I'm sure.  She abused my brother and I and has never even admitted that it took place.  I always wonder what she talked about in thereapy - cause there's no way she was honest.  Just curious. 

Most of them are full of sh*t bc it is mandated therapy. They lie like crazy and have very little remorse for their crimes. People dont change unless they want to but we try anyway.

Just a guess bc obviously I dont know your mom. Your mom may be struggling with mental illness or past abuse herself. Sometimes people dont want to face their demons so they create their own reality. If she admitted the abuse, she would have to face the guilt and other feelings associated with her actions. So denial works for her.

Denial most certainly works for her, LOL.

Well - good for you for trying, I'm sure out of hundreds, there is at least 1 person whose life you change and that's not nothing. 

lissah23

I hear you.  My job has made me so jaded.  I don't work with criminals directly but my job is to review all of the police reports that come through and code them for Stats Canada.  All day all I read about is scumbags.  Combine that with coming from a family of and being married to a police officer and you have one girl who has little faith in mankind anymore.