So I wrote an email about favoring one twin...

healthynut

and of course I'm getting the emails back now.  I expected that some  people would be offended, but I really tried not to single anyone out and I downplayed the fact that it was even a real problem.  Some of our family and their kids all tend to favor my little girl.  I think it's b/c she tends to be more responsive and doesn't have the hemangiomas that Gerard my boy has.  But he is such a sweetheart.  I am getting worried that he'll start to notice that he's the "second choice" to play with and talk to when people visit.  So I thought I'd write an email just letting everyone know that the trend has been to favor Mackenzie and just to maybe be aware that it's something we've been dealing with.  I said it doesn't mean that anyone on the email is necessarily doing it, but that we just wanted to make everyone aware.  Now of course I'm getting a million questions and offended people.  I expected that...

SoldiersGreenBean

Too bad for the offended people.  Your job, as mom, is to protect your children.  You're doing just that, and should be proud of yourself.

atc282

Sorry you are dealing with a million Qs but at least you voiced yourself, and I am an advocate of getting something off your chest (vs. letting it build up and becoming resentful). Hope that both babies get equal treatment (they are so precious, btw)!!

FWIW, I too have started to "defend" my one DD who has an enormous hamanginoma on the back of her neck. It breaks me every time someone makes a comment like "what is wrong with her?" or stares at it like "what IS that?!?" I just want everyone to see how lucky we are to have 2 healthy babies--not focus on a birthmark that she can't help!!

Hang in there ((hugs))

anna2006

Kudos to you for writing that email!

It sounds like you should just leave it at that and not say too much in response to questions, because I'm sure everyone wants to know exactly who you are talking about.  And I can't believe that anyone would be offended, unless they were the guilty ones who are now being called out. 

Your email might be unpopular, but it was a courageous and loving thing to do for your children.  I hope the storm dies down soon for you.

Qs2004

This happened to me too that people favored my little girl.  My little boy had acid reflux real bad when he was little and no one wanted to hold him.  It really hurt my husband and I  I know how you feel.

healthynut

Thanks so much for the support you guys.  I just read everything you all wrote and I feel much better.