I'm going to have a kineption fit
I'm sure that is spelled incorrectly, and I'm not even sure what a kineption fit is. However, I'm going to have one.
I love my IL's. Really, I do. I've known them for about 15ish years, and I really love them. They used to think I was crazy when I was pregnant for wanting to BW, but now my MIL and SIL both BW with MT's and my SIL just bought an Ergo. They still think I'm "new age" when it comes to medicines, herbs and stuff, but thats a whole nother post.
They drive me BATTY with how flippitantly they take life. I just called to ask about a tax form, because some of my DH's mail still gets delivered to their house. So, they start opening the LARGE pile of mail that he has accumulated (none of which they've told us about. They just wait until we go up there (every 1-3 months) and then hand it over) to see if the tax form is there. It's not, not a big deal. While they're opening mail though, I hear my FIL go "Oh, this is for jury duty, he was supposed to be there January 11th."
ARGH!!! My Dad has done Jury Duty. They issue a BENCH WARRANT if you don't show up! I know I can call and take care of it in the morning, but it just drives me crazy. This isn't the first thing either. DH apparently had an overdraw on a bank account when we FIRST got married. He called, spoke to customer service, and they assured him it was taken care of. It wasn't. He continued to get mail delivered to his house stating an overdraw. It then got handed over to a debt collection agency. They started getting PHONE CALLS and never bothered to take down a number, or anything. They never told us. Fast forward a year and a half later. I'm FINALLY up there going through his mail, and I find a bill for $300 something. I managed to get it down to $138, but still.. it could have all been taken care of for $20 if we'd just known about it.
I realize we're SLIGHTLY at fault for not putting in a change of address form for DH, but goodness, my parents STILL tell me exactly what I got in the mail if I get anything, and then ask if I want them to open it. Just super frustrated and I can't blog it because MIL reads my blog.
Re: I'm going to have a kineption fit
Please don't take this as a snarky comment.... it's not intended as such...
But I think you're off the mark with SLIGHTLY... You are both ENTIRELY at fault. Why in the world would you not change the address??? It's so ridiculously simple to change your address.... could have been totally avoided, imo. Especially after it happened the 1st time...
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It's a sucky situation, but it's not really your ILs fault. It's your H's job to make sure places (like the city- does his DL have the right address? Because I'm pretty sure that's how my area gets the address for jury duty) have the right address) If he had moved out of an apartment and the next person didn't call him to tell him what random mail he got, it wouldn't even cross your mind to be upset... right? It would be nice if they did call and tell you, but I don't think this is really an IL issue
His DL does have the correct address.
DH never does anything paper-work related. I.E. change of address, ect. He was still living at home, technically, through college. We didn't do a change of address form then because you couldn't change your address to the college address (because the USPS didn't recognize it as an address? I don't know, I had fits changing the address from it). I changed our address from college, and from our most recent town.
I guess my IL's don't aggravate me as much as the fact that the bank, and the university I was calling about (for tax forms) have the correct addresses in their systems.
What bugs me more than the mail situation, which I'll agree was our fault, is their flippancy with life. They've been in bankruptcy twice, and when we were trying to get out a lease recently, they were just like "Well, they can't make you pay", to which I responded "Yes they can, its in our rental agreement". Also, its just stuff like when they open the jury duty letter. "Oh, he had jury duty. Hmm.." If I hadn't have heard my FIL in the background, they wouldn't have told us, and would have just junked the mail.
Cindy- I thought that's how Jury duty worked as well. And DH is registered to vote in this county as well, I know that for a fact. He worked as an election officer last May, and you have to be registered in the county to work.
I'm just trying sooooo hard to repair his credit from that delinquent notice. I can understand the mail, but they were getting 3-4 calls a week for months without ever mentioning it. When I asked, they said "Oh, S (their daughter) gets those calls all the time... we just didn't think it was important"
I agree as well. You are both adults with a child. Surely you can handle making sure your mail gets to you correctly. Or if not that - at the very least I would hope your DH would then call every week or two to see if he got any mail.