You think it's ok if I don't love our baby's name?

Lyssapee

Our baby name was a compromise.  Pretty much me giving in to DH.  We were down to two names Amanda & Madeleine.   I made a list of pros and cons and pretty much Amanda had a lot more pros.

It's been a couple weeks since we were pretty much settled.  I kept thinking that I was going to fall in love with the name, but I haven't.  I still just kinda like it.  DH even agreed to a middle name of my choice, when he was against middle names to begin with.  That also helped a lot.

But... I still don't love it.  Do you think once I associate the name with our daughter it will make me instantly love it?

I just worry.  Madeleine with it's various spellings has really gaining popularity.  WHen I see another person on the boards naming their child that I get a little jealous, and I feel like it's a huge red flag.

 

war_eagle

I think you both need to love it.  That being said, she may just really look like an Amanda when you see her (I know some don't buy that, but it was true in our case).

izzybella

Don't hate me

We waited until she was born to decide. We couldn't choose between Sarah, Isabella, or Madeline, but when she came out she was definitely a little Maddie!

You might learn to love it, but maybe you can go back to the drawing board? Or just tell YH that since you're the one giving birth you get to pic the name! 

jbyoung

Well, you still have a few more weeks and a few more weeks to find another name if you choose!  But you could always wait and see when she's born what she'll look like.  Both names are sweet.  My cousin's name in Amanda and her nicknames are Mandy, Manda, and even a manda panda thrown in there too.

BrookeNicole09

I think you both need to love it. I still love Seb's name. You are going to have to live with calling her that for the rest of your life; it needs to be something you love, IMO.

We were between Sebastian and Alexander. He is definitely a Sebastian and we knew when he was born, so if she gets here and you tell DH you REALLY want to name her Madeleine, he may give.

leslie13510

I was not in love with the name Riley at first.  That was the only girl name that DH loved and I was neutral about, so we decided to go with that unless we found something we liked better.  I did get to pick her middle name and both of Nathan's names as part of the compromise.  Luckily we both ended up liking both their names.  It probably took me 2-3 months to really start to love "Riley" as a name though... and I think it was only because I started to associate it with her. 

AllThatGlitters101

I think you should love it. You might want to tell your dh how you're feeling and see if you call can find a name that you both love.

There is a girl who posts on the name board who says aloud now she wishes she wouldn't have went with what her husband wanted and every time she looks at their daughter, she thinks of the name that she wanted to use. 

bancbev

I don't think I would be OK with not loving a name.  However I don't have any advice for getting you and your DH on the same page.

Lyssapee

izzybella:

 Or just tell YH that since you're the one giving birth you get to pic the name! 

I did reserve the right to change her name to what ever I want if i push this child out of my vag. 

weelass24

I think you need to love it or pick a new name.  Remember that chick who wanted to change her daughter's name when she was 8 months old because she compromised?  You don't want to be in that position.

Emie28

I cannot help you with how you will feel afterward b/c I don't have any children yet. However, for us, there was no compromising with names. We both needed to love it or we kept looking. I just couldn't imagine naming him something we both didn't love.

danlexi04

I think you should love her name. Maybe wait to decide until she's born and see what name fits her better?

With that said, Austin was a name we both loved from day 1. We then went through about 10 names for Bradley. When I went into labor that had been the last name we discussed and both liked. DH left me in the OR to go with the babies and when they asked what their names were he was like "sh*t we never made Bradley a definite name" but he said Austin and Bradley anyway. He's lucky that I loved the name or I would have killed him!

XXXXX222

I'm usually in the minority with name opinions, but it's just a name.  You're not going to affect your kid's life by choosing the "wrong" name.  Well, unless you name them something really really out there.   Then again, I've never had a kid to name, so maybe I'd feel different if I did.

lo45fd98wq32

I'm a firm believer in naming the baby when you see her

BallSox

I was a samantha all the way to birth.  Then, my mom looked at me and couldn't picture people calling me "sam". 

Then she decided to call me ballsox.  

roshybride

I wasn't completely sold on Ezra's name until he was born. DH loved it though and I liked it. We had not decided until a middle name until he was born. Once he came out, I knew he was Ezra Jacob (instead of Ezra David, which what we were planning on pre-labor).  And once I could associated him with his name, I completely loved it.

Manalyzer

Addy was Anna up until a few weeks (about the time you are now) before she was born and I had a dream about the name Adelyn. DH and I discussed it, and while he was dead.set. on Anna, I told him I'd like to wait until she was born to fully commit.

She came out and I looked at her and she stared up at me, and I knew I was looking at Addy, and not Anna.

And let me tell you, homegirl has lived up to her name. She definitely has an "Addy"tude.

firsttogo

You both need to love it!

It will happen. We had not decided on Lincoln's name until we met him! 

greenclown

We haven't even named our dog yet because we haven't found a name we both love.  You definitely need to love her name.  I'd keep searching for something you both love.

charlies-angel

DH and I are still struggling to come up with a name that we agree on. In the end, I honestly don't know how we are going to pick a name that we both love. I think one of us is going to end up just liking the name, because there is no one name that we both love. We have really different tastes in names.