does it get easier?

magdusia

please tell me this gets easier? i'm not even at work yet but the nanny is downstairs with my baby and i'm upstairs pumping away. I miss my time with him!!!!!  if i'm like this now, how the hell am i going to make it at work?

 

::i got a mac so i can't do that crying smily, but if i could, there would be a 20 of them right here::  

curlilocks1207

On the whole, yes I think it does get easier, but I still have hard and tearful days. I just have to keep reminding myself that I have given this a lot of thought and made the best decision for LO, myself, and our family in general. ((Hugs)) to you Momma.

aglenn

I agree with the prior poster.  It gets easier, but never easy.  And I still have some days where suddenly out of the blue I am a mess....but it is not every day, and there are definitely a lot of good things about being back at work, too.  Hang in there! 

Maybride2

It will get easier as long as you allow yourself to let it get easier.

Some women choose to dwell on how miserable they are and how much they miss their child, while some women choose to focus on the positives of being at work and the quality of the time that they spend with their child.

Being upstairs pumping would be harder than being at work, since you don't have anything else to concentrate on/think about.  Once you're back at work, you'll hopefully have more than enough distractions to get you through most days.  And there WILL be positives about it - the ability to go to the bathroom whenever you want and eat a hot lunch at your leisure, nevermind being able to daydream for a few minutes without worry - are all wonderful things that you likely haven't been able to do for the last few months.  Enjoy them.  Know that your baby loves you even if you're not in his face 24/7.  Enjoy having the best of both worlds.

moonfaerie

For me, it got harder. Sorry to say. Everyone was nice to me when I first returned to work, and it was a break from a crying LO all day long. The longer I was back at work, co-workers started returning to their noormal b!tchy selves and I had a refreshed sense of why I hate my job. Paychecks aren't even enough incentive to keep putting myself through this. I can't quit though until we get married and FI can cover us all on insurance.

SeattleMegan

I agree with Maybride - you have to make it positive!  Also, no offense to the other posters but it looks like they all have relatively young kids still.  DD is 1 1/2 and it's much easier to leave her now than it was when she was younger.  She talks about her friends at daycare even before we get there!  Don't get me wrong, there are days that it's tough and I wish I could be home with her but for the most part, I know that this is best for both of us.  And, I don't even really like my job that much

 Good luck!  All of a sudden, one day, you'll realize that you're doing okay - I promise!