So sick of saying, "let go of her"

Littlejen22

Please tell me this gets better.  We are like broken records telling DS to get his hands off his sister.  I try to let them handle things themself but DS just does not stop when DD lets him know she has had too much - either trying to remove his hand or yelling at him (remember she is only 14mos).  He is always pulling on her making her dance or doing other similar things, sitting where she is sitting so that he is practically on her lap, climing on the side of her chair to kiss her when she is eating (yeah, cute but dangerous and annoying), etc.  Nothing works to stop it, not timeouts, not raising my voice.  Ugh, it is going to last until they are 18, isn't it?

AnnapolisLari

As you know, our kids are almost exactly the same age, and they beat the crap out of each other, too.

DD is learning to hit back, which is posing its own issues.

Expecting0207

You are not alone!  DD1 climbs on top of DD2 and puts her in a headlock and pins her down or holds her feet so she can't get away.  Fun times!  I think it's a matter of time until DD2 bites DD1 and then she'll finally learn to stop.  They are only 5-6lbs difference right now so as that physical gap closes I expect DD1 to be 'put in her place' by her sister.

Mrs.Tony

We have the same thing going on in our house but right now it's my DD doing things to my DS. She has this awful habit of putting her arms around his neck. I hate it!

shopgirl78

Mine are the opposite, I have to keep DS from getting all over DD! It is frustrating, eventually (he is 2.5 tho) I just send him to his room/seperate them.  

Mominator

I am in the exact same situation and it is frustrating. DD just doesn't know when enough is enough. I try to tell her that when DS starts to cry that she needs to stop whatever she is doing, but she usually doesn't listen. DD is very aggressive whereas DS is much more laid back and it certainly makes for an interesting dynamic. I hope someone posts here with some advice because I am seriously at a loss.

DandR

I wish I had good news that it ends...but my girls are STILL touchy/grabby/hitty/etc.  It drives.me.nuts.

They share a bedroom.  So they go to get pajamas on or get dressed, things they should be able to do unassisted.  however probably 75% of the time one of them touches the other one and it results in screaming and crying so then I make one of them wait out in the hallway until first one is done. 

I even warn them "get dressed. do it without touching each other." and someone grabs the other one. 

 

Littlejen22

Oh, the picking her up by her neck is the WORST.  And DD does fight back, she will hit him but is is not normally to defend herself but just in the course of playing.  Even when she hits him and he cries that Addie hit him, he does not learn anything from it.  And no matter how tough DD can be, she is only about 21lbs and he is just over 35lbs and much taller.  Ugh!

Of course he is kissing her right now to get out of time-out after hitting her in the head with a plastic "wooden" spoon.  The worst is that I think he tries to be rough but does not seem to really want to hurt her.

neesernicole

this post is so not encouraging! malia is in his face (and I mean IN it) 24/7. i try to let some of it slide if it's not hurting him but what frustrates me the most is her not listening ... like complete, full-on ignoring our voices. i have never repeated her name more than i have now.