I'm a b!tch

butterflidisco

I just spent 2 hours cleaning the kitchen and living room and I left a note to my husband, who went to bed while I cleaned and I'm the sick one, to tell him to take ALL the trash bags out to the garbage and if he didn't then he wasn't to call or text me tomorrow.

Yes I know I'm a b!tch, but he didn't help so bite me lol

burgle

I would do the same thing.  You are setting an expectation and a punishment if he should ignore it.  It is just like training a child lmao.

butterflidisco

He normally cooks dinner but NEVER cleans up and I got fed up with it and we're having someone come over tomorrow and I wanted it to look presentable and yeah, he's an overgrown 5 year old and sometimes it just pisses me off.

burgle

I totally agree.  Sometimes my DH is great, but most of the time he is playing one video game or another.  It is really time to grow up.  We are in the middle of buying a house, we are tight on money, and he goes out and buys a video game tonight.  To that, I say Pfffff.

ttmccoot

your DH really needs a smack tonight, huh?

burgle

I think everyone's DH deserves a smack now and then.

krt100706

burgle:

I think everyone's DH deserves a smack now and then.

I agree with that!

butterflidisco

I want to beat him with an effing stick, yes I get it he works over 40 hours a week then cooks dinner, but I'm home all day with a teething screaming high needs baby, I don't get a lunch break or a potty break. ?I'm so sick of him ? b!tching that he's tired cause god darn it so am I!

burgle

Seriously.  My DH is always complaining that his back hurts, he is tired, this and that.  Well, I carry a 15 pound baby around for half the day and another huge portion is bending over changing diapers!! So my DH doesn't get sexy time unless he helps anymore.

 

butterflidisco

I gave up on asking for help, he thinks helping is sitting next to Cooper watching TV ignoring Cooper while he screams, it isn't worth it anymore, thus the late night bumping, it's the only personal time I get.

burgle

Exactly.  And I bet he wonders why you are tired, after all you are home all day.

butterflidisco

Exactly and I get to "nap when Cooper naps."

Yeah right thats when he is in the moby and I'm attempting laundry, bills, and all the other crap.?

krt100706

My husband does the same thing...."helps" by sitting with DS watching tv.  Can you interact with your son since you only see him for a few hours a day?  I am up late too bumping and such just to get some personal time.  Men just don't get it!

krt100706

burgle:

Seriously.  My DH is always complaining that his back hurts, he is tired, this and that.  Well, I carry a 15 pound baby around for half the day and another huge portion is bending over changing diapers!! So my DH doesn't get sexy time unless he helps anymore.

 

Maybe I should try the no sexy time if he doesn't help more!  He already complains that he doesn't get any but I am too tired since I am home with DS all day long.  Maybe if he helped and was romantic, he would get what he wanted!

butterflidisco

The whole thing pisses me off. ?And to make it worse when he is home he's with his friend, who is our neighbor, I don't have anyone here, they're all in Florida, so I have absolutley zero stress release, he does.

burgle

You have us!! But I do know what you mean.

butterflidisco

I live on this website, most of the time I'm stuck in whatever position I'm in when Pooper falls asleep so my netbook stays near me at all times.

burgle

Nice.  I miss my laptop.

alita1

FWIW i can remember being totally spanked when DS was about 3 months.  he was very needy...  couldnt even set him down for a minute...  but DH does all the cooking and i think it's only fair that i do the clean up........   which i normally do in the morning...    DS is in his play yard which is by the kitchen...  and little by little he became used to the idea of being in his play yard while i did dishes...   it has become our routine now.  i get what youre saying about not having an outlet for yourself...  i still feel this way but i deal with it most of the time...  i have my moments tho.    lately ive been getting out of the house with DS...   riding in the car or strolling around target....  woohoo, fun times  

MrsJenniferS

burgle:

I would do the same thing.  You are setting an expectation and a punishment if he should ignore it.  It is just like training a child lmao.

This exactly. He needs to be trained. Put him in time out.

MrsJenniferS

butterflidisco:

I live on this website, most of the time I'm stuck in whatever position I'm in when Pooper falls asleep so my netbook stays near me at all times.

LOL at "Pooper."

orleyl

I dont think u are a b*tch, but maybe thats bc I am one too!