What do you think? (long)

thegan

I posted a while back how I'm a bridesmaid and the bride seemed like she was going to be so easy ("Pick any dress that will make you feel comfortable." "This is the closest color in this designer, so we'd go with that.")  She asked my friend and me to go and try on some more dresses and place an order, but she decided to go out of town that weekend.  Even rushed, the almost to $300 dresses will barely make it here in time for alterations because although the date has been set for a year, she waited until last minute. 

The dresses were ordered 3 weeks ago, and since then, I discovered that when she told us they were deciding between 2 places for the wedding (out of town which means I need a hotel, SO needs to put in for a vacation day, etc), and they both had her date, it was a lie.  There are now only 6 weeks until the wedding date she set.  As far as I know, there is no place, there are no invites, but we have dresses ordered.  The other bridesmaid and I have tried contacting her, and she answered a non-wedding related question (will only talk via text), but when anything wedding related is brought up, she won't answer. 

 I don't know what to do.  I have DS's birthday 2 weekends before this wedding is supposed to take place and another out of town wedding a month later.  I didn't want to be in the wedding, but committed because I felt bad (she's lost most of her friends because she doesn't keep in touch/let's her FI kind of control things---she gets up early everyday, including weekend, because of work, but FI likes to sleep in on the weekends, and he doesn't like her to leave the bed before he wakes up, so she lays there for a few hours while he sleeps....ummmm crazy????) 

I feel like it's too late to back out, plus I have a dress ordered that I have to pay for, but what do I do?  I'm sure the wedding isn't happening in 6 weeks, but shouldn't she be keeping us updated on things like that?  I so don't want to deal with this, but I'm stuck.  I wish I would have declined in the first place!

FirefightersBride

this might sound crazy, but take her to small claims court for the $$ for the dress.

seethesmiles

Is it too late to cancel the dress order? I'd call and find out what the policy is. You may have to pay a little to cancel the order but that's better than spending $300 on a dress that it seems like you'll never wear. Sorry, it sounds like a bad situation for everyone involved, including the bride.

rosesandpeonies

seethesmiles:

Is it too late to cancel the dress order? I'd call and find out what the policy is. You may have to pay a little to cancel the order but that's better than spending $300 on a dress that it seems like you'll never wear. Sorry, it sounds like a bad situation for everyone involved, including the bride.

I worked in bridal and most likely since its been ordered...there is nothing you can do.  Sometimes you can just walk away and lose the deposit though.  As for the issue at hand I would actually call her and tell her that you would like to make hotel accomodations but don't know where to make them and ask her for more specifics since you have a child and would like to make some plans accordingly. I would come right out and ask.  After working in bridal you would be amazed how many times crazy things like this happen.  I hope it works out for you.