So, my husband is hiring me help...

LittleMamaB

and I'm having a hard time with it. The thing is, I know I need it. But I'm having a hard time coming to terms with needing help...I feel like I should be able to do the day to day thing on my own. He is hiring a friend's wife to come and help me wrangle the boys three mornings a week. I'm not sure how long we'll have her helping, but for a couple of months at least, I'm sure.

Would you accept help if you were a SAHM who was struggling a ton to keep up?

joy143dh

Yes and I love your husband for doing that for you.

stillhoping

Hell yes and I did have help when my three were young, in fact I still have someone come in once every two weeks for a major clean.

femmegem

I accept help any time, anywhere. I'm often too proud to ask for it but I surely wouldn't turn it down.

DevonPow

YES!!!  Do it! having help doesn't mean you aren't a great mom. IMO it helps you to be a better mom. I have help and I only have one kid!

oparcm

You have three kids and they were born in 07,08 and 10 and you feel bad about getting help?  Noooooooooo, take any help you can get!  I have one dd and I don't have help but if someone offered......I'd so take it. 

jerseysunrays

I think it's great that he's getting you some help.

You just had a baby + you've got two others! Enjoy the extra set of hands!

 I am a SHAM and a lot of weeks I do struggle to get it all done. I'd love help (even if it was just one day for a few hours) but it's not in the budget. 

Littlejen22

OMG, you had 3 kids in less than 2 years 4 months, yes I would accept help.  And I would seriously think you were crazy if you were not struggling at all, dealing with a newborn is a lot of work when you have young kids and I could not imagine having a 1yo and 2yo with a baby.  I give you all the credit in the world and I am sure it is hard to accept help but take it and get to were you do not need it anymore.

heehee611

With 3 boys the ages that yours are, I would absolutely accept the help, and your DH is wonderful for getting it for you!!  My DS is the same age as your oldest, if I remember correctly, and I cannot imagine having 2 more of him, with one being a newborn.  We're TTC #2 right now, and the thought of a newborn and a 3 and 1/3 year old is stressing me out already

JOEBunny

I have a housekeeper and DD goes to school 2 days a week.  It makes our lives better and makes me not feel like a servant.  You have 3 kids, one of whom is a small baby.  I have a herniated disk in my neck. so a lot of cleaning task just are not managable.

lsufan

I hired a babysitter for 2 afternoons a week last summer when Thomas was a newborn, and it was a lifesaver.  He'd take my older two to the park or play at home with them while I ran errands with T or just caught up a bit on housework.  It did seem like a lot of money, but it was so good for my older two to have someone to pay attention to just them.

Accept the help and don't feel guilty! 

knmommy

take it while you can get it, less stress for you makes you a BETTER mom for your kids!  Good for your DH!

REOM

If you can afford it, go for it!

I would willingly accept help, but I wouldn't let it take me into the poor house

melmax

Yes, I think that's great. Please don't feel bad- you are no less of a mother by accepting help!

I'm a SAHM, and I have a sitter 15-20 hours a week. It was MH's idea, (he's not a huge help in the baby stage, great with the toddler) and it's been great for my sanity and my marriage. It's great to be able to grocery shop, do my target runs and go out for lunch with a friend without kids once in a while!

minnasmommy

as long as we could afford it ....absofuckinglutely!

 

AviatorJJ

HOLY crap yes! yes and yes. get some rest, take it easy accept it and hug your hubby.

bugmommy

Um, I had a FT nanny for 6 weeks when my DS#2 was born (c-section) and then for 3 days a week for 6 months.  I still had someone off and on after that until the first started preschool.  I also had a cleaner every other week.  My DH works a lot and I had no family help.  I think it was the best thing I ever did and really allowed me to enjoy #2.  You deserve it.

Yodajo

minnasmommy:

as long as we could afford it ....absofuckinglutely!

 

ditto!

gracendantho26

It would be hard to accept the help but I think you should. I wish I would have been less prideful when the kids were younger and gotten a mothers helper for the first year.

meljas05

I would not only accept it, but I would embrace it like no other.............  I would love something like that!!!!!!!!    (Yes, I'm jealous!)  

Enjoy it, don't at all feel bad about it, be happy that you have that extra set of hands.  That is incredibly awesome for you!!!!!!!!!!  If we had extra $$, I would have done that, and/or hired a cleaning person after my #3 was born in a heartbeat.  

 

penguingrrl

I would absolutely accept help if we could afford it!  And with 3 under 3 I would need it!  My 2 are pretty good kids, but it can get overwhelming!  That's so nice that your husband recognizes how hard you're working!

AZ_Erica

DH has been insisting on hiring a cleaner since I was pregnant with DD.  I finally broke down and let him after Christmas.  It is great.  I still feel a bit guilty because I am capable of cleaning but I really am not good at it nor do I like to do it and the cleaning service has made both of us much happier.

praline

Yes!

shopgirl78

Heck yeah!  What a great husband!  

I am lucky to have one in school- full day and sometimes take my son to MDO to get a break, get things done! 

kittycarr

I'd probably want it but not sure that I'd accept it.  I feel like you do.  There was a time where it was normal to have a house load of kids and the husband was probably gone in the military and the mother managed the household...they did it, why can't we?  My grandmother had five kids and at least 3 or 4 fosters and my grandfather was in the navy and never home.  She had no help.  My ex-husbands brother was in the navy too - he and his wife have four boys all very close in age.  She did it without help.  And so many others do too.  IDK - like I said, I'd want it, probably couldn't accept it feeling there has to be a way for me to handle it somehow no matter how hard it is to do.

MAM1006

YES!  I would take it in a second and NOT feel guilty about it.  especially with 3 kids (but I think it is fine for anyone)...oh, and can I marry your DH????:)