DH helping ?

babyflynn08

Just wondering how much your DH's help around the house and with your DC. I'm trying to figure out if DH's lack of help is laziness or normal.

blueshirt2003

I have to ask specifically if I need help with something around the house. It irks me. Grrr

lawry13

During the work week DH is home with DD 7-10 hours a day while I am at work.  He does everything for her then but the minute I get home and on the weekends he does next to nothing.  He never does household chores and to get him to change a diaper when I am home is like pulling teeth.

babyflynn08

blueshirt2003:

I have to ask specifically if I need help with something around the house. It irks me. Grrr

YES!! Mine is the same way otherwise he does nothing. I feel like I shouldn't always have to ask for him to help out a little.

blos35seed91

My DH helps A LOT with DD when he is home.  During the week, if he's home early enough, he'll do her bedtime routine.  In the mornings, he usually gets up with her and feeds her breakfast before heading out to go to work.  He is the chef in the house, so that means he usually cooks dinner unless we are doing delivery or take-out.  I take care of cleaning and sometimes laundry.  So yes, I have it pretty easy.  It's nice to have a DH who is very hands on! 

MandC17

He helps about 50% with DD when he's home, it's improved a lot as she's gotten older and he understands what she needs now.

As far as stuff around the house, I have to ask. Honestly I'd rather let him watch DD and get the house stuff done myself. It's easier and I know that it's being done the way I want it done.

LittleApple

DH barely changes diapers. If I ask him to, he sulks and whines.  As for household chores, I do all of it.  

He handles the outside stuff like shoveling, mowing the lawn, taking out the garbage and working on renovations.

Such is life. 

betsnup

I'd say DH and I are pretty 50/50 around the house when we are both home.  He probably entertains D more than I do when we are both home while I do more of the housework during that time, but that's not a huge deal because I'm at home with D most days.  There are certain things around the house that I have to ask him to do (the guy has blinders when it comes to dishes!) but overall, he is a huge help and I really can't complain.

candreco

DH is very helpful with DD.  When we're home, we do pretty much all meals and bedtimes together, and he does his fair share of diaper changes, playtime, putting down for naps, etc.  He's less helpful around the house- I have to ask him to do specific tasks, but he's willing to do stuff when I do ask.

Skipperg82

DH and I do pretty much equal when we are both home, and I agree it's gotten easier as DS has gotten older and DH knows what the routine is and what needs to be done.  

He always asks if he can help out with something and is really good about doing the daily things like taking out the trash, wiping down the kitchen, putting dishes away that kind of thing.  (But he's also military and way more anal about cleanliness than I am!)  I know I'm a lucky girl

If you're asking, then it probably means you need the help and you should ask him to step it up.  What if you made a list of things that need to be done, so he has a visual reminder of what to do?  Would that help instead of him waiting around until you told him what to do?

what??

Some men really need to be asked.  I know it sucks but you just have to aks him.  If he is a jerk about it then after you asked for help, that's another issue.

My DH is very helpful around the house and with the kids.  Sometimes I do have to ask him for help and I am fine with that.  Sometimes he sees I am having it rough with both kids and he jumps in.  He is very hands on in the house, cleaning, dishes, dinner and laundry but I am a SAHM so I do most of course because he works a lot.  He is a fireman and they are very domesticated so I do have it lucky there!

ncbelle

With kiddo - a lot.

Around the house - I have to ask most of the time.