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Stupid comment from DH

IDFarmer'sWifeIDFarmer'sWife
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DH & I have an agreement that he will get up with DS in the middle of the night.  I get up to pump and then go back to bed so that I can get a little more sleep.  DS typically goes to sleep around 11 PM, and then wakes up around 1 or 2 AM.  Well last night DS woke up at 1 and fussed for a bit and then went back to sleep until 3.  I told DH to get up with him (He doesn't wake up, I have to wake him up).

He fought me for a bit (like he always does) and then finally got up.  As he got out of bed he was like, "Ugh, DS learn to sleep through the night!"  I told him be glad he went back to sleep at 1!  Then the stupid comment came, "Well maybe you should "fix" your milk so that he will sleep through the night!"  Ugh, not sure what you mean by that and I'm pretty sure it isn't possible to "fix" my milk to make him sleep through the night, it will come with time.

He should be glad DS is sleeping as long as he is, it could be much worse!  I can't imagine how he would handle it if DS (knock on wood) had colic!

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  • SaranJonathanSaranJonathan member

    Does he know that breastfed babies digest quicker than FF? But its easier on their GI track. Plus all other benefits!!

    What does he mean by fix? My LO cluster feeds (by my choice) before bed and she sleeps 4-5 hrs.. I usally wake up VERY full. Can you cluster DS and see if it helps him sleep longer?

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  • IDFarmer'sWifeIDFarmer'sWife

    I've tried to explain it to him, but he doesn't understand.  I have no idea what he means by fix, I don't try to understand his logic some times.

    As for cluster feeding, DS won't nurse when he doesn't want to, even if I put him to the boob he will cry and push away if he isn't hungry, so that isn't an option.  Thanks for the suggestion though!

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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member

    Maybe every once in awhile you can get up with DS? I would imagine it's hard for him to be the only one trying to calm DS back to sleep every single night.

    I'd love to just get up, feed and fall back asleep. But it wouldn't be fair to ask DH to always be the one to take care of DS.

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  • IDFarmer'sWifeIDFarmer'sWife
    imageMrsRebecca:

    Maybe every once in awhile you can get up with DS? I would imagine it's hard for him to be the only one trying to calm DS back to sleep every single night.

    I'd love to just get up, feed and fall back asleep. But it wouldn't be fair to ask DH to always be the one to take care of DS.

    I do get up with DS once in awhile and this only seems to make DH fight with me more about getting up with him the next night. He tries to tell me that all I do is sit around and nap all day, he doesn't understand that I need sleep too and taking care of DS is a full time job.

    Plus it isn't like DS is screaming when DH gets up with him.  He gets up, gives him a bottle of BM and then DS is back asleep.

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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member
    imageIDFarmer'sWife:
    imageMrsRebecca:

    Maybe every once in awhile you can get up with DS? I would imagine it's hard for him to be the only one trying to calm DS back to sleep every single night.

    I'd love to just get up, feed and fall back asleep. But it wouldn't be fair to ask DH to always be the one to take care of DS.

    I do get up with DS once in awhile and this only seems to make DH fight with me more about getting up with him the next night. He tries to tell me that all I do is sit around and nap all day, he doesn't understand that I need sleep too and taking care of DS is a full time job.

    Plus it isn't like DS is screaming when DH gets up with him.  He gets up, gives him a bottle of BM and then DS is back asleep.

    I guess I just look at it differently since my son is still so young that he often doesn't just fall back asleep. If DS fell right back asleep I guess it would be different.

    Also because I am a SAHM I don't mind getting up because I can nap during the day when DS naps, but DH has to go to work and be able to function. 

    So to me, it makes more sense for me to get up.

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