XP: So much advice...so confusing!

mkincaid

XP from breastfeeding.

Alright.

I am starting to get overwhelmed with all the advice being given (and me reading!) on parenting methods and breastfeeding.  Now I feel like I am constantly battling myself on how good of a parent I am, and EVERY person I talk to has a different opinion for EVERYTHING. 

DD was getting really gassy and fussy and it was terrible for a few days and so I called the pedi...and the nurse told me I was feeding her too much and causing her upset stomach. Now, at our one week appt, the pedi had told me to feed on demand.  DD is four weeks now, and the nurse said I should be trying to space her feedings out every 3-4 hours, and only feed 8 mins on the first side and 12 on the second.  DD was sometimes feeding for an hour, and sometimes nursing every hour or so, and not ever really napping, since she was attached all day. 

Anyway, I tried that yesterday, and for most of the day it seemed to work...and she napped.  But in the evening she was SUPER fussy, and making all the open-mouthed hunger signs.  The nurse told me that crying doesn't mean hunger all the time, nor does the latch-y mouth look...I am just confused as to when I should feed her based on her cues now.  And, how long do you all feed on each side?  How do I know when to increase the time? 

Argh! This is so hard sometimes!!!

mkincaid

Thanks for the reassuring reply.