Please tell me that someday, she will sleep on her own.

Tonya_G

Since sleeping in the crib is a no-go, I tried nursing her down tonight in "her bed"- read, our bed, then once she was out, move her to the co-sleeper. Got her moved, she was still sound asleep... hung around about 5 more minutes to make sure. The second I walked out the door, she woke up again... I waited, to see if she'd fuss back to sleep... of course not. UGH! I know she's a newborn, but seriously, DS was not like this. He did not have to be touching me to fall asleep. I am feeling like a shitty mother tonight because I am so frustrated with this, that I'm almost angry with her. I know she needs me, and she's just a baby and can't control what she needs, but I really do just want an hour apart from her, where DH and I can reconnect and wind down at the end of the day. Is that too much to ask?

Mommieof2soon2b3

I have no advice, but just wanted to say that you are not alone. My ds is like this and he "has" to sleep with me everynight, and "has" to be held all day too. I am ebf and that alone is demanding but he is a very demanding baby. I love him but it's tough. I have 2 other children and they we the exact opposite, they never wanted to sleep with me. I would love to hear suggestions on what to do.  

Tonya_G

fredalina:

i promise you that someday, before she graduates from high school (unless she's an amazing prodigy), she will sleep on her own.

LOL- I told this to DH tonight as I passed her off to him (he wore her down, and she's currently sleeping on him for a change...) that she'd be 18 before she'd finally sleep on her own. God help me if I really did have to wait until she graduated from HS.

cindy453

Tonya_G:

fredalina:

i promise you that someday, before she graduates from high school (unless she's an amazing prodigy), she will sleep on her own.

LOL- I told this to DH tonight as I passed her off to him (he wore her down, and she's currently sleeping on him for a change...) that she'd be 18 before she'd finally sleep on her own. God help me if I really did have to wait until she graduated from HS.

I don't think they make teenage sized carriers. Although, perhaps a leash might be nice.  

mrstice

"This too shall pass.....this too shall pass..." = your motto.

It WILL get better! And then you'll get all nostalgic, "oh, remember when she used to insist on sleeping on us?"

At least that's how I am. DS refused to sleep anywhere away from us for the first six months. He now sleeps amazingly well in his crib.

Tonya_G

cindy453:

Tonya_G:

fredalina:

i promise you that someday, before she graduates from high school (unless she's an amazing prodigy), she will sleep on her own.

LOL- I told this to DH tonight as I passed her off to him (he wore her down, and she's currently sleeping on him for a change...) that she'd be 18 before she'd finally sleep on her own. God help me if I really did have to wait until she graduated from HS.

I don't think they make teenage sized carriers. Although, perhaps a leash might be nice.  

Yes, I'm sure Daddy will be investing in a leash. He's already threatened to borrow his dad's rifle and clean it when her first date comes to pick her up. He's a goober.

WyoGal

If it gives you any hope, when M was that age I could have written your exact post.  I promise it will get better.  No telling when, but it definitely will.  I'm still shocked every time I finish nursing, do a few quick bounces to the crib, put M down and he doesn't immediately wake up.  I thought we'd never get here.

cindy453

fredalina:

Seriously, it does get better.  Little by little, it gets better. 

this is so, so true. Emerson was SO high needs and SO fussy from 3 weeks until... hmm 3.5-4 months? It slowly got better and better, and better. She still doesn't STTN or nap well, but she is just... happier. She plays on the floor with toys, she crawls, it's great. At 3 months I don't think I even liked being a mother- I felt she was NEVER happy, and I could never do anything right. Now she's a super happy baby and rarely cries. It gets better!  

Tonya_G

cindy453:

fredalina:

Seriously, it does get better.  Little by little, it gets better. 

this is so, so true. Emerson was SO high needs and SO fussy from 3 weeks until... hmm 3.5-4 months? It slowly got better and better, and better. She still doesn't STTN or nap well, but she is just... happier. She plays on the floor with toys, she crawls, it's great. At 3 months I don't think I even liked being a mother- I felt she was NEVER happy, and I could never do anything right. Now she's a super happy baby and rarely cries. It gets better!  

This is exactly how I feel. She's gotten happier since we've figured out the whole dairy allergy issue, but good Lord she is a needy baby. Thanks ladies for the support and encouragement.

cubits

I could have written this too.  I just felt so touched out.  But now that I am starting to see the fruits of my labour its getting better

babydragonsister

My little one is the same way...what has worked the last couple of days is that once he's sleeping and tranferred into the co-sleeper, I hang out for about 10 minutes b/c I KNOW he's going to wake up...when he starts to stir, I stick my face next to his so when he moves around he bumps up against me like he would if we were sleeping together in bed.  It's MAGIC.  Immediately after he bumps up against me, he settles right back down and goes right back to sleep.  (Instead of screaming bloody murder and taking another hour to get him calmed down, which was the MO before....)  Hope it works for you....GL!

Lady Galadriel

I keep telling myself that someday I'll miss this time. Then figure when we move out on our own and dd has a chance to have her own Montessori safe room with mattress on the ground that she will be happier to be free and roam and play instead of caged in a crib.

It gives me hope to day dream about it, lol. Till then I am grateful for the 11pm bedtime I have wiggled out of her instead of 1am.

Angela814

It so hard in the beginning. DD actually started sleeping pretty well around 3-4 months. It got to the point where I could put her down in the crib awake at night, and she would go right to sleep. She still woke at least once a night and came into bed with us at that point. Now she's the kid who can't sleep unless she's touching someone. I gave up trying to get her to sleep in her own bed. I just got tired of falling asleep in a twin bed every night and waking up all sore since we don't fit in it all that well. She just sleeps with us, although she has told me multiple times that when she's 4, she will sleep in her own bed.

shainababygirl

Tonya_G:

cindy453:

Tonya_G:

fredalina:

i promise you that someday, before she graduates from high school (unless she's an amazing prodigy), she will sleep on her own.

LOL- I told this to DH tonight as I passed her off to him (he wore her down, and she's currently sleeping on him for a change...) that she'd be 18 before she'd finally sleep on her own. God help me if I really did have to wait until she graduated from HS.

I don't think they make teenage sized carriers. Although, perhaps a leash might be nice.  

Yes, I'm sure Daddy will be investing in a leash. He's already threatened to borrow his dad's rifle and clean it when her first date comes to pick her up. He's a goober.

 My dad and my husband will have an array of rifles, shotguns, etc on the kitchen table when she has her first (or any) dates. Plus, she has 3 older nephews who will probably pitch in.

I feel for her, I really do. LOL

webMistress0609

Ari had to sleep on me until he was about 4 months old. Not next to me. On me. Either on my chest or we'd sleep side by side facing each other - he'd be cradled in my arms & keep scooting closer & closer until we were touching noses & he would put his hand up on my face. When I think about it now I'm like "oh how sweet is was", at the time I was thinking "holy crap kid can I even pee by myself?"

We actually had a couple of days where it was like this again recently. All part of separation anxiety kicking in I'm sure, but he was over it in about 2-3 days.